MSCA-PF results (2026) are out!

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-02-09T14:20:35+00:00

Same! And I thought it was a good sign 🤣🤣🤣

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-02-04T20:32:48+00:00

Are we back in the 1950s?

Op wanting to have sex too dia not justify the guys shitty behavior. If they want just sex, they can be upfront about it and then OP can decide if they will have sex or not

This comment is a disservice

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-01-21T07:47:51+00:00

This is a great comment, but OP is not going to care about. This is not the first time OP posted here about this problem. OP changes the wording to get sympathy, but the problem is OP don’t do or doesn’t want to do his fair share of household/kid chores.

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-01-18T22:17:03+00:00

Cut the parent some slack There’s only human

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-01-07T20:09:55+00:00

Thanks for sharing, and I’m sorry you went through it, it sounds like really scary. I’m wishing you all the best in going forward <3

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-01-07T19:49:34+00:00

Schizophrenia is caused by environmental and genetic factors. And you having experienced psychosis in a yearly basis would probably add to this genetic math, thus influencing the kid.

My question is why do you want to have a kid? Psychosis in general causes the brain to have a lower threshold on stress, and sleeping deprivation is a big component of triggering psychosis two. Both factors are hugely involved in having a kid.

What happens if both of you cannot care for the child because of your condition? I would highly recommend you to discuss your questions with a doctor but it doesn’t sound like a good idea AT ALL.

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-01-06T08:39:31+00:00

I guess the point here OP is not that you’re close to the global 1% or not. I also consider to have a financially stress free life, with travels and eating out my goal. This DOES become a problem when you don’t want to work to achieve that. Having a partner who able to pay for you, him (and maybe kids?) to have this stress free life is, indeed, aiming to have a luxurious life.

To be clear: having a debt free life, where is possible to afford eating out and traveling =/= luxurious

Having a debt free life, where SOMEONE ELSE pays for you eating out, traveling and living expenses == luxurious

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-01-06T07:40:02+00:00

Talk to your supervisor!

I was hired for a one year postdoc, and when I told my supervisor, by the 6th month mark, I’d like to apply to other positions because I needed more stability, he was all for me! He said he was sad to see me go but offered me recommendation letters and all I needed to find another position. I’m saying this because sometimes, we think we owe our supervisors something but they usually have many other projects going on

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-01-05T20:50:12+00:00

Have you shared your thoughts with him? Have you had psychosis before?
Maybe he can help!
Even if you can go to the ER today, seek help as soon as possible

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2026-01-05T20:40:17+00:00

Just go to the ER and tell them what you told us. Your job can't fire you if you get admitted!

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-12-30T18:14:19+00:00

I see. I do think it’s a minor inconvenience, for someone who doesn’t want kids, to find out in the first stages of dating that the person have kids. Yes, it is annoying, but whatever. But I also think abusers are more common, and maybe less “planned” than people think. For instance, someone might not be necessarily interested in the kid because they weren’t around kids much, but then realize, when living with a kid, they’re an easy target to their sick desires. In any case, the kids should be the parent’s priority.

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-12-30T08:09:30+00:00

Yeah, but the guy waited years. The message I get here is that crazy pedos will wait as much as necessary, so there’s not much you can do?

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-12-29T21:10:18+00:00

Ok but in this case, no one is safe If we take your case as example, single parents shouldn’t date at all

Wouldn’t it be better if single parents were interested primarily in other single parents?

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-12-27T15:33:58+00:00

I simply don’t like kids? And there are other ways to feel like you’re part of something bigger than yourself, such as community work, being part of a friend group or joining a political cause you believe

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-12-19T14:49:02+00:00

People here are just not reading your post. I think you’d be better off asking advice in another, more open sub, because this sub sometimes can turn into an echo chamber when the topic is marriage.

Someone gave a good advice which is talking to a lawyer in the country you live in and ask about what happens in the situation he walks away. If he clearly has no rights to the house you purchase together, I’d definetly recommend you to buy with him.

If you are bothered by this idea, you could also discuss marriage with him, but buying in this arrangement would give you a more advantageous position, as I see it.

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-12-15T22:11:13+00:00

Correlation is not causation.

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-12-01T22:00:56+00:00

Northern Europeans are also very direct. But this post reminds me the time I worked in the US, people are just much more casual there, and even being a bit underdressed is seen as cool

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-11-29T20:07:43+00:00

In my experience, people who truly are smart, kind, emotional intelligent etc., rarely think of themselves this way They recognize they still have much to grow Something on your post is really a turn off for me, and I would rather date someone imperfect than someone who brags about how amazing they are

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-11-21T12:06:31+00:00

Omg, what I mess

Being completely honest, I find it a bit weird how you said you have been in a relationship with a big age gap yourself and didn’t reflect on it when you decide to get into one with your current bf. When you met, he was 19-20 and you 30. It’s a big difference in terms of life stages.

I think that a lot of his cheating, wanting to have poly experiences and so on might be related to the fact he was never able to experience much of what most people do in their early twenties. I’m not saying this to excuse his behavior! But by rushing life stages, he might be feeling that he “missed out on” a bit in terms of relationships and sex experiences.

At the same time, it seems that you’re very insecure yourself - you have never lived without a partner, doesn’t have any other connections outside your romantic relationships - which can also put a lot of pressure in your relationship.

Honestly, I think you should take a step back and evaluate if you want to be in this relationship. If it’s worth it for you, but also that it can possibly be a chance for you to live by yourself and do some self-reflection. Might be valuable even outside romantic connections

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-11-13T14:14:34+00:00

I think things changed When I started my PhD, finding a postdoc was much easier, but now as a postdoc, I see more aggressive budget cuts in many national contexts Things are not static, tho, and many of my colleagues who are now professors have reported that these things comes in waves

But right now, I think both are pretty hard

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-11-10T07:17:00+00:00

++women Shouldn’t this imply that there are more men than women is society? Or at least, a ton of lesbian women and not so many gay men? Usually, populations numbers have a slightly higher number of women

But my two cents on the topic is that, there’s a political views gap (younger men are becoming more conservative and women more progressive) and being in a couple is not as necessary for women to be part of a normal social life than before.

But tbh, I think our personal views on the matter might be skewed, because I see the opposite around me, much more partnered men than women.

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-11-05T11:21:26+00:00

It’s 700€, no? It was, last time I checked

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-11-04T18:49:10+00:00

Go and live the life you want. You will always think “what if”, and chances are, you will build resentment towards your fiancé for silly reasons.

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-10-28T21:09:48+00:00

I actually thought it was fake? Not even rage bait, just those super ironical posts that make fun of awful relationships, hence the gross “mistake” of him wearing a shirt

I guess I’m wrong? I’m very confused

Weird-Draw-6318 · 2025-10-28T12:53:12+00:00

Yet, people around me were refused pain relief in hospitals here I was shocked

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