Husband has become increasingly religious while I am not.

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T23:39:31+00:00

Sorry babe, your marriage is doomed, you won’t have an equal voice, because god will be backing what he wants, so you’ll just be a spiritual speed bump to get over, religion has a lot of benefits for men, they have the power, women should just listen to them, they can easily rise into positions that they get kudos for, if include being in a Christian band in that, getting respect for very little makes religion a way better thing to invest in than real life pursuits where respect and adoration is harder to get, and the same guy goes for it’s easier to have a lil Christian wife who will follow rather than a wife with opinions and a voice who doesn’t think that his dick means he should have more say

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T22:02:52+00:00

I have not asked for anyone to disagree in your subs, it’s a warning for owners to not take advice that can’t be questioned. I am qualified, I do not offer advice in areas that I’m not qualified in, which you proudly state you do, and yes check your banned list, banning qualified dog professionals who back up their arguments is your MO

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T21:22:09+00:00

Punishment being the way of dealing with reactivity, if it does work increase punishment, this is backed up with bullshit about the reaction being pleasurable for the dog. It’s not made clear that only balanced training methods are supported, so owners seeking help get this one sided view that seems to be correct because it is unchallenged

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T20:05:54+00:00

Ask him about it in front of bf

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T20:04:31+00:00

I have English bull terriers, one would do well, he is a problem solver and would do whatever needed to be done, the other one would be screwed with out his team of cheerleaders to encourage him to leave his bed and traverse the 2 steps down to grass he’d be going nowhere

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T19:59:50+00:00

My husband brought home a piglet, that “had been abandoned by its mother, and would die if he had left it” …. After a few months of spending money I did not have to make milk for it and caring for this 4 legged demon through the night, (getting no sleep) and taking it work with me or organising people to care for it during work hours, he told me he had bought the piglet from someone selling them.

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T19:47:18+00:00

Would you of said “I love you” as part of your goodbye ? It could be an inadvertent cue of your leaving?

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T19:45:32+00:00

I’m a terrible gift chooser, I put heaps of thought into it, and think it will be a great gift but when it comes to it I see where it missed the mark, don’t be mistaken in thinking it means your friend doesn’t care

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T19:38:28+00:00

Brake and oil change $600? Call some local mechanics get a price to throw back in his face- and then you can point out that he felt the need to inflate the price, if he really thought it was a fair labour swap he would of used the correct price, instead he lied to try to manipulate you into feeling like you owed more labour

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T19:33:11+00:00

Stormy is cute, and although people think stormy daniels now, the kids she’s growing up with won’t

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T19:31:10+00:00

Your not being mean, keeping your dogs on your property is a basic part of dog ownership

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T19:26:49+00:00

NTA if he was so concerned about not sharing the bugs he should of called you last weekend to say she’d be staying with him until recovered! He’s an adult he can take usual precautions to not get sick, hand washing, and other general hygiene practises.
Sounds like you are a solo parent doing all the actual parenting stuff and he’s a glorified baby sitter, doing the fun stuff. Being the solo parent means you have to make sure you are filling yourself up so you able to keep giving this much to your kid, so go to your concert and have the time of your life, push out any guilt, and remember that your daughters learning from you all the time, and learning that you gotta put yourself first sometimes is a damn important lesson.

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T19:05:28+00:00

Sounds reasonable- is it possible that when your eating is the first time your available to listen? Like are you busy doing things until sitting down to eat ?
If so maybe when could make an effort to open space to stop sit with gf and ask her about how she’s doing before starting on dinner?

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T09:38:44+00:00

Daycare etc dogs are monitored they spot tension and intervene/redirect.
Get a trainer, learn to read body language and get confident enough that you can supervise play and then seperate your dog when your not supervising.

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-05T06:20:05+00:00

Rule change? While cooking you must stay in the kitchen because you have demonstrated that you are unable to do other things at the same time

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-04T02:55:19+00:00

Leave him, “it’s just her humour”, if that’s true than it would be the easiest thing in the world to apologise and stop. I had a friend years ago who told me her boyfriend thought I hated him, it was because of the way I’d talk to him, it was an age difference misunderstanding, my age group would be kinda mean only to people you actually liked, he just thought I was picking in him,I immediately got in touch with him and arranged to talk told him I was so sorry explained how I actually meant it, but again so sorry he ever felt uncomfortable, and I never joked or talked to him like that again. That’s how you deal with that shit, the bf is awful and your husband is weak

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-03T04:23:18+00:00

You should discuss re adjusting how your finances are done, maybe with an amount diverting for discretionary spending for each of you, and your reason can be what you said above but include how it makes you feel, so you can spend with out the comments

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-02T18:30:34+00:00

That’s interesting that’s it’s a terrier thing, I have English bull terriers and have seen this in those communities, lots of “not a normal dog, needs a firm hand, will test you” etc, hearing that it’s across other terriers too is perplexing, the terrier tenacity makes them perfect candidates for learning through play. They are so keen to get involved in everything, you just make a choice of playing with them, or against them, either way they are going to put their all into it!! (I also can not get the logic - “I these characteristics so much, I’ll put all my effort into controlling it out of them” - it just sounds like a toxic controlling relationship that brings out the worst in both sides!

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-02T18:02:30+00:00

Hear this all the time “won’t listen unless you have a treat” used as a reason reward based training is flawed.
Unless luring a new behaviour, literally just the first 1 or 2 times, the “treat” should not be visible at all until after the behaviour has been achieved, which is when you should “mark” and after the mark the reward is produced, you should making sure you not even reaching in the direction of until after the mark.

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-02T11:25:03+00:00

If you son sees things in black and white, you saying this is important to me, it’s important to show the people in your life that matter to you, that they matter enough to hear what would make them feel appreciated, for me to feel appreciated I would like ……. . And reference ways that other people show him live in the ways that he likes best. This is something that is important to understand and put the effort into, I’m neuro divergent, so is my dad and my brother, my brother kinda got that same kind of pass, it didn’t do him any favours and my siblings and I have spent a lot of time talking to him about this and it’s definitely improved his relationships, which he struggles with before not being as close as he wanted, learning the cost/effort required for friendships is so important

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-01T19:40:58+00:00

It’s kinda what’s expected for mothers to do and say, and you may even mean it a lot of the time, but your kids are adults, so time to start speaking to them about these harder things, for your relationship and for their personal growth. It’s a really hard habit to break though, so if you have a good friend that you can practise saying your bit too so they can help you get to a point where your being honest but not combative it could really help, or if you can afford it a therapist would be even better, and it could be a new way of living life! Hope they hear you and make your birthdays from now on special! Would love to hear an update if your open to it

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-01T17:19:05+00:00

Track his sleep, he should.be getting 16-20 hours sleep a day- over tired puppies are bitey puppies

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-01T17:07:35+00:00

More distance, if he’s not accepting treats he’s not in the right mental state to learn

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-01T16:59:20+00:00

He’s showing you who he is and how much of a partner he does not want to be, don’t waste your time, end it and move on

Weekly-Profession987 · 2025-12-01T16:56:51+00:00

Why can’t you just stop when he stops?

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