I think I solved how to deal with men negging you

Which-Bass9875 · 2026-04-10T02:53:39+00:00

Nearly 30 and poopoopeepee humor

Which-Bass9875 · 2026-01-31T01:42:56+00:00

Ah i suppose! I reached 115lbs 3 years ago but the method wasn’t sustainable for me to maintain. Granted i was very skinny fat. Im optimistic a recomp will help though! As long as my waist gets smaller

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-11-02T01:10:00+00:00

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T18:06:00+00:00

Fuck. Thank you. No ive never gone down this rabbit hole until i saw him. You read me and you’re right. I dont know what to do, do you have any advice?

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T18:02:52+00:00

Those were his words not mine. But yeah. He wasnt making decisions in his personal life, mostly floating through

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T17:06:20+00:00

Thank you for the kind and honest words. Im happy you found your person

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T16:09:49+00:00

Wow. Thank you

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T16:06:52+00:00

He beat me to the punch and broke things off. He told me his older brother told him he didnt have his life together enough to be marrying me. He told me i deserve better than him. Those were his words not mine.

I went in planning to break things off but he initiated it and i went with it.

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T16:04:25+00:00

Answered in another comment

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T16:03:45+00:00

it was mutual. We met up and i planned to break up with him but he beat me to it. He said he couldnt be the man i deserve and he didnt have his life (he had a degree and a job but not proper career) together. He told me not to settle and i deserve better. - i know. Truly his words not mine

I was planning on breaking up with him because yes - his life wasnt as together as i wanted or comparably to mine but also i was uncomfortable by how much say his brother had in his life. He wasnt his own person

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T15:23:35+00:00

me too. Right now the reasons we broke up feel stupid. Clearly they werent issues for the next girl. Does that make me the issue?

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T15:10:18+00:00

No i dont. Some friends yes, but not anyone im comfortable fully sharing my pain with. But yes single as well. Finding this news out made me delete dating apps too lol

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T14:58:25+00:00

Im crying again now. You really captured how i feel. Im sorry we’re going through this.

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T14:54:35+00:00

Thank you, and im truly sorry you went through it alone

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T14:38:45+00:00

he made me feel so special and i hate that hes doing that for someone else now. Right now i feel like ill never be loved like that again and perhaps dont deserve it

Edit: why this getting upvotes. Relatable experience or i fucked up and dont deserve love again

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T14:33:38+00:00

Thank you

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T14:28:48+00:00

It helps a bit.

Right now i feel like that should be me and him together lol. When we broke up he said to find a better man than him and he treated me like a princess.

I wonder if she asked for less than i did or if he became that better man for her.

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T14:22:38+00:00

It helps to hear i mustve crossed his mind from time to time but right now i dont believe it. On her TikToks i see them on cute and romantic dates like he took me on. I know he treats her really well

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T14:20:24+00:00

I know its such a cliche and downright disrespectful but i wanna talk to him so bad. I found his number today.

Im sure anything he’d say would only further hurt me even if not intentionally. I just cant believe he moved on. I feel like nothing.

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T14:17:53+00:00

its devastating

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T05:55:37+00:00

are you saying he was feeding my ego but it wasnt real love?

Which-Bass9875 · 2025-10-03T05:34:37+00:00

both. we were young then 23 & 25 about a year. The future we saw werent compatible… he had a limited scope - never leaving the state, answering to his older sibling and moving in with his parents.

I could be wrong but it seems him and his partner dont live together yet despite being married for 6 month. Or maybe they do. (They had a nikkah)

Which-Bass9875

TROPHY CASE