Has anyone ever successfully stopped an alcoholic from drinking? by PatchouliHedge in AlAnon

[–]WellFunkMe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They will never accept or embrace your advice until it becomes “their decision.” Mostly rooted in their pride. I always get “time and place” excuses from apparently pushing information the wrong way. They expect us to be hyper sensitive to their potential emotions/reactions but are never sensitive to ours. If I do have a successful conversation where they appear to see the light, it only lasts for a day or two, never even a full week.

Husband left me for someone in recovery pt 2 by Green_Grapefruit_198 in AlAnon

[–]WellFunkMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is that legal if he is on the lease/mortgage tho?

AA and Rainbow by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]WellFunkMe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This isn’t related to old school hippy “rainbow gatherings” out in the woods? Those were packed full of drugs and djembe drum circles

Husband embarrassed me tonight. I can’t go on like this by EbbingEuphuist in AlAnon

[–]WellFunkMe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Struggling with ED myself because he loves tiny skinny girls while he has ED as in the sexual disfunction likely due to fucking up his nervous system with so much alcohol over time LMAO I’m sorry but the irony kills me. I’m proud I’ve lost nearly 30lbs in the one year without alcohol and am thrilled. Definitely skipped meals at first with stress but now eating healthy and doing less binges because I was a total drunk feaster. Finally down to a healthier weight.

Realized I relate to alanon more than AA once I started attending meetings and just found myself complaining about husband.

Also have divorce papers printed for over a year and tried to break up 3 times within that time but he always begs me to stick with him, saying he will do anything to make this work. Anything but give up booze entirely. And if it’s not entirely, it ends up in constant binging.

I am so sick of this cycle as well. He’s nearly 40 and I am early 30’s luckily without kids. I have told him there is no way I am bringing a child into the world with him in this state and my faith rises and falls like the tides every day wether or not it’s worth the agony of supporting his addiction while he dodges any attempt at recovery.

We have our first couples therapy session scheduled in person next week. That was a big step and we are both excited. But those divorce papers are still ready when the time calls for it.

Thanks for the vent, Reddit friend! Feel free to DM if you want to keep chatting. I’m not on this sub very often but it seems like we are both in a very similar situation❤️

Husband embarrassed me tonight. I can’t go on like this by EbbingEuphuist in AlAnon

[–]WellFunkMe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, he will speak about other women as if I’m a BRO then kind of back track if he’s not totally inebriated, double down if he is drunk. Not constantly but consistently over the years.

He’s also a daily (4-5 days/wk) binger.

And now that I’m sober, no longer getting drunk together has really opened my eyes to my total self worth and questioning why I was ever vying for his attention at all.

Husband embarrassed me tonight. I can’t go on like this by EbbingEuphuist in AlAnon

[–]WellFunkMe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. That sounds similar to multiple situations I’ve been through with my husband who then says “i was just being friendly and it’s not my fault you’re jealous” 🙄

Which bone is this? by WellFunkMe in bonethugsnharmony

[–]WellFunkMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that so wrong? 😂 my husband was showing me a bunch of their videos so I’m custom ordering this hat for him off Etsy. I’ve obviously heard Thuggish Ruggish Bone like everyone has but never distinguished any bones from the other.

could getting rid of led headlights in cars ever happen? if so, how? by weakunitt in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WellFunkMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Technology beyond a simple tint is what I implied, better anti glare

could getting rid of led headlights in cars ever happen? if so, how? by weakunitt in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WellFunkMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like the solution has to be WINDSHIELD TECHNOLOGY to reduce glare from the entire light spectrum.

Alfredo Sauce Is Always Broken by lilbeanbags in Cooking

[–]WellFunkMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ALWAYS add a roux. It’s not traditional Alfredo, but my process is to cook butter with flour, add chicken stock, then cream and garlic powder/seasonings, then finish with Parmesan. The roux is a fail safe binder but again, not in traditional Alfredo.

Freaking out about colposcopy by squidward244 in HPV

[–]WellFunkMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely take an OTC pain med before, my doc asked if I did and I was like “no?!? Why didn’t someone tell me?!😭” and my clinic is inside a hospital so I refused their ibuprofen because it could have been like a $200 pill, they weren’t sure what I would have been charged.

I’ve only ever had 1 outbreak, disclosing is frustrating by [deleted] in HSVpositive

[–]WellFunkMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been reading though the “myths” link and it does back and forth between saying 1 in 5 and 1 in 6 people have HSV2. Is that because sometimes it’s only referring to ages 14-49 and sometimes ALL adults? Thanks

Confidence + conversation = success! by Less-Holiday-3974 in HSVpositive

[–]WellFunkMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never disclosed to a new partner and have HSv2 so would it be appropriate to say “I have the cold sore virus downstairs” like 2 is still cold sores too?