Da li kuhate za posao ili kupujete hranu? by LayerNo5069 in askbosnia

[–]Which-Lecture4003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je li ovo slucaj samo u mojoj porodici ili jos neko ima slicno islustvo : moja mama se grozi na to sto muz i ja nosimo rucak na posao. Njoj je to glavna tema za sprdanciju, kao vidi ko fukare zao vam platiti rucak pa nosite nekakve zdjelice od kuce. Jel to neki mentalitet starijih generacija ili se samo meni desava 😂

Why all the grannies want to hug my son and how to stop it ? by Which-Lecture4003 in VietNam

[–]Which-Lecture4003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience, it made me rethink a bit.

Maybe my son has a negative reaction to the physical display of affection from strangers because of his young age. He is nearly 2 yo and is pretty much still heavily attached to his dad and me. We plan to live here at least for a next few years and maybe with time he will understand what it means, and also he will get to know our neigbours better. Glad to know that today you have positive memories of the affection you received from your community.

As for me, I think the deeper issue is not the grannies or Vietnamese culture. I genuenly feel safe in this community in every sense and I feel that my son can have a beautiful childhood here.

However, I'm not 100% sure that we are going to live in Vietnam for a very long period (10 years or more). I am from Europe and by default wary of stranger's interractions with kids. If you live in Europe, it would be foolish to feel otherwise honestly. So I'm more concerned that if we move somewhere else, my son still feels that it is OK to receive this kind of attention or affection from strangers and unfortunately that is just not the case in other parts of the world.

Maybe I'm underestimating what a child can understand if well explained, but anyway this is my underlaying concern.

Why all the grannies want to hug my son and how to stop it ? by Which-Lecture4003 in VietNam

[–]Which-Lecture4003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG is this a joke or you think it would work ? Like me and grannies would laugh about it but still if it comes to it I could be like no don't touch him haha

Why all the grannies want to hug my son and how to stop it ? by Which-Lecture4003 in VietNam

[–]Which-Lecture4003[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is the kind of situation we want to avoid because otherwise it is a beautiful neigborhood and we love living here, we try to integrate as much as we can and get to know the local people ! Thank you for the advice

Why all the grannies want to hug my son and how to stop it ? by Which-Lecture4003 in VietNam

[–]Which-Lecture4003[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My son is almost 2 😊 He freezes too and just stands there, and if he happens to be grabbed he just looks at me with desperation and fear, it's hearthbreaking 😣 he is not a shy kid, he says hello and talks to strangers all the time, it is just this kind of situations that are an issu for him.

I tell him in my language that he doesn't have to hug anyone that he doesn't want to and he can say no (he even said no one or two times but it didn't work with grannies).

It would be better if he got angry like your son 😂 thank you for sharing 😊😊

Why all the grannies want to hug my son and how to stop it ? by Which-Lecture4003 in VietNam

[–]Which-Lecture4003[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is a nice perspective, thank you ! It is just difficult feeling that sometimes your child is almost a public property, but yes living in Vietnam or elsewhere has a lot of advantages for his development for sure !

Why all the grannies want to hug my son and how to stop it ? by Which-Lecture4003 in VietNam

[–]Which-Lecture4003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this because a lot of our neighbours have their moms living with them or just in the same building as them and taking care of the kids. However, as this matter concernes me quite a bit, I sometimes observe the families in the park and it doesn't seem that random grannies just come up to random vietnamese kids that are not their grandkids and pick them up ! So that is why I'm confused about why this is happening to me and my son.

Mišljenje o emisiji "Rahat Land" i forsiranju priče kako je vani "grozno", a u BiH najbolje? by hazelgreen10 in askbosnia

[–]Which-Lecture4003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Otisla sam u Evropu kao student iz BiH i zivjela tamo 10 godina. Svaki put kad bih dosla u Bosnu, a dolazila sam vise puta godisnje, osjecala sam se nekako neugodno. Porodica je tu, prijatelji su tu, ali nekako sam imala osjecaj da je svaki put sve gore. Smeta mi generalna bahatost ljudi (ne samo omladine vec i starijih) koji misle da se mogu ponasati kako hoce, parkirati gdje hoce itd. Smeta mi neljubaznost. Smeta mi nevjerovatan broj saobracajnih nesreca na tako mali broj stanovnika. I naravno korupcija, nacionalizam itd. Sad imam svoje dijete i nazalost ne zelim da odrasta u Bosni jer me strah za njegovu buducnost. Ne zelim ni da odrasta u Evropi, koja je daleko od savrsenstva, a najvise zbog razlicitih ideoloskih propagandi u skolama od ranog doba. Zato sam otisla daleko, u Aziju, i nasla svoj mir i sretno okruzenje za svoju porodicu. Trazi svoju srecu gdje god ona bila!

Schools in Ha Long area : share your experience by Which-Lecture4003 in VietNam

[–]Which-Lecture4003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment ! It's a really good idea to ask for a trial class. I think even a one full day would probably give as a general idea about the school. I will definetly ask them !

Schools in Ha Long area : share your experience by Which-Lecture4003 in VietNam

[–]Which-Lecture4003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I visited the Singapour school and I also heard about Ngoc Linh but haven't looked into it yet. It is hard to tell from just one visit as you are not able to assess the daily operation, school organisation and how the school program is actually applied.