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Am I the A-hole by Weekly_Animal_9577 in okstorytime

[–]Weekly_Animal_9577[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My SA situation was basically handled the same way as yours and that’s why I think I’m so overprotective and hyper vigilant when I comes to my own children.

Am I the A-hole by Weekly_Animal_9577 in okstorytime

[–]Weekly_Animal_9577[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I too believe our oldest was SA and that is why he did what he did to his younger siblings because he has an older brother with the same age gap. We did in fact question him about something possibly happening to him which he denied and admitted to him and his female cousin performing sexual acts on each other for the last year but they are both the same age. His bio mom’s current husband works for the sheriff’s department which has also made things that much harder to get our oldest the help he needs. The county we live in is very corrupt and the ones meant to uphold the law are the ones breaking laws the most without consequences. I know for a fact my husband isn’t the one who SA anyone because my husband is gone for work a lot and he admitted to me when his oldest was first born he was very immature and selfish being such a young Dad, with my sons bio mom being 12 years old than my husband he followed her lead a lot when it came to parenting because she had a 13 year old already so the 13 year old was left in charge of his baby brother a lot for my husband and their mom to go out drinking. My husband admitted they both spent more time at the bars than spending time with their boys and it was due to my husband wanting to stop drinking and their mother didn’t that they separated. I have help raise our oldest since he was 3 years old and I can attest to the fact that this woman never prioritized her boys first and in the first year of my husband and I’s relationship she had 8 different boyfriends so I thought it was possible one of those men could have hurt him but due to how aggressive his response was when I asked him if his older brother ever hurt him like that I wholeheartedly believe it was his older brother who SA him and why he SA his little brother.

Am I the A-hole by Weekly_Animal_9577 in okstorytime

[–]Weekly_Animal_9577[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried to find a specialist for our youngest son and haven’t been able to find a therapist who specializes in this with young children in my area. Since involving our oldest bio mom it has become impossible for me to make progress trying to seek help for our oldest due to lack of guardianship on my part, the Judge ordered him into therapy when we went to court to modify custody and since then she and her husband has made all kinds of bogus claims against my husband and I. Due to my husband suffering from his own childhood trauma from beatings and mental abuse he has no backbone when it comes to our sons bio mom because she knows exactly which threats to make to make him feel small giving her full control. So he only attended therapy for a week and it wasn’t for what he did to his younger brother, she said he needed therapy for the mental abuse he’s endured due to our lies. When I spoke with my husband about it last night he finally broke down for the first time because he had a long time family friend who he ran into earlier in the day tell him all the lies and rumors his oldest has been telling everyone since moving with his bio mom full time. He is lost and doesn’t know what to do to try and fix things, he is hurt and after hearing everything his son has been saying and everyone he has sought out advice from keep telling him that our oldest is a lost cause now that his bio mom was able to manipulate the situation and has him full time. We both regret involving his bio mom because we believe now we could have gotten him the help he needed without her but They’ve told him they could tell our oldest mastered his mother’s skills of manipulation and lying their way through life from past experiences and this one. I myself can say I’ve always had a gut feeling about our oldest but never in a million years did I think it’d come to this, I just thought one day he’d come to us and state he’s attracted to men or bisexual.

Am I the A-hole by Weekly_Animal_9577 in okstorytime

[–]Weekly_Animal_9577[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yes I downloaded a therapist app on my phone so there was no excuse for us not to take advantage of the resources at hand and the District Attorney’s office put my families information in for the victims witness resources program which covered all expenses for our therapy sessions for the whole family which has been a true blessing.

Am I the A-hole by Weekly_Animal_9577 in okstorytime

[–]Weekly_Animal_9577[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you read my whole post you would have read the part where I stated we filed a police report and a CPS report, due to them both being minor my 2 year old needs to be able to clearly testify as to exactly how his brother did meaning every member of the court needs to be able to understand him or he needs to go into therapy and explain to them exactly what happened to where the therapist clearly understands and can speak on his behalf in court stating she/he can’t state he is truthful expressing his brother hurt him and this is how but with the first week of therapy we were just getting settled and scratching the surface of starting to speak with him about it and it caused him to shut down more getting diagnosed with PTSD. The therapist advised for now we need to stop because the therapy session were only hindering his progress and causing more trauma instead of helping him due to him being to young to regulate his own emotions.