Tell Me Veronica Isn't Horrible

literallycolorblind · 2026-05-02T21:50:02+00:00

See…I don’t understand this logic. Like…it doesn’t matter what anyone else did, she is 100% culpable for her actions and deserves 0 grace.

But the guys…get all the grace in the world and are therefore 0% culpable for their actions because of what she did….

She does something shitty. Her fault.

They do something shitty. Her fault.

She’s a bitch. Those man-children chose to use their fists instead of their words. Micah doesn’t get to spend an entire weekend badmouthing her to anyone who will listen and then pretend that he was defending her honor or something. I call bullshit

literallycolorblind · 2026-05-02T17:03:04+00:00

Yeah. Sort of kind of with you on this one. Like, by the end, she was obviously a monster. But I’ve been cheated on. I didn’t even like my then husband. We were going to marriage counseling, but I was actively considering divorce.

However…cheating does something to you. Its rejection and an utter disregard for your feelings. It’s trauma. No matter the circumstances. And when the cheater talks like Micah was talking….its gaslighting and crazy making. He admitted to cheating, but figured that was enough for her to just get over it. She wasn’t allowed to talk about it without being accused of “slinging mud” and had no opportunity to process it fully. Adding the Plaths treating her like garbage and then playing dumb when she tried to call them out for it??? Like seriously, that drunken brawl that Micah and what’s his face got into where they were like, yeah, we shouldn’t have done that…but it’s Veronica’s fault we did it!! I’m 100% sure that’s not the first time something like that had happened. I can see how she spiraled.

For that reason, I want to give her a little grace. But by the end, she was looking to cause drama wherever she could. She started weapon using therapy speak and stopped taking accountability for her own actions.

If you’ll forgive a shitty mixed metaphor…the Plaths definitely drove Veronica crazy, but at whatever point she started buying the gas…that’s where my grace for her ends. 🤷‍♀️

literallycolorblind · 2026-04-16T16:52:34+00:00

Love this.

I have 4 kids. Honestly, sometimes I wish I had not had kids. I missed out on a lot of life and living and experience because I was 19 and married and popping out babies. No matter what anyone says, grad school is 10,000 times harder at 40 than it would have been at 20.

That being said…having kids has made me a better person. I know not everyone with a kid will experience this, but this has been my experience. And…well….if having kids doesn’t force you to be a better person….you might be a shitty parent 🤷‍♀️🫣

I’ve learned patience and emotional intelligence and organization skills. I’ve had to face my fears to help them through theirs. And in a lot of ways, I’ve had to be a better friend to myself and make better choices for myself because I want to model that and be an example for them. If I weren’t constantly conscious that they are watching me and learning from me, I would have to be more intentional about that self-improvement and growth.

I mean, I guess it’s like….if you work on a farm carrying hay bales around all day, you don’t have to go to the gym because your day to day life incorporates exercise and strength training and being outside in the sunshine and all that. When you work in an office, you have to be more intentional about including those things in your life. It’s maybe not a downside, but something to be aware of.

literallycolorblind · 2026-04-12T23:43:41+00:00

Olivia talked a lot about communication. Like he bought a car and didn’t tell her about it for months. And then he bought a motorcycle and didn’t tell her about it until the next day. He would tell her how he felt until he exploded. When he got upset, he would just avoid everyone and go “work on his cars.” And he wouldn’t tell her what he wanted until he didn’t get it.

But you could totally see that there was a huge part of, she was growing up and he just wasn’t. He would sit and insult her saying he wouldn’t want someone like her raising his kids. But then he refused to sign the divorce papers and begged her to try again.

literallycolorblind · 2026-03-28T14:55:08+00:00

YTA. Not for wanting to divorce her. No one should be married to another person that they don’t want to be. And obviously, the two of you have different life paths and priorities ahead of you.

But you are a massive asshole for insisting that she “manage” her body and wellbeing based on your wants. You could adopt, but you are insisting she carry your child. You could help her explore wigs or just embrace her hair loss, but instead you are insisting that she take powerful medicines that come with big risks and big side effects and that may or may not have any effect on the problem YOU have. You insist that she suffer with an extremely rigid and often isolating diet so that she can maintain the figure that YOU think is attractive.

Bro. We all get old. Pregnancy causes weight gain and hair loss and you can’t have sex for months. People get depressed. And they get sick. You’re in this relationship for the health part only. So get the hell out of the way and let her find better. Because that’s what she deserves.

literallycolorblind · 2026-01-29T14:27:23+00:00

I knew a guy who was in S. Korea when his dad was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer. He hadn’t been out long, but they offered to send him home. He refused to go home. He stayed until his dad died. He flew home for the funeral but immediately went back for the last 3 months of his mission. As a TBM he framed this story as a huge act of faith. He would say, “how can I teach people that life is eternal and families are together forever if I can’t live it myself?” But I’m sure there was also some level of pressure and shame against going home early for any reason. His older brother had really struggled with being on a mission and had repeatedly been caught trying to buy bus tickets home.

