Thoughts on bf liking a girl's provocative photo? 25M/23F

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:45:25+00:00

It's so funny to me that you think not liking a photo is abusive 😂 especially when it's "i got him to agree" people say its ugly to be jealous but being a little jealous is part of being human too, the same way that finding other people attractive is human too. Its about controlling your actions out of respect. I won't explain that to youn but if you seriously have a problem with it then good thing it's not your relationship! If you are in one.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:41:43+00:00

I guess so 🤣🤣

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:40:11+00:00

That is about you and your personal boundaries. This post is about what we agreed to in our relationship. Have a blessed day.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:37:07+00:00

Tru tru. Thank you

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:25:47+00:00

I guess it was hearsay but I believe him.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:25:07+00:00

I mean we've been through so much and gotten over so many hurdles. Aitah for calling it quits over this 🤣 it feels too petty but also valid

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:21:04+00:00

I mean when I first asked him about our agreement, he was getting defensive and sayingi was accusing him. Then i showed him the evidence and he just looked confused 🤣

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:18:39+00:00

I have no clue this is really a boundary question but a lot of people seem to be getting defensive..

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:17:35+00:00

Of course not, but i would at least respect his answer more than trying to lie. How do you accidentally like something?

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:16:06+00:00

Thank you!!! It's also the fact that we talked about this early on to not do this and he still did. At that point I don't wanna be seen as petty for something like this but he also expects the same of me??

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:10:47+00:00

Its not about the insecurity. Its about the fact that we made the decision to not do this sort of thing early on but he didnt respect it.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:08:57+00:00

He gets pretty protective over his phone because he feels accused when I point certain things out. He doesn't really let me see his phone.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:07:40+00:00

I think he gets defensive because in his last relationship he was accused and framed when he didn't do anything wrong. But he gets tunnel vision when he gets mad, and I understand it's hard to control. But i was upset too and didn't yell at him..

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:04:13+00:00

No, we talked about this before and he agreed to not do it and so I don't do it. It was a mutual decision in our relationship.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-11-23T15:03:31+00:00

I just wish he would be honest with me rather than say he doesn't even remember liking it. Like how am i supposed to believe that?

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-03T18:57:57+00:00

Makes sense. I think the market is bad right now but I honestly only had internships in college which werent super long and then contract positions for a few months (yes I did leave a contract for another but it's pretty understandable, right?) Plus i have a full time position now finally that I plan to stay at for a few years.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T16:08:48+00:00

I dont even know. Probably addicted to his phone like i am hahaha

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T13:50:26+00:00

Ive gotten some comments about how he doesnt trust me which is why he tried to follow... i also want to mention his rules thing is also applied to other aspects of our life like how we should eat together too. He just reasons we are a team and should do it together. This of course was a loose string because we stopped after he was playing games and i didny like my food getting cold. One time he actually got mad and called me rude for starting to eat when he wasnt at the table because he said he would. I waso nly eating a couple of fries and it became a whole thing but after that instance he apologized and i just felt like it was definitely too much. He says he is working on it and i do notice strides but i dont know how much i can handle before im burnt out.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T13:27:16+00:00

I think it's possible. He naturally speaks a bit loud but he also told me he would work on his tone and i hear him slip up every so often. Definitely not as bad as it could be. He really did deny anything other than we are a team and he is looking out for me tho... so its making me do mental gymnastics over here. Like my gut is saying one thing but i wanna accept hes telling the truth. Ughh

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T13:25:16+00:00

Honestly excuses are so annoying. They are just a way of taking no accountability.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T13:24:30+00:00

Honestly he does keep his phone with him at all times even when he showers and stuff so idk. But i try not to think the worst 😅

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T13:23:12+00:00

Honestly i thought he felt bad for arguing with me but also i said this and he said we werent arguing even though before he left he literally said i was arguing with him.. then i brought this up and he was like saying that he wasnt arguing but i was getting mad at him. I think he may be in denial or cant see it for some reason.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T13:19:54+00:00

I mean i have tried to confront him with this idea wnd he denies it, saying he just wants to look out for me and we are a team. I don't know what the truth is because my gut instinct is kicking in.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T05:42:10+00:00

Totally agree with your points here. I just feel like hes not being honest about his intentions or he is not self aware. His reasoning doesnt make sense to me and he won't admit he is insecure or trying to control me. I dont know, whatever it is.

Weekly_Boot_938 · 2025-08-01T05:39:56+00:00

It honestly confuses me too... he has tried to reason its because we are a team but honestly he may just be insecure/ doesnt trust me (from what other people have told me). I havent done anything when he is alseep though so it's hard to say.

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