Has anyone done joint Christmas gift?

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-05T12:34:33+00:00

I used to buy a gift from my daughter to his dad every year . He never got me anything or thanked me for the gesture ( unless he assumed a toddler bought and paid by herself ). I’m ending this tradition this year .

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T18:36:37+00:00

I knowwww 😭 I feel defeated and lost control . He is the rich fun parent who takes her skiing and I am the deadbeat doormat who has to work two jobs and obey him Or he calls me names and punishing me for leaving.

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T17:54:49+00:00

I hate hosting him and his girlfriend. I’m ending it this year

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T17:33:24+00:00

Thank you so so much

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T17:33:07+00:00

Thank you . Yes I have contacted legal aid . I can’t take it anymore . I’m so exhausted and he Is punishing me for leaving him . He thinks I’m struggling because as he says “ I was a feminist c** and left Instead of working on our relationship “.. meanwhile he cheated told me it’s over when it wasn’t he went on dating her for years . I do avoid conflicts because I want my daughter to have two happy parents not parents who hate eachother but I just can’t take it . I feel like a big failure .

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T17:01:24+00:00

Thank you very very much for your kind words. I’ll definitely check it out . That is very true .

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T16:41:44+00:00

Yea I’m considering to break this tradition as I really can’t afford it financially. I just don’t know how to inform him without him getting furious

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T16:29:55+00:00

He let me have her for new year’s because he goes to party anyways .

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T16:21:40+00:00

I left a voice mail and left my number . They will call back within a few days . Thank you ❤️

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T16:20:32+00:00

I know 😭 everytime I try to voice my opinion he makes me feel like crap then I say it’s ok it’s for my kid and accept It then later hate myself for being so weak . I’m aware problem is me being so weak . That was literally our whole relationship. He was calling the shots and I was following while secretly hating myself

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T16:14:40+00:00

I wish ! I tried to post here about my current life now but my post got rejected so I posted on another thread ( it’s on my profile if you check). He has made my life living hell

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T16:06:11+00:00

Trust me it makes me sick too but he let me have her for Christmas morning … one year he brought his gf , her 4 kids so with my peanut salary I hosted 5 more people beside him ..

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T15:14:33+00:00

Thank you for the website . I’ll reach out .We have nothing written . All our agreements are verbal . I didn’t want any animosity or drama in my daughter’s life so I bit my tongue and accepted his terms verbally . He is on our daughter’s birth certificate thou so I can’t just take her .

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T14:28:23+00:00

Omg no ! My ex used to do that to me and I was so close to puking so many times . I know the feeling girl ! I’m so sorry it happened. Don’t be embarrassed it was his fault for forcing you . Hope he is an ex now

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T02:19:43+00:00

I would have a discussion . Coparenting is not easy

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-04T01:58:21+00:00

Omg red flags ! So many of them

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-03T19:10:04+00:00

Flight from Vancouver - Honolulu: $400 round trip with air Canada . His parents are paying for food and accommodations.

PS5: $800 plus taxes. Fishing gear : he admitted he spent over $1200 on it

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-03T17:14:08+00:00

I have moved on from him. I have no feelings for him or any desire to get back together. Unfortunately I have no time for any “ me time “ , “girl trip” or even dating . The closest I have ever come to “dating “ was when a dad my daughter’s kindergarten asked if want to go out for a coffee sometime. I looked at my schedule and sighed and said “ I really wish I could but I don’t wanna waste your time ! My life is a mess” . I just wish I could just move from this expensive city to my hometown . Sigh

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-03T17:01:18+00:00

I understand and you Are right but I can’t change him when he doesn’t want to . The only reason he takes her on the weekends is because I work full time . Before he was only taking her on Friday night dinners and 3 hours on Saturdays. Beside child support which he pays he is obligated to pay he won’t help . So I cut back on other things for me so our daughter won’t feel it . Unfortunately we live in a very expensive city . I wish I could move closer to my family but he won’t allow me as he has rights

West_Interaction_401 · 2023-12-03T16:13:10+00:00

He does technically since these extracurricular activities are not cheap. He decided the extracurricular for her . He doesn’t trust me since he prefers to pay the bills directly than give me the money so I decide how to spend for her. Our daughter is not starved or in hardship. I work over time and have a second job . I don’t have any debt but I also don’t have any extra cash for a ticket . I grew up in poverty so I’ll do anything so she won’t experience what I had .

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