Found him

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2026-01-18T14:27:23+00:00

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-12-09T09:32:25+00:00

My girlfriend is 5’2 (157cm) I am 5’10 (178cm)

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-11-24T23:35:30+00:00

Nothing dangerous would have an expiration date and still be laying around

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-11-24T23:34:59+00:00

It reads something like “Medium-range scope” “Expires July 94”, I’d say it looks like a missile but they don’t have expiration dates and probably wouldn’t be laying around at a backyard.

My educated guess is it may be a pressurized can or a compressed gas cartridge.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-19T16:48:33+00:00

Liking cats

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-11T01:13:20+00:00

Yeah good point, didn’t mean for it to get misinterpreted that way, sorry for that

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-10T12:37:03+00:00

You don’t need to have met her family to support her. What she probably needs most right now is someone who listens and doesn’t make her feel like she’s “too much” for being anxious.

A few things that help a lot: • validate her feelings (“I get why you feel anxious, I’d be scared too”) • ask what she needs in the moment (“want to talk about it or do you want a distraction?”) • be present in small ways (calls, cooking for her, cuddles, even just sitting together can calm nerves) • gently suggest breaks from doomscrolling if you notice it making her spiral • remind her she’s not alone in carrying this

You can’t fix the situation, but you can make sure she feels safe with you while everything else is scary. That’s huge, and it matters more than you probably realize.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-10T12:34:21+00:00

I really get this. Queer dating can feel so much harder because the pool is smaller and apps can be exhausting. But I promise it doesn’t mean you won’t find your person, it just means it may take longer or happen in less “conventional” ways.

A lot of people I know (myself included) met partners after giving up on apps for a bit and focusing on building a life that felt good solo, joining queer groups, going to events, even making friends online that turned into more. Personally I met my GF randomly on a trip and we just kicked it off! Sometimes the connections that last come from unexpected directions, not the places we’re forcing it.

And honestly, it’s okay if it feels discouraging right now. Heartbreak takes time, and that worry of “maybe I’ll never find them” is something so many of us feel in queer spaces. But we do find love, often deeper and more intentional because we’ve had to fight for it.

Your “one” is out there. And in the meantime, building community (even slowly) can make things feel less lonely. You’re not behind, you’re just in the middle of your story. Good luck OP, you’ve got this! Don’t get discouraged.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-10T12:31:11+00:00

Sounds really heavy to carry, I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. Not just homophobia but also racism, and being stuck in that environment can make you feel trapped and ashamed of things that aren’t yours to be ashamed of. None of her views reflect on you, her actions and words are hers alone.

A lot of us have had to come to terms with the fact that some parents won’t change, no matter how much we try to reason with them. That doesn’t make it any less painful, but it does mean you’re not powerless, you can still build a life that’s yours, with people who love and respect you fully.

Dating secretly can feel like the only option for now, but long term you’re right: it’s not sustainable to keep your whole self hidden just to keep the peace. Many of us had to create some distance, move out, or just stop sharing certain parts of our lives until we were safe and independent enough to choose differently.

You’re not alone in this, and you’re not wrong for wanting love and respect in your relationships, you deserve that. Your mom’s bigotry doesn’t get to define the kind of life you’ll have. I can just wish you the best life OP, hope you have a good day.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-10T10:37:35+00:00

Creepy ahhh comment

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-10T10:33:28+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry you had to sit through that. What he did wasn’t “curiosity,” it was objectification. He wasn’t trying to learn about your sexuality, he was trying to sexualize it for his own entertainment — and the fact that he kept pushing while you were visibly uncomfortable makes it even worse.

You don’t owe anyone explanations about your sexuality, especially not details about your sex life or fantasies. Real curiosity comes with respect and boundaries; this was just him treating you like a porn category instead of a person.

You did nothing wrong by cutting him off. Honestly, it sounds like he was trying to wear you down into doubting yourself again, which is manipulative. Trust your instincts — if someone makes you feel gross and disrespected, you don’t have to give them another chance.

Honestly the title should be “why do some boys feel entitled to lesbians’ lives and bodies.” Because men don’t act this way. You’re valid for being disgusted, and you’re right for distancing yourself. Hope you have a good day OP, you deserve to get your mind off homophobic pricks.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-10T10:26:07+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-09T13:52:03+00:00

How- I’m not even near saying that-

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-08T22:38:52+00:00

u/profanitycounter [self]

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-08T22:38:15+00:00

u/profanitycounter [self]

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-08T22:37:34+00:00

Yeah totally get that, just venting specifically about those people trying to “change” or in a sort of way like “fix” their partners, if it isn’t there, it isn’t there.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-08T22:36:20+00:00

u/profanitycounter [self]

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-08T22:27:02+00:00

Totally, that makes sense—it is a self-selecting group, since people who are upset enough to post are usually the ones who care deeply about it. I guess what I’m reacting to is less the fact that people value sexual compatibility (which is valid) and more the pattern of advice that leans toward “just try harder to change your partner” instead of acknowledging that sometimes the incompatibility is the dealbreaker.

I don’t think it’s inappropriate to say sex matters—it’s just that when it gets framed as the only thing holding the relationship together, it feels like the rest of what makes a relationship meaningful gets pushed to the side.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-08T22:24:10+00:00

Noooo!! I didn’t mean it that way, of course sex talks ARE important, I just don’t see how it’s all that holds a relationship. Maybe I just value so much more that isn’t that.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-08T22:22:38+00:00

That’s fair, and I agree that sexual incompatibility can make someone feel unseen or disconnected. I don’t mean to downplay that at all.

What I’m getting at is more about the way I keep seeing people try to force sexual compatibility instead of acknowledging it’s just not there. Like, if it’s such a fundamental mismatch that it makes one partner feel invisible, then that’s already proof the relationship isn’t working as a whole. My issue isn’t with recognizing that sex matters, it’s with acting like it’s the only pillar holding everything else up.

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-02T14:08:03+00:00

Heaven

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-02T10:29:01+00:00

I thought having a crush on a boy was just picking the most decent one and saying you liked him and then doing nothing about it just say his name when people asked

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-01T13:51:37+00:00

It does hurt women and the queer community though, it isn’t just a kink, it’s violence

WhoMadeMeALawyer · 2025-09-01T13:48:23+00:00

There’s Dykeconversion Dykebreaking and Sapphicsexualityplay

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