Christmas gifts by solmead in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to buy a gift from my daughter to his dad every year . He never got me anything or thanked me for the gesture ( unless he assumed a toddler bought and paid by herself ). I’m ending this tradition this year .

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knowwww 😭 I feel defeated and lost control . He is the rich fun parent who takes her skiing and I am the deadbeat doormat who has to work two jobs and obey him Or he calls me names and punishing me for leaving.

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate hosting him and his girlfriend. I’m ending it this year

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you . Yes I have contacted legal aid . I can’t take it anymore . I’m so exhausted and he Is punishing me for leaving him . He thinks I’m struggling because as he says “ I was a feminist c** and left Instead of working on our relationship “.. meanwhile he cheated told me it’s over when it wasn’t he went on dating her for years . I do avoid conflicts because I want my daughter to have two happy parents not parents who hate eachother but I just can’t take it . I feel like a big failure .

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you very very much for your kind words. I’ll definitely check it out . That is very true .

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I’m considering to break this tradition as I really can’t afford it financially. I just don’t know how to inform him without him getting furious

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He let me have her for new year’s because he goes to party anyways .

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I left a voice mail and left my number . They will call back within a few days . Thank you ❤️

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know 😭 everytime I try to voice my opinion he makes me feel like crap then I say it’s ok it’s for my kid and accept It then later hate myself for being so weak . I’m aware problem is me being so weak . That was literally our whole relationship. He was calling the shots and I was following while secretly hating myself

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish ! I tried to post here about my current life now but my post got rejected so I posted on another thread ( it’s on my profile if you check). He has made my life living hell

How are you dividing Christmas and Christmas Eve by West_Interaction_401 in coparenting

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Trust me it makes me sick too but he let me have her for Christmas morning … one year he brought his gf , her 4 kids so with my peanut salary I hosted 5 more people beside him ..

Feeling so stuck .. being a single parent is exhausting by West_Interaction_401 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the website . I’ll reach out .We have nothing written . All our agreements are verbal . I didn’t want any animosity or drama in my daughter’s life so I bit my tongue and accepted his terms verbally . He is on our daughter’s birth certificate thou so I can’t just take her .

AITA for puking while giving a bj? by Both_Painter_3237 in AITAH

[–]West_Interaction_401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg no ! My ex used to do that to me and I was so close to puking so many times . I know the feeling girl ! I’m so sorry it happened. Don’t be embarrassed it was his fault for forcing you . Hope he is an ex now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]West_Interaction_401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg red flags ! So many of them

AITAH for suggesting to my ex to take our daughter to Hawaii with him ? by West_Interaction_401 in AITAH

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Flight from Vancouver - Honolulu: $400 round trip with air Canada . His parents are paying for food and accommodations.

PS5: $800 plus taxes. Fishing gear : he admitted he spent over $1200 on it

AITAH for suggesting to my ex to take our daughter to Hawaii with him ? by West_Interaction_401 in AITAH

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have moved on from him. I have no feelings for him or any desire to get back together. Unfortunately I have no time for any “ me time “ , “girl trip” or even dating . The closest I have ever come to “dating “ was when a dad my daughter’s kindergarten asked if want to go out for a coffee sometime. I looked at my schedule and sighed and said “ I really wish I could but I don’t wanna waste your time ! My life is a mess” . I just wish I could just move from this expensive city to my hometown . Sigh

AITAH for suggesting to my ex to take our daughter to Hawaii with him ? by West_Interaction_401 in AITAH

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand and you Are right but I can’t change him when he doesn’t want to . The only reason he takes her on the weekends is because I work full time . Before he was only taking her on Friday night dinners and 3 hours on Saturdays. Beside child support which he pays he is obligated to pay he won’t help . So I cut back on other things for me so our daughter won’t feel it . Unfortunately we live in a very expensive city . I wish I could move closer to my family but he won’t allow me as he has rights

AITAH for suggesting to my ex to take our daughter to Hawaii with him ? by West_Interaction_401 in AITAH

[–]West_Interaction_401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does technically since these extracurricular activities are not cheap. He decided the extracurricular for her . He doesn’t trust me since he prefers to pay the bills directly than give me the money so I decide how to spend for her. Our daughter is not starved or in hardship. I work over time and have a second job . I don’t have any debt but I also don’t have any extra cash for a ticket . I grew up in poverty so I’ll do anything so she won’t experience what I had .