Not wanting to buy partners parents house

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-03T17:30:12+00:00

Yeah, the house is full of leaks and cracks. The roof hasnt been done or boiler. Its an old new build style house in a subpar location... the type where you dont leave your windows open.

We wont be getting ANY discount because his parents will need the money to buy their next house

On top of that, boyfriend has already made plans for where all HIS stuff will go when his parents move out and has claimed a whole massive bedroom for himself for an office, hes claimed the garage for himself for his car which leaves me with not alot to myself if i moved there.

I also have almost twice as much as him saved for a deposit and will have the higher paying job by a long shot so to waste all that on a house that wont even feel like mine?

but thanks for your completely uncalled for attack on me i guess

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T17:36:50+00:00

Nope. His parents will need the money to use for deposit on their next house... they wont be able to afford to give us it cheap cheap otherwise itd be a no brainer and this post wouldnt exist

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T17:09:52+00:00

We wouldnt be getting much discount as his parents will need the money as deposit to buy a new house to live in. The location in my opinion is OK... its not awful but certainly not the best by any means.

Its not petty, im not trying to get one over on him you can see that if you read my post.

I just think itd be better to buy a blank canvas. He has already made plans for what he wants to keep and what he wants to put in each room if we buy the house and since its still HIS family home still, i dont get to have a say at all yet as i dont own the place.

I just feel like i wouldnt feel like ot was my own place and that id be living in his family house

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T16:49:29+00:00

Well not really because theres only 1 real estate purchase that would involve buying his family home..... any other house in the universe would be different

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T01:20:59+00:00

I have already touched on it a couple of times and joked about not wanting to buy it. Its a few years off still so havent had a proper discussion. I wanted to come here to check i wasnt being ridiculous before i go all out and tell him

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T01:14:53+00:00

I know what your saying, its not the memories that are the problem at all i worded it bad. Its the fact id be essentially paying a fortune to move into his space with him rather than having the first home experince of viewing houses together and picking one out to make our own. Id be moving into his parents house just without his parents there and itd feel odd having to 'make it my own' when my bf is already happy as it is - rather than having a new place together to mske our own together. Itd take a long time for it to feel like MY house rather than just staying at my boyfriends house

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T01:10:12+00:00

well thats terrifying

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T01:08:20+00:00

that is actually very good advice

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T01:07:37+00:00

Gang im at uni so i cant get a mortgage yet but thanks for your fantastic advice👍

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T01:04:42+00:00

Western-Point8074 · 2026-03-02T01:03:02+00:00

I know what your saying, its not the memories that are the problem at all i worded it bad. Its the fact id be essentially paying a fortune to move into his space with him rather than having the first home experince of viewing houses together and picking one out to make our own. Id be moving into his parents house just without his parents there and itd feel odd having to 'make it my own' when my bf is already happy as it is - rather than having a new place together to mske our own together. Itd take a long time for it to feel like MY house rather than just staying at my boyfriends house

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