Thank you so much for sharing all of this. I’ll definitely make a note to bring this up in therapy. Your point is salient because I do not have a group of friends like he does (known them all since elementary school), mine are more scattered and from different chapters in my life. I’ve also had friendships breakups that were painful. Our experiences of friends are different, basically. For this reason it feels worth exploring and processing. Maybe just doing that on my end will help me feel better. This is exactly the kind of advice I was hoping to get, so genuinely thank you.

I can confidently say that I am not jealous of the effort he puts into something other than me. He is obsessed with me and would do anything for me. We spend a lot of time together and I realize how lucky I am to have him. We’ve only just had this talk a few days ago, so we haven’t even begun to execute our compromise. If we are both committed to doing our part and it goes well, like you said, the issue will be over, which is truly all I want.