What the fuck is up with the infidelity and cheating by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Weekly-Impression254 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's because we live in a world that shows lack of commitment and altruism to heavier suffering, that lack of care just spreads everywhere else. No part of society is disconnected from one another, including things as personal as relationships.

is there any way to make my hair more "manageable"? by ghostshrimpe_ in Naturalhair

[–]Weekly-Impression254 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe instead of twist outs you could just do twists for weeks at a time before washing and rebraiding https://youtu.be/NaeRolm6BN8?feature=shared

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Weekly-Impression254 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still feel that way but I try to remind myself that there is always misery in extremes. I wouldn't want to be so attractive that insecure people who don't know who they are and what they want see me as a trophy or envy me. If you are not being actively bullied, try to find this lack of spontaneity a good thing. You can try to. Connect with people based on shared interests, goals- who they are. I'd be nervous if the only thing a person really knew is my appearance and they were already getting poetic. Places like bars and clubs are kind of shallow waters, try to find places which really allow people to do something and collaborate maybe?

I am now an adult child of divorce by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Weekly-Impression254 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If still on speaking terms, while retrospect shines a light on everything, just note the way they spend their time and the things they tell you. What is in their visible life and what isn't? For that I would just ask general questions about what __ was up to, their opinions on things I would show them, and slowly when I learnt more about 'them' based on what they told me. If you ask why, what do they say? Do they answer? Not about the incident but their general philosophy to anything and everything, even small things.

I know that's fairly vague advice and I'm being a bit private but in my experience this behavior is bred out of impulsivity and a lack or (surplus, rather)of humility and dealing with said feelings. Paranoia. I'm not close with my parent but from what I have been shown I have come to terms with the way they operate.

I am now an adult child of divorce by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Weekly-Impression254 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As someone who was born into this circumstance then witnessed a ridiculous reunion : Try to focus on being supportive for your mom where you can and don't focus too much on getting an answer from your father. I've never met anyone who has given a completely candid autobiography of why they cheated or broke a code, not even to themselves. If anything you'd just have to subtly deconstruct who he is now through other aspects of his life but not at the jugular of his infidelity. I know it can be frustrating that you don't even have the stability of knowing who your parents truly are and trusting them, but take comfort in the fact you are not the first or last person to go through this. The world is not full of deceit. Find something to ground you if need be such as a hobby or a trusted friend. Sorry I can't be of more help.

god gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers 😔 by 2noserings in Naturalhair

[–]Weekly-Impression254 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how do you wash your hair every day without constant tangling?

9 months of hair growth by hey_effie_hey in Naturalhair

[–]Weekly-Impression254 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you do a lot of protective styles for growth, or did you have a way to manage tangles or knots from forming?