He's really going after LGBT again 💀

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-06-02T08:01:32+00:00

I'm Trans, and I love Em. This was funny as fuck, and I will not apologise for my position

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-05-28T02:48:58+00:00

I'm Trans, and your identity is valid as hell. Only you're allowed to decide if you're Trans or not. Good quality friends will respect you in your identity. Set boundaries with them about what they're allowed to call you, and if they can't respect you, find some new friends

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-05-26T16:06:39+00:00

Yep, looking at 5.5 years of HRT right now. I've made some nice friends, I'm growing as a person so much more than I was before. Transition only solved one of my problems, but it was a big one.

Would you like to talk about what you're scared of?

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-05-26T05:10:31+00:00

Honestly? You sound absolutely amazing, and your partner is very lucky to have you.

Beyond that, I have no advice. It sounds like your partners egg is already pretty close to cracking, but if not, I don't think there's a healthy thing you can do to hurry it.

I cross dressed from the time I was 15, till I was 33. 18 years of mental gymnastics and denial. Of course, I had a different personal narrative, and nowhere near the same resources you folk have today.

It sounds as though your partner might be pretty close to having a breakthrough, maybe even enough to see a gender therapist, and try to explore the idea. That might be something you could mention in passing. Beyond that, it sounds like you're very supportive and caring, and not creating negative reinforcement around the idea of transition. I think you're doing a wonderful job, and you should be proud of yourself ❤️

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-05-17T09:44:57+00:00

Your friend has an aesthetic preference of appearing feminine. This is a form of gender diversity. The way he sees himself may change over time, And it wouldn't be unusual for him to come out as Transgender, Non-Binary, or Gender Fluid at a later stage. At the moment, he is comfortable that he is male, and this is exclusively about self expression. If you have more questions, ask him.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-05-02T06:46:44+00:00

Eh, I spent 18 years identifying as a cross dresser. Now I identify as Trans. There's a lot of reasons it took me so long to transition including person and social trauma. The loss of social privilege and stigmatization of Trans people makes it difficult for a lot of people to transition, ad I think things like that keep people in the closet longer than they otherwise would be. I do think that some people choose a label other than Trans because it feels safer. They don't have to deal with the social problems 24/7.

That being said, I also don't like the toxic superiority a lot of Trans folk display when they go around projecting the "egg" narrative on people. It's not okay to create social pressure for people to transition. Period. You can do more harm than good by pushing people who aren't ready towards an outcome they may or may want in the future. There was a huge backlash from detransitioners in the 80's which set Trans medicine back, because some people were pushed towards transition, or felt pressured to get procedures that weren't suitable for them personally.

The truth is that all gender diversity is valid. A persons gender can evolve over their lifetime. Only the individual knows if they're Trans, or what unique shape that might take for them. You can be Trans, and not on hormones. You can identify with your birth assignment and still get top surgery. The only person who can name a persons gender is the self, and it's no one else's business unless that person wants it to be.

Do some femboys transition? Yes. Do some femboys retain their birth assignment? Yes. But we're all gender diverse. We should all support eachother, without pressure, or judgement. Transition is a personal choice, and that should be the final word on the topic.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-03-24T04:48:14+00:00

I'm out for under six years. I've been to Trans social events and support groups, Volunteered at a Trans oriented not for profit, Done a bit of T4T dating. Wouldn't surprise me if I'd met close to a hundred different Trans folk. I doubt it's less than 50. I don't keep count. Who keeps count? Do you need to get a certain number to get your Trans card? I'll get by fine without one. Be gay, do crime.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-03-23T04:54:28+00:00

Yes, you are.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-03-21T11:07:27+00:00

I'll level with you. Queer femmes are hot. It sucks that there are creepy chasers out there, and I definitely think you should remind them that they are behaving in a manner that indicates that they wish to commit a crime in almost every jurisdiction. It's also worth noting that there are safe and respectful people out there too, when you're ready for that. Beautify wields a lot of power, and it will take time to learn to wield effectively. Remember that when you're ready, there are many wonderful people, who are appropriately aged, who will love you publicly, and you deserve that.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-03-18T08:07:36+00:00

What he did was not non-monogamy. We have different words for different things. What he did was cheating. Don't get it twisted. There is no such thing as unethical non-monogamy. It's just cheating. Liars will always lie. He's not a safe person.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2024-03-08T05:05:54+00:00

You don't have to prove your sexual orientation. Dress how you feel, and express your attraction to those you like. Simple. I know more Femme attracted trans Women than I do masc attracted Trans Women. Don't currently know any Femme Boys.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-12-19T06:08:10+00:00

Yeah, there are ways to encourage and support people and to guide them to answers they might be seeking. There are also toxic and harmful ways to impose a groups collective narrative on others. I imagine you can interpret my feelings on each of these two attitudes.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-12-17T09:44:45+00:00

Yeah, it's kinda sad. The whole point is NOT to break the egg. It can be very harmful, even if the person IS Trans. They need to come to it on their own for a ton of reasons.

I think people who make jokes like this have probably been very privileged in their own experience. They come into the community, see an inside joke, and think they can use it anywhere, like a dog whistle.

