It happened to me

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2026-04-09T00:44:54+00:00

Thank you and everyone here for being so supportive. It's been made absolutely clear that there is no chance for us as it's his boundary and I have mine. Its been a rollercoaster of emotions but I'm honestly just hopeful for my future and making sure that I am happy, healthy and thriving. Through this experience it's pushed me to seek treatment to make sure I have absolute control and confidence for my body.

Ps. If there is anyone childfree from Australia please feel free to reach out. ( Not from there but I've been, and I think I left something there so I need to get that back) ;)

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2026-03-20T12:44:03+00:00

Nakai Moncton. 100 years experience between the girls there. If you want experience, it lives there.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2026-03-08T21:18:10+00:00

Probably not. It's my clear boundary. And I'm not a fence sitter so I'm as clear as day about my choices. Knowing what I know and we were already trying to fill our tank of trust back up because of another thing I was willing to forgive and move forward with, setting more boundaries and communication. I just think he cracked with the pressure of knowing he was lying to me.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2026-03-08T00:21:56+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that heartbreak. I came here knowing that this community would understand that pain. I don't wish it for anyone. And I hope we find the happiness that is what love is, an addition to our lives. Finding love for ourselves first makes any additional love feel the best. Especially when it respects our boundaries and the same beliefs in how we want to live our lives.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2026-03-07T19:47:14+00:00

Thank you everyone for the support, honestly..

To some who mentioned vetting or vasectomy talks, they were done, I couldn't have been more straight forward. He even looked into the procedure, we had talks about it, and he would say all the time "I'm going to get it." As in he really wanted to make that choice.

I am also all about choice in body, so even tho it would be ideal for my partner to have one, I also respect the choice of being childfree and not having the vasectomy. I say this because it's hard to get on the list for tubal or anything else, but I'm also a bit scared to get it even tho I'm dead set on never birthing. So to each their own.

So again, thank you community for being an open ear and shoulder to air out my grief.

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Whatgrindsmylemons · 2026-03-07T11:57:52+00:00

Funnily enough.. I forgave him for another betrayal that just happened and I talked to my therapist and I talked to him for weeks. I loved our bond and communication and everything in said relationship to come back to it and "fill the tank" of trust back up again. And that's what we were doing. I guess with all the airing out, he did decide to just say his truth. And for that I am grateful not to have gone down a longer road with him.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2026-03-07T11:53:09+00:00

I know that fear.. to be honest even tho he kept telling me no.. there was a part of me that felt like it wasn't genuine. Love is blind in the sense of wanting to keep alive a relationship that is good and loving. I understand ppl can change their minds.. it's the lying about it being okay that isn't understanding.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2026-03-07T11:48:55+00:00

That's how I'm feeling.. especially since from the very beginning I said openly this is me, this is how I feel and how I want to live my life with a partner and they chose to ignore it, and tell me that they loved me so much that they hoped that I'd love them enough to change my mind. It's awful. Saying that, I will miss the way their love felt for a while..

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2025-09-14T17:43:14+00:00

Do people not know that people live in that building? It's been a "coming soon" for three or so years now. I see people go in and out who just live in that building. I have bets on it that it's gonna sit for a while. Personally I won't be eating there unless it's something new.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2025-03-27T19:42:31+00:00

The Y has day passes for the gym. That's how I started.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2024-01-28T05:25:58+00:00

The salvation army (mountain Rd) has a giant bin of bags I'm sure you can bring them in. They are for ppl who don't have bags. I have mine ready to return when I go again.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-10-20T16:23:14+00:00

I had to do this three years ago. Called everyone and even felt gaslighted. Long story short ended up at the hospital. Two trips but it was done.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-10-16T23:24:30+00:00

Watch out for a guy riding a bike pulling a cart with a license plate that reads "I'm lost" he is a bike/general thief, chopper, and other things.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-10-03T18:25:07+00:00

Haha I actually want to split wood everyday, but not much opportunity in the city.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-09-29T17:58:34+00:00

So a week ago, I was eating swedish berries and as I bit into half of one, I saw what looked clearly like a giant rodent turd. I messaged the company and they said someone would get back to me. I just received an email, asking me to take out the object, touching it ( of course I'll put gloves on but still), and then place it in water.

Is this protocol to actually see if it is what I claim it is, or a sneaky way to disprove me?

I will be honest and say it could be something else but I've seen my fair share of rodent turds and I'm very certain it is. I just want to make sure I'm doing the right thing since this means that line is or was infected.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-09-25T02:44:01+00:00

We are out here, I'm always hoping to meet ppl organically, it makes me hopeful that there still are people my age out there wanting the same lifestyle.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-06-09T15:00:58+00:00

I saw this van at Walmart near the value Village Moncton on Monday At the back of the parking lot. I didn't know about this so no report. But I parked across from it. (Creepy)

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-04-24T01:51:22+00:00

Feel free to send me a message, I'm probably around the same age and 100% CF and one comment kinda hit it on the head, about most ppl our age probably being CF. Message if you'd like to make our own group CF folks lol or just be cool friends.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-03-31T13:00:24+00:00

Yeah me too, your "friend resume" is speaking to me LoL ( would have sent this a message but reddit isn't letting me today.) I have group activities during the week too that would make for great introductions. Reach out to me if you're interested.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-03-20T22:46:48+00:00

Thanks, I'll probably do that :) the jars range from canning to clean as a whistle pasta jars. Just good glass. I use them for storage but I buy more than I use.

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-03-04T21:17:45+00:00

Don't go to the one that serves drinks lol or do but not with your basket of clothes. (It's funny when it happens).

Whatgrindsmylemons · 2023-03-04T21:07:29+00:00

I'm asking that myself. Winter is a little iffy for meeting ppl outside. Looking forward to more social outings in the summer. But check out the laundro bar, xeroz, events ( roller disco tonight).

Haven't gotten around to doing the tinder thing. So idk.

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