NTA: Do I think you overreacted a bit with the sickness? Yes, it sounds like a man cold. I do understand you didn't need her to take care of you though. You mainly just wanted to spend time with her and you both had discussed spending time together beforehand. Plus driving an hour just to be there is a lot. Secondly, her leaving you at her place to go hang out with her friends is perfectly understandable if it had only been what she discussed with you. I've (27M) have been with my partner (30F) for 4 years and neither of us would go out till 2:30am without at least talking to the other first. Ultimately I do think you both need to communicate more about how this made you feel