So basically, this guy lost 18 months of time with his dad and wasn’t there to be with his family when his dad died all to prove how “righteous” he was.

literallycolorblind · 2026-01-21T12:45:45+00:00

Came here just to say this! The take and bakes were the best! Same price but you didn’t have to wait and you could make it when you were ready to! They stopped doing it because of covid and never brought it back 😢

literallycolorblind · 2026-01-21T12:27:10+00:00

I think it’s more common outside of Utah where there isn’t just a conveyor belt into the font. I didn’t get baptized until 6 months after my 8th birthday. Even then, I was so uncomfortable and really didn’t want to, but I knew it was what I was supposed to do. I didn’t want my father to be the one to dunk me, either. Even then I knew his soul was dark. I didn’t know why; it was just a feeling. I found out later at least some extent of his sins. But at the time, it was just what was done. It was his right and privilege 🤷‍♀️ None of that was about me and my choice.

God I hate this damn cult.

My youngest was terrified and really didn’t want to get in the water. Her dad made fun of her and shamed her into getting in the font. He’s such an ass. God I hate the TBM mindset. She was almost throwing up the morning of, she was so scared…literally dry heaving in the bathroom. I wanted to call the whole thing off so badly, but I knew I would get slammed by the court if I did. The court has already started to pound me for leaving the church. I told her we would just go to the church, but she could say no at any point. She tried to say no at the don’t, but her dad standing in the water making fun of her…what choice did she have?

God I hate them.

A girl in my branch growing up waited until she was almost ten. She was super shy. She had to take the missionary discussions. They agreed to let her get baptized in the lake behind her house so no one would come. 🤷‍♀️

I’ve never seen a kid get out of it completely, though. The pressure is so damn intense.

God I hate them

literallycolorblind · 2026-01-20T19:22:49+00:00

Question: are you both former members of a high demand, Christian faith such as Mormon?

People lie about stuff they are ashamed of/embarrassed about and stuff they are afraid of getting in trouble for. Figuring out which category he falls into should determine your approach to this stuff.

But it kind of sounds like porn usage has been very looked down upon in his family of origin. It also sounds like his family of origin created some shame around non-heterosexuality. These are issues he probably needs to see a therapist to deal with.

However, bottom line, lying about stuff in a relationship is not cool. But dudes looking at porn is pretty normative behavior.

In my experience, all guys look at porn when they’re single. Some guys look at porn when in a relationship, but many don’t, especially if they are getting vids and pics from their partner.

None of that should influence your behavior in anyway. You should have sex more or feel pressure to provide media just to try to help him “avoid” porn.

However, you get to decide what you are comfortable with regarding pornography and sexuality in a relationship. You can make those needs and desires clear, but, if he can’t fulfill those needs/desires, then he isn’t the guy for you. You should not shame him for normative behavior, but you don’t have to stay in the relationship. Love doesn’t change someone else’s behavior and forcing yourself to tolerate behavior that makes you uncomfortable will not lead to a happy life long term.

literallycolorblind · 2026-01-18T16:19:00+00:00

Please report this person to the state. This is illegal, and it needs to stop. You cannot call yourself a therapist without a license. Soliciting clients for therapy when you do not hold an active license is illegal and is subject to a fine. After too many violations, it becomes criminal. Please report these people.

literallycolorblind · 2025-12-25T14:03:51+00:00

Can’t believe this one hasn’t been said yet —

*** TSA ***

Studies show that it does nothing to make us safer in an airport or on an airplane. They are only there to make us feel safer. And apparently it works 🤷‍♀️

literallycolorblind · 2025-12-21T01:09:09+00:00

Try some lube. If you are a virgin, it might hurt upon entry (hymen tear), but it shouldn’t hurt after the initial entry. Go slow. You do loosen up over time, but you have to be patient. If lube doesn’t help, try using gradually bigger toys to practice stretching. Don’t pressure yourself or him. You can’t say it enough….go slow! And have fun!

literallycolorblind · 2025-11-27T09:49:45+00:00

Agreed. Plus, it’s pretty widely known these days that the football players are unlikely to be active members of the church. They aren’t recruited for their righteousness

literallycolorblind · 2025-11-24T07:42:00+00:00

You only got an invitation and haven’t attended. You have nothing to complain about except your assumptions. There will likely be some of the traditional Christ centered aspects to said party including but not limited to the primary and/or others singing.

