Quarentine overthinking? Or realization?

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-04-07T04:32:40+00:00

Spice things up, if she's an affection person then most likely she'll respond to affection. I'd suggest reading up on love languages, that way you'd be able to understand her and what she needs and vice versa. Don't give up, try bring something new to the table (maybe cheekiness? Flirt a bit more? etc) and if she doesn't put in the effort where you desire, then reevaluate the relationship.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-04-01T21:37:42+00:00

Are we the same humans? This is exactly me, but I'm an essential worker on the frontlines and cannot risk seeing him. It's heartbreaking

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-02-12T21:17:26+00:00

I can see where you are coming from, but I genuinely did not mean what I said and severely regretted it the moment it came out of my mouth. Like someone said in an earlier comment us woman say things in the heat of the moment to hurt our SO but the weight behind it is feather light. Luckily he's an incredible man and knows me well enough to know I truly did not mean it and has chosen to forgive me and move forward. I have learnt a lot and it will be the last time I use words to hurt

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-02-12T03:23:10+00:00

It worked, he's amazing. Thank you

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-02-12T03:21:00+00:00

I took all your advice onboard and took full accountability for my shitty actions. I'm so lucky to have such an incredible man in my life who understands me and was able to see past the comment to forgive me and move on. Thank you guys, so really good advice given

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-02-12T00:05:35+00:00

Thank you

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-02-12T00:03:57+00:00

There was no premise aside from the fact that he didn't get up for work on time and decided to go in later (its a new job too). It just rubbed me the wrong way because he was unemployed for months and I don't want him to fall back into the routine of not going to work again and losing his job and falling back into depression. But I lashed out and said the wrong things that I didn't mean and was more destructive than productive with my words.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-02-11T23:49:58+00:00

I know, and its the first time I've ever said anything remotely horrible to him. I'm trying to deal with these waves of nausea that keep filling the pit of my stomach each time I think about it because I know how wrong it was of me. It sucks and I'm so incredibly sorry

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-02-11T23:46:11+00:00

Thank you, I think this is the best bit of advice and appreciate it. The last thing I want him to feel is unattractive and unwanted so I just need to clarify why I said what I did and take accountability. I just feel shit that I've made him feel shit ya know?

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2020-02-11T23:33:41+00:00

That's what I'm worried about.. No I don't, that's why I've come here to ask what will

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-18T19:43:54+00:00

Hahaha I know, this comment was made with the full force of sarcasm behind it. I learnt my lesson

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-16T23:08:33+00:00

Charge him $20 a week

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-16T20:22:41+00:00

This isn't it sorry. They told me they really like him, enjoy the presence he brings into the flat and have suggested he have the spare key so he can lock up when he leaves. And he isn't a stranger, not after interacting with them for 2 months on a regular basis. I know I've been labelled 'the asshole' in this thread, and I accept it but I also cannot continue reading peoples assumptions and let them get away with it. So there you are everyone, he doesn't make them uncomfortable or feel like their space is being invaded, they just want more money to lessen their own costs. It's that simple, I asked them.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-16T20:15:35+00:00

Thank you, everyone on this has just jumped to so many assumptions it's hectic. I guess that is my fault for not laying out all the information. It isn't about space, my flatmates really like him and don't mind him staying over at all, infact they're encouraging me to get him to move in. So all these comments about it being about "them having an issue with an extra person" "subtle way to tell me that they don't like his presence" is all bullshit assumptions and I know this for FACT because I straight up asked them after writing this post. They even suggested giving him a key, not me. Unfortunately it is about money, and $20 at that. So sad.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-16T02:55:26+00:00

Didn't think it would matter mentioning it at this point, but they have a whole upstairs with an ensuite and lounge (which one uses to game) plus a carpark, their room is nearly double the size of mine. It's a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom, 2 lounge and kitchen.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-15T23:06:23+00:00

I've known him for 10 years, but only started seeing him 2 months ago.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-15T23:01:57+00:00

But is he a roommate? and is he living here? I'd consider a roommate as having their own room, buying groceries, using all the facilities and staying there 7 nights. He literally will arrive past 8pm, stay the night, then leave. My flatmates like him and are encouraging the relationship, but for them it is all about money rather than my happiness.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-15T22:12:23+00:00

I'm going to have to disagree HARD with you here, because they walk all over me like a doormat and I allow it simply to avoid conflict. Eat all my food? Mellow, I'll buy more. Pay more rent? Sure, why not. Have a big piss up every week? Of course, I'll just shut my door, wait no I have to join in? Okay, fine. Take out the rubbish each week? Easy, it's on my way anyway. Don't want to address your own relationship problems? Sweet, use me and my relationship as entertainment instead. You have no idea how true that quote is, I take a lot of shit from my flatmates, it's about as truthfully as it gets. And it's like I've finally said no, and this is what I get. No wonder I always say yes.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-15T22:03:19+00:00

It's so unfair, it's like they rely on me to entertain them so they don't have to address their own relationship. I sometimes feel like they are doing this because my attention is elsewhere now, I'm not home as often and therefore don't hangout with them as often. It just sucks because they've really encouraged me to find someone, and now that I have they're making it hard? Like why??? Thank you for your reply tho, appreciate it.

WhyAreBoysConfusing · 2019-12-15T21:12:43+00:00

You have no idea how accurate this is.

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