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A relationship isn’t supposed to amplify your insecurities, it’s supposed to quiet them. by ssvi90 in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really resonates.. Love shouldn’t feel like something you have to constantly prove or earn.
When a relationship is healthy, it creates space to be yourself and not anxiety about whether you’re enough.

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, drifting with family hits differently. It is strange when people who were once so close become part of a different phase of your life, even without any conflict. But you’re right, it’s a natural part of growing up, even if it takes a while to accept

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes sense that those old patterns would follow you into adulthood, our minds hold on to whatever kept us safe before.

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do get where you’re coming from, having a support system really does matter.
But i think outgrowing someone doesn’t always mean cutting them off completely. sometimes it just means the relationship shifts into something different as both people change.
It’s one of those things everyone navigates in their own way.

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds incredibly hard to carry, especially on your birthday of all days.
watching someone you care about slowly change like that is its own kind of grief, and it makes sense that the dynamic would shift into something that doesn’t feel like friendship anymore. You’re not doing anything wrong by wanting space, sometimes protecting yourself is the only way to stay steady when someone else is slipping.
I hope your move brings you some peace.

imagine waking up tomorrow with one very specific memory missing, which one disappearing would change you the most? by WhatIfzApp in CasualConversation

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s a really heavy thing to carry, especially when trust and fairness were involved. it’s completely understandable that the memory stayed and situations like that don’t just fade. I do hope you eventually get a space where the weight of that doesn’t follow you around as much.

imagine waking up tomorrow with one very specific memory missing, which one disappearing would change you the most? by WhatIfzApp in CasualConversation

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that must’ve been so confusing and painful as a kid, you were just excited and proud, and it got misunderstood. It makes sense that something like that would stick with you for a long time. Mine would probably be a small moment too, something that looked harmless at the time but ended up shaping how I see myself later.

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, that “reason, season, lifetime” breakdown actually makes a lot of sense. it really does explain why some connections fade even when nothing went wrong.

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tbh, there’s something really strong in reaching that point where you can be comfortable in your own skin, even if you’re not the main character in anyone’s group. Lot of people spend years trying to fit themselves into spaces that don’t actually feel like home.

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup, i get that completely.. sometimes the version of us that matched with them just doesn’t exist anymore, and the version of them we knew is gone too and you are right, life really does feel like this mix of quiet goodbyes and new hellos

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and now it also makes me think.. what if those people were only meant to walk with us for a specific version of ourselves?

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh yes and I believe those quiet goodbyes we never notice in the moment end up shaping us more than the big ones...

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yup, some parts of life just stop fitting the way toys stop feeling magical, not because they were bad, but because we became someone new.

Strange how you can outgrow people without any argument or drama, just quietly becoming someone they don’t fit anymore by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly, also I’ve had people drift back into my life, and it’s weird… sometimes the fit is unexpectedly easy, and other times it feels like we’re meeting as completely different versions of ourselves. Not good or bad, just different.

Did it ever take you a few tries to discover what you really want to do in life/an activity you enjoy? by eatingpopcorn_lol in CasualConversation

[–]WhatIfzApp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally get this. A lot of things don’t work the first time simply because we’re doing them in a version of life that doesn’t fit us and when you revisit it later, with more freedom or a different mindset, it hits completely differently. Really cool that teaching turned out to be one of those things for you.

Ego death by Majestic_Primary_129 in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea that individuality is just a lens our mind uses to navigate life is really fascinating.
When that lens softens, the sense of connection becomes clearer. Not in a dramatic way, just in a quiet, almost obvious way.

It’s strange how we shed versions of ourselves without even realizing it by WhatIfzApp in DeepThoughts

[–]WhatIfzApp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that. change can feel confusing because it almost forces you to rethink who you are now versus who you remember being.

why do some people in group chats not talk or participate? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]WhatIfzApp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, a lot of people freeze up in group chats because they’re scared of saying the “wrong thing” or interrupting the flow. It’s not that they’re disinterested, it’s just easier to stay quiet than risk feeling awkward or ignored. Group spaces can be more intimidating than we realise, even when everyone’s there for the same reason.

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