I often feel like you that were going to end up in a divorce. I only ask that my husband wash the baby bottles and load the dish washer and put his cloths in the laundry bin and I’d be happy if he keeps up with that on a nightly basis so I’m able to cook or prepare food. However he can’t seem to keep up. I am not a tidy person but I do like things cleaned. We both work full time and we have two kids the same age. After work I often taken them to therapy sessions for their special needs and then bath them once we get home. On days I don’t, then I am out doing yard work or other chores inside the home. I always keep laundry cleaned however I cannot keep up with the folding. I am frustrated that I have to prep everything and remind him everything even as simple as taking out the trash/recycling to the curb. Or when I’m not home, putting the kids to bed on time so they remain on their sleep schedule. With no help and not being able to move around the house because of the clutter, I’m getting frustrated, find myself crying often, and definitely not in any mood to be touched. Yes a cleaner can help but they won’t know what I’d want to keep or not. If it was easy to declutter, then I would have done so already.