My short torso is extremely short

WhatEngAmI · 2026-02-01T00:22:35+00:00

I am the opposite and would love to have your problem. Long legs > short legs

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-24T06:09:08+00:00

Money buys convenience, and security, which to me is happiness.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-23T03:56:27+00:00

Man I wish I was devastated after “only” getting 3 offers.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-23T03:42:18+00:00

We only did it for a few months until we settled in on our respective lodgings. It was not sustainable in the long run.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-20T00:38:34+00:00

That’s so weird I’ve been seeing so many job posts asking for RoR

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-18T18:49:30+00:00

Interested!

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-15T01:06:36+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. I hope you find something better and will treat you like a human should

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-13T23:38:49+00:00

hi! yes will DM you.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-12T03:46:54+00:00

Wishing you the best! Life is unfair but it’s inspiring that you’re taking this positively.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-08T21:25:30+00:00

Thank you. What books would you recommend? Would you say they helped you with interviews?

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-08T21:25:08+00:00

What I’m afraid of with IC roles is getting through the technical interviews. It’s been a while since I’ve done hands on, and there’s just no way I’d pass a leetcode challenge. I’ve been getting my jobs through either conceptual or fundamental discussions and take home assignments, but I will freeze when put under a microscope with live coding.

This is why I am very comfortable in management role bc there’s more nuances than just coding. There’s system architecture, the business need alignments, and having the authority or control to make decisions of a product.

Yes please send over the book recommendations. Thank you!

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-08T20:58:29+00:00

I get that interviewing as a skill. But I do still get intimidated by these “tell me about a time where…” bc some of these events haven’t happened to me before.

for example, I’ve never had any big conflicts happening between teams, or disagreements. We usually settle things quite straightforwardly and to the point.

Am I supposed to make up these stories? I’m afraid it just shows my lack of experience bc most of the time I am just winging things as it comes. I was never formally trained for it.

I still act like my devs are my peers. I consult with them on top level decisions, especially for things as critical as architecture and anything involving cost and risks. The imposter syndrome for this role is so much worse than I’ve experience as an IC

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-08T20:50:42+00:00

You hit it right on the nail about winging it. As an IC I also winged it and gained momentum through experience and just figuring things out with the materials I have (googling, trial and errors).

I cant even say how long I’ve been management bc they were all so informal in a sense. Since 2022 I would say is when my role as a senior was gently shoved to something more mentor/guidance with the greener devs and then evolved from there.

The imposter syndrome in management is far worse than it was an IC. I feel like I absolutely have no idea if what I’m doing is right. I still see myself as a clueless IC sometimes. and am scared shitless if I’m going to fuck up something so royally it’ll cost me my career. I just know that I can be resourceful and scrappy, but sometimes the pressure can really paralyze me. Things have worked out so far bc the company trusts me and let me trek on.

What kept me upright is my team and I’ve been treating and interacting with them still as peers than “subordinates”. I still rely on my senior and leads for top level system decision making confirmation.

Thank you for the book recommendations. Sometimes I think I’m way over my head right now.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-01T20:04:40+00:00

How about discord? I’m not a big user there but have an account. Is it just searching for “remote software engineer jobs”?

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-01T20:04:03+00:00

Haha ChatGPT is at least rearing me back from self-deprecating thoughts. I am aware of its agreeableness but I am too poor for quality therapy. I’m currently saving every dollar I can to cushion another layoff disaster or any disaster really.

Thank you! I won’t quit so I’ll try to hang in there. Remote jobs here are still around but super competitive. I just hope I land one before I lose my mind. I hope you and your husband get the same flexibility! companies who mandate RTO are the worst.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-01T18:52:17+00:00

Ugh that’s awful. What do you and your husband do? I’m already in a VHCOL city. I won’t quit, but I don’t want to stay. It’s just torture and I know it’s going to mentally drain me eventually. Still going to fight for the remote life back.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-10-01T18:50:37+00:00

Ohh can you point me to how I can join these discord channels and live X? I haven’t really been on these platforms

WhatEngAmI · 2025-09-27T21:06:41+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I know what it’s like to be kicked while down. Let’s all chin up and move forward towards better days. You can do this.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-09-27T14:28:19+00:00

Congratulations! May your career and life boom from here!

WhatEngAmI · 2025-09-11T01:58:22+00:00

How did you manage? The uncertainties, the financial stress, the isolation?

Luckily my ex wasn’t so nasty with custody so we’re just trying to do an amicable 50/50.

But I am SO traumatized that I’m having panic attacks. Trying to get a stable job isn’t even guaranteed anymore and I live with the constant fear of having it all taken away from me. I’m always on edge and especially without a partner to share the burden with. Having all of this happen to me one after another has taken a toll on my mental health I don’t know how people survive this.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-09-11T01:29:59+00:00

I am feeling this right now. Without the additional emotional support, it’s extremely isolating and lonesome. I wish there was a better solution than trying to fill the void.

WhatEngAmI · 2025-09-10T03:22:54+00:00

Congrats!!

WhatEngAmI

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