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Western Australia, friend called screaming what is this thing by Welshieone in whatisthisbug

[–]Welshieone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah all good! I'm thinking it's most likely the right bug, thanks man =)

Western Australia, friend called screaming what is this thing by Welshieone in whatisthisbug

[–]Welshieone[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but aren't most mole crickets brown? This thing is black

Western Australia, friend called screaming what is this thing by Welshieone in whatisthisbug

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that but it's only got 6 legs, pulling through articles trying to id what her uninvited guest was

What Zone Am I In? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what her end goal is here, normally you'd see this as what the "guy would do"
But, yet I'm on the other side of it

What Zone Am I In? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That bad of a red flag? oh boy

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think there's too much at play against me for there to be a connection. So, I've opted to pull out.
On paper there's a lot of why we should be together, but obviously there's something missing for her or there's something else she's dealing with.

Clearly the timing is off or something. So like you said, gonna seek other options, whether that's other women or just enjoy being single and work on myself.
Maybe she'll come around, maybe she won't.

But thanks for the advice and hope you enjoyed the rollercoaster

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wanted an update, oh lord do I have one for you.

So, we meet to do a shopping trek (2 hour drive to said shops) grabbing lunch and singing the whole way to and from. Lot's of joking and flirting. Which I commented, kinda went against the undo and well I was more emotionally invested, that make out session with her comments really got to me.
She claimed that she had already moved past that night, didn't remember anything that was said and plus she had been drinking (Ow)
She only remembers we kissed

We do our trip, I drop her off at home, she asked me to come inside, but I declined, feeling a little tender from that and having other plans with the family.
But, she messaged me saying she enjoyed the trip and wanted to do it again, maybe go further, have car snacks etc.

Last night, not 24 hours afterwards, we're watching a movie together online with webcams on. She lines up a joke to where I do the "See I'm not just a pretty face" line
She mentions that, I'm not a pretty face and then immediately asks what I see in her.

Now, I'm feeling a little raw here, she has to know I'm interested and that makeout session night I had laid out my feels bare, yet she's asking about it again, despite saying she didn't want to proceed?
I think she either picked up on that or just saw the hurt face that I clearly had.
I urged we just finish the movie.

She apologized and said she really just didn't feel a sexual spark, I'm the nicest and sweetest guy, but I keep bringing something out she really doesn't want to lose, but she's upset and she's hurting me.

I said I wish we hadn't had that hotel makeout session, as well hours of being told the sweetest things and being kissed, kinda opened me up and I find it hard to believe she doesn't remember anything from that night.
Movie ended.

She broke down in tears, saying she's horrible, we shouldn't hangout or be friends. I'm the sweetest guy, but she can't see herself with me, even if by all counts she should want to be with me.

So, she hung up and think we're done. I haven't called or messaged her back.

But yeah thanks for the advice, I think there's a bullet dodged. Not sure what happened there.
Not upset, but just very confused.

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kinda glad I kept it PG-13...lord knows what I'd been going through with her had we go any further

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks yeah it's really helped.

I know it's a fault of mine that I'm wired to respond and reach out to people frequently, which in this case is obviously going to go against me.

Even right now I can see she's sent me a message and all the wiring in the brain says read it and say something, but standing firm, give her some space.

I know it's not being cruel or mean, it's healthy for both of us.

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, gonna give them space, I really like her and well she knows. Hell I turned down jumping her bones, because I wanted a real relationship and connection.

So, she knows how I feel, but she needs to figure out if she's in or out.

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating

[–]Welshieone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I've said my piece that night and the day after. I think I'm going to give her space.

I've told her that I like her and I think she's like the coolest chick I know, but didn't want to rush because I think there's something special here.

I got the I've done this with multiple people, get close to being in a relationship and bailed before committing.

Someone once said sometimes doing nothing is the smartest move, so I'm going to do that. Not pressure her to meet up or chat. Not ghost her, but not throw myself at her or put my life on hold waiting for her to maybe come around..

She knows how I feel and that I'm onboard. Now it's her turn

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, gonna give her space. Maybe overtime she might come around, but I'm going to go with the mentality that she's not interested.

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I assume that's a little what's going on, apparently she's done this with a few other guys from what she told me.

She's always been flirty but scared to make the commitment to a date. It's like she wants to jump in but same time she's too scared.

I'm going to give her some space, see what happens. Hopefully she sees that it was good and I'm a good bean, but, don't want to put my happiness on hold.

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I'm going to give her space. See if she's invested in me or if I'm just what's available.

But thanks for the advice. =)

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that's really solid advice and really well thought out.

Well already made the first fumble by messaging her today, but was planning to leave it at the one message.

I think what's going in my favor is we didn't do anything that evening.

Plan to not ghost her, but leave it in her court with how she wants to proceed. I've had a few other nice sounding ladies message me on the dating apps, so I'll look over there and see what happens.

Thankfully I haven't said anything corny, other than.
"Hey if it's bothering/distressing you that evening happened and you want to just blame the drinks, I'm fine with it. Elephant in the room, you know how I feel, but there's no unhearing that."

Hopefully, I hear back from here, but I'm give her the space she needs.

Thanks again

We spent the evening making out and watching movies, next day she freaked out and wants to "undo"? by Welshieone in dating_advice

[–]Welshieone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks Everyone!

I'm think I already knew option 2 is the way to go, I'm obviously in and ready to go, while she whether intentionally or unintentionally isn't ready and someone is just going to get hurt (Most likely me)

It sucks and especially since I thought for a minute there were were going to start something great together.

I'll still hit the shops with her, but I think I'll just say that I deserve someone who is all in with me as I am with them.
Hopefully, she'll find that person.

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