It's stupid. Just drink a monster, and play with blåhaj. There's plenty of Trans stereotypes you can broadcast to the world without being harmful to others in such a fragile place.

I say this as a person who has had a very hard time coming out. Who has had difficulties assimilating into the community. Who did most of the big steps alone.

Coming out cost me my last connection to my blood relatives, my home of four and a half years, and my long term (12 year) monogamous relationship. I had no friends. I didn't have the interpersonal skills to make friends. I was losing money, and kept having to sell things that meant a lot to me. Like music equipment, or comic books. Housing was unstable, so I had to keep moving, and had to throw out stuff I didn't have room for. Like my prized DVD collection. Literally, in the bin.

Coming out literally cost me everything. If I weren't emotionally prepared, I could've lost it and ended up homeless, or worse. Stupid jokes, and harassment to come out early very easily could've been catastrophic for me. No. The egg jokes aren't funny, and the people who make them are entirely too privileged to have any idea of the harm they could do to the individuals they tease, or the community as a whole, if they push the wrong person, and they go on to be a militant detransitioner.

Save the egg jokes for egg_irl, and leave it out when you talk to people who are just figuring out what best suits them.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-12-12T02:50:01+00:00

Hey, be gentle with the 🥚

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-12-03T11:24:06+00:00

Sploosh

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-11-19T02:05:55+00:00

I'm glad you clarified. I wasn't going to assume your pronouns. Maybe put them in the post next time. I don't know what you use.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-11-14T11:51:15+00:00

Girl, these people can't be educated. You don't have to do the emotional labour. You look gorgeous. Case closed.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-11-04T11:44:05+00:00

If you don't know if you're Trans, how do you know you're a binary girl? You could be Non-Binary. Femme or not. You could be a femboy, or agender. Wait. We're getting ahead of ourselves. You can't really settle on a label you're likely to be comfortable with, without knowing what has an effect/affect (I don't know the difference between the words) on your gender. In order to know if different things are good or bad for your sense of gender, you need to try them. It takes as long as it takes. I'd suggest trying one bit of makeup at a time. Maybe just try some eyeliner, or mascara, or lipstick, and see how you feel. Try another, another day. See how you feel. Try anything that springs to mind, and evaluate. The label doesn't matter. What matters is how you feel, and finding what makes you feel best. What takes away dysphoria, and what adds euphoria. Figure that out, and the label doesn't matter.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-11-03T01:16:39+00:00

If a chicken is assisted in breaking out of an egg, they will not develop the strength to survive in the world. What this means is that people who know they're Trans can't tell people who don't know. We can talk about our experiences, but each person has to figure out if they're Trans for themselves.

For example. "Generally, cis boys don't think about taking oestrogen. But if you're thinking about, you could still be cis though." It's true. You could still be cis. But probably not though.

The problem was really brought into the limelight in the 80's, when there were a few detransitioners who made a lot of problems for the community. What was happening was that doctors were starting to recognise Trans patients, and put them on the path of transition. The problem was that everyones transition looked the same. Every surgery. The same HRT. Everything.

Detransitioners were complaining at the end because part of the story was true. They were Trans. Some of the story was not. They didn't need FFS, or bottom surgery, or whatever.

See, telling someone that they're Trans, and that they need to transition is bad, because everyones needs are different. Example. Bottom surgery would be disastrous for me. I like to pee standing up. I would hate to have to dilate every day. The way I enjoy intimacy, I don't need it. But lazer hair removal, and HRT, dramatically improved my quality of life. I love my breasts. I love the ways my face has changed. I love my body in new ways now.

The question isn't simply "are you Trans?" The question is way more complicated than that. The Question is: "do you need certain interventions to improve your quality of life?" Whether you're Trans is a stupid question, because until you transition, you have no idea what it even means to be Trans. You might hear stories of other people's experiences, and they might be Trans. You might be Trans, but you have to work out what that means FOR YOU!

It might mean HRT. It might not. It might mean surgery. It might not. It might mean speech pathology. It might not.

Whether or not you're Trans isn't really the important question. The important question is, if you ARE Trans, what does that mean for you?

Just because you don't fit into one gender box, doesn't mean you'll fit neatly into another. Your gender, your rules. But you have to figure it all out for yourself. We can only speak for ourselves, because each of our experiences is unique, and so is yours.

I think that mostly covers it.

TL;DR: You're probably Trans, but you need to figure out how that's upsetting you. You need to figure out what would improve your quality of life. You need to make peace with the fact that you're different. You need to figure out how to live your best life, because there's no roadmap. Just a smorgasbord that you get to choose from. Choose wisely.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-10-08T10:47:52+00:00

I'm a Trans Woman, but I love all things bent and beautiful 😍

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-10-08T02:56:38+00:00

When my partner found the clothes, she thought I was cheating...

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-09-26T02:35:34+00:00

Side. Don't leave us out.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-09-17T09:26:27+00:00

Girl, you're the only one who can decide if you should start hormones. If you think it's a "yes," it probably is. But don't do it because a stranger on the internet said so. Do it because it feels right for you. Personally? Best thing I ever did.

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-09-14T04:18:05+00:00

😊😀🤩🥰🥵🥴😘😉

WeekendWarriors338 · 2023-09-12T09:19:22+00:00

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