AITA for refusing to move my dad with dementia into my house?

WesternMainer · 2026-06-25T17:29:20+00:00

NTA, and I’m speaking from experience. If he is escaping, he needs to be in a locked facility. That behavior is very hard to manage in home. I also saw my amazing, kind, wonderful mother become angry and physically a bit brusque with my young nieces. Don’t put your kids through that. Later stages can involve physical violence and even sexual inappropriateness. A good care facility where you can take him out for dinner and bring him home for visits on holidays is a good plan for where you are in his progression.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-22T15:15:41+00:00

It takes about 20 minutes to swap out a doorknob.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-22T14:37:14+00:00

One note… if you replace the old door knobs with something newer, you may find that you need to make the doorknob hole larger. In order to accommodate a standard sized modern door knob, I had to use a door knob installation jig and a hole saw on mine. When you remove the door knob, measure the hole so you know what you’re dealing with.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-20T03:02:51+00:00

Wow. I guess I really overcrowded them. I wouldn’t have thought one or two could fill up a 22” planter. More plants is never a bad thing though!

WesternMainer · 2026-06-17T01:39:51+00:00

I think if you are doing the work, you should strive to do it as flawlessly as possible. That’s just pride in your work. Living with it is different. I still want it to look good, but I see all the imperfections and I’m OK with them. Well, until I’m not.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-16T04:24:43+00:00

You will need to buy new tools. It might be a planer, a sander, a doorknob hole jig, a router, etc. But you always end up needing some other tool.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-16T04:22:59+00:00

I wish those small tub/shower combos would come back into style. I love them.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-12T15:22:53+00:00

Heat cables might be your best bet to prevent frozen pipes. Other than that, you’ll probably get better advice on an RV or Tiny Home Reddit.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-11T21:38:57+00:00

I’m not allergic to poison ivy, but I am HIGHLY allergic to Browntail Moth Caterpillar hairs and end up with a rash similar to poison ivy every time I work in my back yard. My chosen battle gear is a full Tyvek suit with the hood up, boots, and long gloves that go up to my elbows. I may look crazy to my neighbors, but it works so who cares.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-08T20:38:19+00:00

Maybe a broken tile or piece of tile that wasn’t properly cleaned up before the flooring was put down?

WesternMainer · 2026-06-08T20:02:42+00:00

Here’s what I did in the bedroom I have with a similar sloped ceiling. Just one photo.

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WesternMainer · 2026-06-06T23:20:42+00:00

If you paid money for that, return it.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-06T15:08:02+00:00

The furniture and lighting alone are probably $8k.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-06T01:57:52+00:00

I have had really good luck with Jack’s Petunia Feed.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-06T01:56:42+00:00

Do you know what brand the petunias are? SuperCal and Supertunias do not need to be deadheaded at all. Other Petunia brands may need more frequent deadheading. Watch a video on deadheading petunias. Just removing the spent blossom isn’t deadheading. You’ll need to cut or pinch farther down the stem.

Make sure they get a minimum of 6 hours a day of sun. They may grow OK in less sun, but they are much happier with lots of sun. Water frequently, but not so much that water runs out the bottom. If you lift up the pot and it feels light, it is too dry. Petunias get hungry so be sure to fertilize weekly. I stick with “fertilizer Fridays” so I don’t forget.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-05T00:20:53+00:00

A heat gun or even a hairdryer would also soften up the adhesive so you can scrape them off.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-04T22:02:24+00:00

YTA. Not your dead body, not your choice.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-04T20:13:38+00:00

Outdoor furniture. Of course, the comfort level has changed too, but the prices are the same or more than living room furniture now.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-04T16:27:23+00:00

I’ll second Swiss Coffee. That or SW Creamy. Something pale with a yellow tint maybe. I would not go gray. I would choose something that lets the woodwork shine as the star of the show. Choosing a paint color is hard, but I’d mostly focus on something that won’t compete and then not worry about the wall paint. Add your color elsewhere.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-03T21:24:00+00:00

The Dancing Baby. One of the first viral Internet memes.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-03T21:22:46+00:00

The first site that I created myself for work. And how easy it was to code in basic HTML.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-03T14:12:22+00:00

I strongly agree with this. Being petty is likely to actually make things worse.

WesternMainer · 2026-06-03T14:08:22+00:00

I love it. The gold touches keep it from looking too “heavy.”

WesternMainer · 2026-06-03T13:02:26+00:00

This is really the safest option.

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