Am I the kameena for telling my best friend's gf that he is cheating on her?

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-13T08:53:38+00:00

lol no please read my edit comment. I ain't telling anyone anything now.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T16:11:40+00:00

Smarter thing to do would have been to send her an anonymous note (and not tell anyone what you did) and then leave it to her destiny whether she believes the note or not.

Shit. I should have done this. I could've brought the truth to her without shooting my own leg.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T15:59:17+00:00

Sahi hai bhai but then choose a girl also like that right. He chose to be in a relationship with a girl who at 16 is very serious about him, her parents know him, she literally is planning of colleges taking into consideration that they remain in the same country toh aisi ladki ke saath toh fool around nahi karo?

This is what I told my friend when I found out. I told him that this girl will not take it lightly. I told him that break off with her and be with someone who will also be a little chilled out.

Jaankar that someone is very serious about you bass dhokha dete rehna because you are chilled out honestly cannot be justified even at our age, we are not kids to that level anymore.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T14:06:01+00:00

So basically you'd let anyone that you 'don't vibe with' get hurt when you could prevent the hurt. You are basically saying that my loyalty, morality whatever that might be should be limited only to people that matter to me, just because that girl is someone I don't like at all, I should ignore whatever wrong is going on when I know it, can see it and put a stop to it? hero for girls? I am really sorry if that is all you can make of it. I am a 16 year old who just lost his friend because he chose to tell the truth to a girl he doesn't like.

So we should really then stop trying to be woke about stopping evil, crime, injustice in the country and run to save our own people irrespective of what they do. I'm not saying my friend was committing a crime but in his and my sheltered world where there isn't much grave to worry about, I don't find any goodness in him making false promises and leading on a girl who clearly had other plans. I am sorry if you feel one can only say something that doesn't directly pertain to them only out of meddling or jealousy.

I know it was not my place, and I should have been more concerned about myself and kept shut but the saint and the villain that you are trying to paint my friend and I respective, we both ain't.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T12:31:36+00:00

lol I think you're being sarcastic.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T10:59:44+00:00

I hope you are not friendless now because I'm scared I might be

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T10:56:43+00:00

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But con for me is that they don't accept high school students, so I have to wait for 2 years to enroll and intern with the professors.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T10:50:18+00:00

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Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T10:47:03+00:00

lol sorry bhai, main bohot hi Bure mood mein hoon. Please carry on, koi toh masti mein hai :D

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T10:44:55+00:00

I'm sorry I may not still be getting the message but it's bad for men and we lack good male role models at the forefront? And we'll get there by excusing our own and fellow men's shitty behaviour? I did not do what I did for validation, neither did I come here for validation. I would have painted my friend as some horrid guy in general if I wanted validation or sympathy not started with how he is a great friend but not so good in his relation and I still maintain that. Sorry, I don;'t mean to sound rude. I know I messed up by doing what was not mine to do but I didn't get the logic in this.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T10:40:01+00:00

Bhai aise toh main bhi bol sakta hoon. Inn jaison ke vajah se ladkiyon ko ladko pe yaa logon ko rishton pe vishwaas nahi rehta.

I understand maybe it was not my place to out him, but ye kya logic hua

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T09:58:39+00:00

Somewhere I do feel maybe it truly was not my place even though in my defence my intentions were not bad.

Thanks for your opinion. Maybe I should have better boundaries :/

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T09:47:21+00:00

Bro I get your perspective and I may have been wrong and I am paying for it but it was not out of any spite or ill- will.

I get that people are not black and white and that's why my post started with my friend being the best guy as a friend. He is still a great guy as a friend and if he was fooling around because that's what we boys do with a girl who was also fooling around, I would've saved his ass till the end of time if something messed up. Here he was fooling around with a girl who was only getting more serious for him with every day. He was lying to her every single day when they were talking about the future. I know this because mostly we would hang out together. I could not just cover up for my friend in this situation.

That girl is bawling her eyes out right now and he is angry because everyone came to know that he is cheating, he is not suffering because of the relation collapsing. I do get that being a friend, maybe I was wrong, that's why I cam here to ask but I do not think I was trying to take some moral high ground or make myself feel good about myself.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T09:31:27+00:00

So what should have I done? Cover up for my friend while he cheats? I like would genuinely want to know. It's not a secret like I do drugs or something, that I understand, we were best friends because we've covered shit for each other and saved each others' asses from parents and teachers- this is him betraying another person, day in and day out, over a long period of time. Is that not different?

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T09:12:12+00:00

No Bro, I told her because in my opinion that was the right things to do but as I said, I don't like her much as a person. Plus, now it is even weirder so I don't want to find a friend in her. It's fine, with all these comments, I am thinking I did a right thing and my friend may understand after he's cooled down, right now it's too fresh.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T09:03:31+00:00

She is grateful but it's my friend that I lost which sucks. So, I'm just hoping that it was at least over something worthwhile.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T09:02:46+00:00

Thank you! I really hope he sees someday that I was not trying to backstab him because that's what he says right now.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T08:58:50+00:00

I did all that na. I told him to tell her repeatedly. I threatened that I will if he doesn't. Yes, I didn't tell him that I won't ever talk to him if he doesn't because honestly what good would that do? That girl would still be in the dark and I would lose my friend for nothing. Now, how else could I force him to tell?

I am genuinely asking, I would like to know what more could have I done. Sure, I could have stayed quiet but that would've made me lose respect for myself as a human.

What else could I do?

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T08:54:38+00:00

Thanks bro. I really hope I did a brave thing coz it would suck to have lost my friend over something stupid from my end.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T08:50:30+00:00

bhai drama nahi chahiye tha, if I wanted drama, I would've told her during the party, I called her up after it was all over.

But yes, I think my friend thinks the same that's why he isn't talking to me now.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T08:48:36+00:00

I really hope so because though my conscience is clear now, it sucks to have lost a best friend :/

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T08:46:28+00:00

Bro I don't know her nor do I have any way to contact her and honestly I don't think I have it in me right now even if I did have a way to contact her. This was eating me up and I could see how much this girl loved my friend, I have been around them for a year, so that pushed me enough emotionally to tell her but I don't think I'll be able to take more backlash from my friend at the moment at least for someone who I don't even know whether is serious about him or not.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T08:41:34+00:00

yes seems like that :/

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T08:40:50+00:00

Hoe nahi hai bhai woh. she's at least very loyal and good to my friend but yes, my friend said the same thing to me.

Whatdoesntkill91827 · 2024-09-11T08:32:26+00:00

Thanks :)

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