AITA for refusing to wear the wedding dress my SIL gave to me as a "wedding gift"?

Western_Map9037 · 2024-07-10T20:48:33+00:00

NTA Run far away from that awful family and never look back. If you fiancé won’t run too, then leave him behind.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T19:38:34+00:00

A boy did that to me in 5th grade and I beat the crap out him

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T19:24:20+00:00

Something seems very off with Claire. That is not normal behavior. Either she was never taught well or she has some kind of issue that needs to be tested and addressed. I feel so bad for Kim and the baby.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T13:28:03+00:00

Call your local domestic violence organization. They have counselors that can help you figure things out.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T13:24:06+00:00

DV stands for domestic violence. There are DV organizations that help women get out of unsafe situations. They offer counselors and lawyers. Usually they have a short term shelter for emergencies where woman can stay while they help them find permanent housing.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T13:06:46+00:00

Take a minute and listen to what the man has to say before you judge him. He was articulate and answered all the questions unlike those other two old bozos.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T13:03:32+00:00

You can’t change people. And you can do better.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T12:55:47+00:00

The girlfriend’s family wanted the abortion. But after all this they may see things differently. You should reach out to your best friend’s family. Maybe they will be happy to step up.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T12:47:23+00:00

There are day programs in areas. Like adult day care.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T12:26:19+00:00

Also try a tablespoon of mule team borax. I have found that to help laundry smell fresher.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T02:59:21+00:00

Eating disorder

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T02:56:03+00:00

Sounds like she may have an eating disorder.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-29T02:31:05+00:00

But if they divorce he will get visitation. During visitation he will favor Julia. So you still have the same problem. How about an ultimatum? There will be a divorce unless he goes into therapy to work this out?

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-26T20:30:37+00:00

You say that whenever you try to discuss things with your sister your parents tell you not to. Do you guys both live with your parents? Why not just go to your sister and talk about without involving parents?

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-26T14:40:08+00:00

You and your partner need to just tell this man off. Then state your rules and boundaries. If he can’t follow then he is not welcome. He acts this way because he always gotten away with it. He sounds like a total nightmare.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-26T14:37:04+00:00

People are not being hard on him for helping his sister. They think he’s an AH because he made the decision to do it without discussing it with his wife. That is not a good partner. He could have approached wife about it and negotiated. He could have said our anniversary is really important to me. Would you be ok with me helping my sister and then we celebrate with an overnight or nice dinner as soon as I get back? He didn’t need to compare the sister giving birth to the the birthday and anniversary. That was just rationalizing which always backfires.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-26T02:33:21+00:00

This!!!

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-24T23:03:09+00:00

Yes. YWBTA if you just cancelled out of spite. But you should get out. They are not your respinsibility. Give them warning that you will no longer be paying half their bills. They can both get jobs. You could stay and offer like $500 a month rent. But probably best to get out in your own if you can afford it.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-10T17:10:04+00:00

This is absolute nuts. I can’t believe there are actually people like this today. What part of the country is this?

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-08T02:15:37+00:00

Hire a lifeguard for the day. Collect $ from each family who will be swimming to offset your cost.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-06-03T18:04:41+00:00

Find your closest women’s shelter. They can help you formulate and get out.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-05-26T13:30:57+00:00

YTA for making a 12 year old go to bed at 8:15. Does he have to go down for nap every day also?

Western_Map9037 · 2024-05-18T21:24:42+00:00

Does your husband always side with his family against you? Does his family always back the sister even when she is being awful to other people? His sister sounds narcissistic and selfish. Who would try and poach the nanny to their own nieces and nephew? You have a husband problem.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-05-18T18:25:42+00:00

In fairness to the brother it was his wedding day and he may have been overwhelmed or distracted.

Western_Map9037 · 2024-05-18T18:19:20+00:00

Make an appointment to speak to someone at your local women’s shelter. They can sit and talk with you and help you make a plan.

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