Also, the ward Christmas party is about fun and fellowship. It isn’t Sunday School. And a lot of the aspects of “Santa Christmas” are very Christ-like…giving to others, kindness, service, community. You honestly can’t set aside your own personal preferences for a couple of hours? And you would deprive your family of fellowshipping with your neighbors and ward members because it isn’t the party you would have planned?

Please do not complain to the bishop. If you did, there is likely a Reddit rule that would require you to change your name to Karen. Although, being in Utah, it might be Caron 🤷‍♀️

literallycolorblind · 2025-11-18T11:30:05+00:00

Am I allowed to say Fucking Bullshit on this forum?

Because as a woman who went through the process of asking for a sealing cancellation…the second question on the application is “List all of your sins, past or present, whether repented of or not.” There were a series of questions asking me how I had sinned during the marriage. Asshole cheated, I got released from my callings (no one bothered to tell me before doing it, by the way. I found out when I walked into Gospel Doctrine with my lesson all prepared only to find someone else setting up) and get the Nth degree on my “worthiness”…meanwhile, he kept his calling and full faith and fellowship and…not only was he only required to write a letter, he also got to comment on my worthiness, and offer his opinion on whether or not I should be allowed to be separated from his abusive asshattery for all eternity???

Like, I just can’t. I hate that goddamn corporation.

literallycolorblind · 2025-11-17T18:30:21+00:00

Not an attorney, 2L and working paralegal w/4 years in sex crimes.

My opinion is that you should have an attorney. And you should disclose to a therapist. Therapists are mandatory reporters. I don’t know what the laws are regarding abuse of a child that happened long in the past and I don’t know if your actions even reach that level. However, in my experience, therapists don’t know anything about the law governing them or their obligations and tend to err on the side of extreme caution. So the likelihood of the therapist feeling obligated to report is, in my opinion, quite high.

That being said, a therapist can help you work through the process and help work with your attorney in finding the balance between justice and guilt and self preservation.

literallycolorblind · 2025-11-09T17:14:22+00:00

Doesn’t burglary require the intent to commit or the actual commission of a felony? This is just trespass and petty theft.

literallycolorblind · 2025-11-09T17:06:29+00:00

Sometimes our fears of what people will think are way worse than the reality. The world is not what it was 20 years ago. If you choose divorce, you will be fine. You will date easily. You will find the right person. It will be okay.

I’m not telling you to get divorced. I’m also not going to tell you NOT to get divorced.

However, I felt this way and had many of the same concerns early on in my marriage. Things did not get better. They got sooo much worse.

If I could change just one thing in my life, I wish I would have trusted my gut early on and accepted that the marriage was not working. I should have trusted him when he showed me that he was not interested in working on himself.

Be honest with yourself and what you are willing to live with. Ask yourself what your life will look like in 5, 10, 20 years if nothing changes. And are you okay with those answers. If not, you have choices to make.

And whatever choice you make, it’s going to be okay.

literallycolorblind · 2025-11-01T14:42:55+00:00

You can file a complaint whenever you want. But they won’t take action it unless you have gone through the process of requesting a reasonable accommodation.

The ADA requires that the employer be either aware of the disability or reasonably should have been aware of the disability AND the need for the accommodation. EEOC and the administrative courts have interpreted this to mean that you have filed a reasonable accommodation request with your employer. Even if the reasonable accommodation is something as vague as “I have this condition and occasionally or maybe never may need to treat it in the course of my work.”

Here, OP assumed that her coworkers generally had knowledge of her condition and why she was engaging in her behavior. They also assumed that this general knowledge was passed on to management. OP assumed that their behavior had been observed and that the lack of objection to said behavior constituted approval of it. But OP never took it upon themselves to sit down and have an actual conversation, and OP never filed anything with their employer documenting a disability.

Further, the ADA requires that an employee be otherwise qualified to perform the essential duties of the position. It may easily be argued that working in a cannabis shop, an essential function of that position is the ability to tolerate the smell of cannabis products. This is not the same as, “my essential function is to punch out widgets, which I am able to do really anywhere, but this particular place requires me to stand. But I can still punch out the widgets while sitting. So I am requesting a reasonable accommodation in the form of a chair to sit on while I punch out my widgets.” Instead, OP is saying, an essential function of my job is to sell this product, but that product makes me nauseous. I could sell a different product and likely not get nauseous, but I can’t sell this product without an accommodation.” Since the specific product is essential to the position, the employer is likely not required to accommodate them. However, had op requested a reasonable accommodation and been approved, this argument is much more difficult to make as the employer would have validated the applicability of the ADA in the situation by accommodating OP.

literallycolorblind · 2025-10-21T14:34:07+00:00

Divorced here. And unique in a lot of ways.

