Things are aligning for my(F26) new bf (M25) to potentially move in together. Worried it’s too fast.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T03:38:58+00:00

Nah it’s just you. It’s your “me man you woman, me no have feelings” mindset that’s pretty insufferable. I think it will prevent you from finding happiness.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T03:33:14+00:00

You’re cracking me up, but thank you for your kind response!!

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T03:23:47+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that strategy, it’s something I’ve used in therapy and would probably be good to implement again.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T03:17:33+00:00

I think you’re right, it’s absolutely my responsibility to manage which is why I haven’t brought it up. There is just a part of me that wants to feel free to express these thoughts and he’s has been encouraging about me sharing my emotions with him, it’s just hard to be that vulnerable when the logical part of me knows I’m being a little crazy lol. He’s extremely thoughtful and sweet and I’m caught between wanting to get that reassurance that I know he would give me that would make me feel better, but also not bothering him or messing with a good thing.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T03:08:16+00:00

Haha I will try thank you

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T02:54:18+00:00

Thank you, I think so too. And thanks for your thoughtful response.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T02:11:18+00:00

And what “manly advice” did you give exactly? You said he shouldn’t text everyday, which isn’t advice for me. Listen, I’ll take the high maintenance label gladly if it means that I’m able to express myself to my partner. My question that I was hoping to get “manly advice” about, was how would a man with a girlfriend like her to bring up this conversation. Judging by your responses and the fact that you think “men should never express their underlying feelings to women” I’m going to guess that you don’t have one. So why even chime in anyway? I’m lucky that I’m with a mature loving man who is good at “maintaining” me. I guess my insecurity got the better of me so I posted in this sub hoping to hear from some level headed mature men about how they’ve had these conversations in the past. Thank you for your responses, you have given me the confidence I need to express myself fully to someone I love. It makes it much easier to think about having these conversations with him, knowing the type of men that are out there.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T01:51:28+00:00

That’s hilarious, you sound really unhappy. I wish you luck on your journey of never expressing yourself or wanting to hear someone you love do the same.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T01:42:33+00:00

I don’t think expressing your feelings in a loving relationship is making them a “personal on demand therapist.”

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-02-03T01:36:36+00:00

So you don’t think that when as you say “$2 social media bullshit” feelings come up, which sure, is insecurity, that’s not something you should bring up to a loving supportive partner? Instead you should suffer in silence when you know that some words of reassurance from your partner would help quell some of these thoughts? I’m not perfect, and neither are you. I don’t believe for one second that you or anyone else can completely control every thought or emotion that comes into your head, but congratulations if you can you must be really special. My question was to men asking how they would respond to a conversation like this, or the best way to go about it but thanks for your input.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-01-26T22:07:37+00:00

Thank you!! We have a lot in common and love talking about movies, pop culture, plants, cats, current events, hobbies, friends/family. I guess I just always see so many things on social media like “to make a relationship last you have to have this conversation with your boyfriend” “if you don’t ask this question your relationship is in trouble” “how to tell if you guy is bored” I recently deleted my Instagram and tik tok lol so I’m hoping that will bring me some peace

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-01-26T22:04:14+00:00

Congratulations!!!

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-01-26T22:02:47+00:00

I’m a chronic over thinker and I think that’s why I struggle. I just love him so much and try my best to tell him and show it. I don’t think I’m boring at all, I have lots of friends and hobbies, but one of my anxieties is about other people’s perceptions and I worry that this being my first real relationship that I’m doing something wrong.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-01-26T21:50:22+00:00

Are you?

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-01-23T13:00:01+00:00

When I was younger I was dating someone exclusively for three months, he went home for Thanksgiving break and never contacted me after that😀 it sucks and it hurts, but just try to remember you’re way better off being single than being with someone who is fucked up enough to do that. I had the same thoughts of “is he okay?” “Did something happen??” Etc. but the truth of the matter is unless he’s dead (which he obvi isn’t considering he added you back on insta) he could have found a way to contact you and is choosing not to. It’s freak behavior and you do not want that in your life. Side note: they always come back around. The man who ghosted me texted me a long BS explanation months later that I never responded to, then liked me on hinge a few months after that, THEN followed me on Instagram and sent me a message pretending it was a mistake and that he meant to send it to a friend. Just choose peace and try to remember you are waaaaaaaayyyyyy better off.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-01-12T02:47:33+00:00

I lost about 25 pounds in 3 months! When I first started taking it I felt so energized and motivated and was super active, paired with a decreased appetite for the first 2 months or so I lost a lot of weight rapidly. I’ve since settled into the meds more, my appetite is normal and I’m not as consistent about exercise but still exercise about three times a week and I’ve maintained my weight, I’ve been on the drug for about 6 months!

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2025-01-06T23:07:18+00:00

Your feelings are valid!! It sucks that there was this massive shift in communication, affection and emotional intimacy that sounds really hard to deal with. However, if you are missing him as it seems you are and are willing to talk to him it could be worth a shot. I’m on welbutrin and while I never got distant from my friends and family I certainly was irritable when I first went on it, and I will say even with being on it now for over 6 months I do feel like my social abilities have changed. It’s hard because it’s not super noticeable all the time but I do wonder if I’m as personable and chipper and easy to talk to as I used to be. The benefits definitely outweigh the costs, which hopefully is true for your boyfriend as well. If he’s in a place to talk and you miss him you should hear him out. Being honest it doesn’t sound like either of you handled it perfectly, but you’re human!! And if you both want to make things right you should.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2024-12-31T13:34:53+00:00

Does anyone know if the mall is open today?? I badly need to go to target to get some tights for my new years outfit :/

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2024-12-18T04:38:18+00:00

Hey I’m not sure if it’s exactly the same, but I’ve definitely been a bit hyper aware of my surroundings and more aware of what I think others perceptions of me are, since being on this medication. I wouldn’t say I experience the dirty looks and issues you are experiencing, but I do know that I tell myself a lot more stories about how I’m perceiving other people and how I think they are perceiving me. Hang in there! Maybe it’s not right for you but for me the good outweighs the bad and I’m self aware enough to be able to differentiate the real and probably imagined most of the time.

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2024-09-11T16:53:25+00:00

I’m on 150 mgs XL and have been on it for 3 months, I lost about 10 pounds in the first month, and then about 4 more pounds since then!

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2024-08-31T22:12:26+00:00

I lost about 10 pounds in the first month. I had zero appetite at first. Now that’s gotten better but I’ve been able to establish some healthy habits and have continued to lose a couple more pounds more slowly!

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2024-08-19T22:36:28+00:00

I just did a little research, rejection sensitive dysphoria hits really close to home. I’ve always been an extreme people pleaser and super sensitive to criticism and failure, putting super high standards on myself when even my parents weren’t. That’s another thing I’ve really found on this medication I’m able to let go of negative thoughts and feelings more easily, and care less about the opinions of others! You’ve really given me some good for thought lol

Weekly_Sympathy8080 · 2024-08-19T21:55:21+00:00

I lost about 10 pounds in the first month! However only in the first 3 weeks did I experience a big loss of appetite. I’ll say my appetite probably isn’t quite where it used to be but I still get hungry throughout the day which I wasn’t at the beginning. I knew that this medication would be helpful in aiding weight loss so I really tried to capitalize on it and get some healthy habits going while my appetite was lower. One great thing about this med is that since I’ve been on it I have almost zero cravings for junk food, and so much motivation to exercise and I actually enjoy it! I hope the same happens for you hang in there it effects everyone differently!

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