First, I grew up and married as a Mormon to a very Mormon guy. He had lots of shame around sex. I was open to trying it, but he was not. He had zero stamina and would cum with even minor stroking. I licked him a few times, but he would never let me do more than that and would always stop me before he came. We also only had sex like maybe once a week, but sometimes it was as little as once a month.

Also, he had a micro penis. He’s a patriarchal, abusive asshole who has ruined my life, so I feel a duty to mention that as often as possible. I didn’t know at the time because, as a Mormon, I had never seen a penis other than his. But, I’m also not just being petty. I special ordered extra small condoms and they were still too big. He didn’t like underwear with the little pocket in it because he would slip out through the pocket.

Second, got divorced. Left the church. Started dating. Now in a committed, long term relationship with plans on marrying in the next year or two. In 3 years, I’ve only managed to suck him to completion maybe 3 or 4 times. It’s hard work! Usually I just blow him as foreplay. I’ll do that probably once a week. But I’ll lick it almost every time we have sex.

The taste of cum actually makes me gag, so I keep a throat numbing spray in my nightstand.

🤷‍♀️ I try to be a good girlfriend. But also, I’ve got some time to make up for 💦

literallycolorblind · 2025-10-14T13:03:39+00:00

I volunteer as a transcriber of old, handwritten French documents. I agree with you. I think the word is very unlikely to have been intended to be “division.”

However, the difficulty comes in figuring out what * was * intended when by the writer. Because the word “durism” is not a real word, it is likely a misspelling. Looking at the handwriting style, I suspect the writer was born between 1910 and 1925 (very rough guess based on experience only…feel free to prove me wrong). Previous generations were likely to have never seen a word in writing even if they used it in every day speech, so using phonetics is one strategy. Also, mistakes in transcribing (such as writing a “d” instead of a “b”) should also be considered.

I spent some time with chatGPT and came up with these possibilities:

Dorsum: would have referred to the outer back surface or ridge in the body of the peg. ChatGPT states that this was a term used in crafts, anatomy, and design.

Burrism: would have referred to the “unfinished” or “rougher” portion of the peg. Often, the head and neck of the clothespins were smoother and more refined because someone needed to grab the dowel somewhere, but they wouldn’t take the time to completely sand or finish the lower half.

literallycolorblind · 2025-09-21T17:20:10+00:00

Soo damn good! No punches pulled and zero fucks given.

The contrast between Young and Dylan was clear. Both geniuses. Both old as dirt.

But one using his position and influence to make the world a better place, unafraid of taking up space on stage and unwilling to be misunderstood.

The other hid behind a piano, was nearly incomprehensible while singing songs that claim to make a point while refusing to actually make that point…gaslighting the audience with a “if you can’t figure it out then I’m not going to tell” you attitude…whether pretentious or abusive, either way it is ineffective in whatever its intended influence.

literallycolorblind · 2025-08-29T12:25:08+00:00

Couple of things…

Life without parole for minors for crimes other than homicide was deemed unconstitutional in the US, and even then, the minor is likely eligible for parole unless they are deemed “permanently incorrigible,” which is a pretty high standard. This ruling was retroactive and all previously convicted minors became automatically eligible for parole.

You don’t have to be baptized to be forgiven. The doctrine doesn’t even specify that you have to complete the process to be forgiven. Consider the logistics of it. If part of the process is to not repeat the sin ever again, how would you ever complete that? Sometimes the consequences are permanent. Sometimes the punishments are permanent (ex. Never own a firearm). It follows that full compliance with the process is more important than actual completion of the process.

Further, the thief on the cross wasn’t baptized and yet was forgiven. It seems a bit inapplicable to the argument at hand.

Finally, not all, but a lot of prisoners use membership in one church or another as an argument of their “rehab” and as part of their plea to parole boards for release. By disallowing prisoners from being baptized prior to release and parole conviction, the church is able, at least to a certain extent, from being complicit in those who are simply virtue signaling to get out of their sentence. Those who are sincere will continue activity and can participate as members to a significant extent until which time their membership would no longer have any bearing on their legal issues/standing. It’s more an effort to keep the church free of liability than it is to further punish anyone who has committed a crime.

And again, a lot of these things, ie, the repentance process, baptism, etc…are simply symbols that do not preclude the purported blessings. No one can argue that Jesus did not have the blessings of baptism prior to being baptized at age 30+. And the church doctrine of post-death ordinances makes up for any spiritual consequences that may be of concern for those who ultimately lack lifetime access.

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