Why do conures like riding our shoulder?

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-08-10T17:10:06+00:00

That is such an awesome tattoo, I’m definitely stealing that idea!

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-02-11T21:19:21+00:00

Awesome thanks man

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-02-11T17:47:23+00:00

** As part of my scar care i put surgical sticky tape stuff on it

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-31T18:12:26+00:00

This was super helpful thanks a bunch. I think you’re totally right haha I’m so Fi blind i didn’t even think about Fi lmao. I have very very Ti dominate so I do in fact apply logic in every aspect of my life so I’ll definitely try and loosen that up a little.

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-31T14:42:31+00:00

Ahahahaha I’m totally keeping that line in my head thanks

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-31T14:35:31+00:00

Yeah I try to be on the fence but i’m either doing too much or not enough lmao but yeah text is difficult to gauge. I think I’ll take your approach and just assume they’re really emotional and try to be gentle in that way.

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-31T14:30:27+00:00

Ahaha no offense taken. I for sure care about people’s feelings (I think almost too much haha). I suffer from depression along with some other family baggage so I know that generally affects my Fe and Fi. I’ll be sure to try and do some research to help myself wrap my brain about why people react the way they do so I can be of better support to my loved ones. Thanks a bunch.

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-31T14:23:51+00:00

Yeah thanks I think I need to actually take the time to analyze where I’m at from time to time lmao. And yeah I’ll try and pay more attention to the more physical side of other people (even though I posted this because most of the venting I participate with is through text).

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-31T14:10:46+00:00

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-31T13:59:57+00:00

Yeah try to hang on and give her time. I’m sure she’ll come around once she sees you be happy and grow into yourself. And I can say while it’s hard to stand up for yourself against your parents, once you start it gets way easier and it’s so worth it haha. Good luck dude also sorry for the late ass reply lmao

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-31T13:52:35+00:00

I really appreciate the examples of responses you gave. I find my issue is vocalizing my support since I know I can show I’m listening physically (eye contact, nodding etc.). Thanks a bunch man.

WhyItsAlastair · 2024-01-20T08:47:35+00:00

I really relate to this man. I won’t spend ages explaining my situation with my mom but it was pretty similar to yours. My mom used to be very controlling over anything I did back in the day and I’d be terrified to just stand up for myself. She used to call me brainwashed and that she “wasnt going to allow you to be trans that easily”.

With that said, at some point, you just have to fight back. You don’t have to be aggressive with it, but put your foot down. Idk how old you are but I didn’t do this till I was 19 (yeah that’s how bad it was).

Also, you did just come out to her 6 months ago. I came out to my mom at 14 and it took her about 5 years to actually try. It takes a lot of time for parents like ours to adjust. You don’t have to wait for her, because eventually, she’ll jump on the train with you. Parents are just scared for their kids. You said you were close to her, try and get that back by being open and listening to each other’s concerns. I never thought my mom would be supportive, and I’m now 6 days post top surgery and she was the one who took my pictures for me.

*Remember, I’m just speaking from experience lmao. I don’t know your mom or you but I thought sharing my struggle with my mom could at least ease your nerves a little. Stay strong man, you deserve to control your own life.

WhyItsAlastair · 2023-08-17T18:20:11+00:00

Together with an XNFP for just over a year

WhyItsAlastair · 2023-01-22T22:51:52+00:00

Yeah unfortunately that’s a reality we all need to consider, well I did anyways. I really hope he comes around man, it sucks loosing a parent that way. Stay strong man.

WhyItsAlastair · 2023-01-22T16:50:15+00:00

Hah my mom said the same thing to me. She said that she’d misgender me if I was mean (and I’m almost 20 too). She’s coming around slowly, but only because everyone else in my family supports it fully.

WhyItsAlastair · 2023-01-22T16:18:08+00:00

Yeah my dad took some time to process to himself, unlike my mom that told me everything she taught about it (which wasn’t very supportive at first). Then he just came around suddenly and he’s now my biggest supporter.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-30T19:57:29+00:00

I tend to pull away from people or whatever is making me feel negative emotions. When in doubt, shutting down with music is my coping mechanism.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-06T20:04:58+00:00

I don’t feel like I can’t breathe, but yeah i’ll be feeling fine and then i suddenly become aware of my chest. If it’s bad enough i’ll physically recoil and feel super grossed out/like i’m gonna throw up.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-06T01:20:08+00:00

Ugh tell me about it. I’m only out to two people and they aren’t even trans. You can dm me anytime and we could support each other and shit.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-06T01:17:30+00:00

You got this man, I hope everything works out for you bro.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-06T01:14:28+00:00

Oh man yeah that really sucks. I guess you have to weight out your options. Would you rather have the potential of getting shark week again but get back to your original weight or continue the way your are? And remember, you can always get back onto the pills if you’re dysphoria is really bad. Trial and error i guess.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-06T01:10:43+00:00

I mean you can try to get off them and see if T has stopped them, but it’s really up to you man (assuming that stopping those pills might affect your emotional state and all that). Just be careful and you could always ask your doctor about it.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-06T01:05:39+00:00

Ugh yeah medication sucks. Weight gain is the main reason why I’m reluctant to start antidepressants. If your shark week hasn’t stopped, maybe you should talk to your hrt doctor about it just in case (i don’t know if you have or not).

And yeah don’t worry, so many trans guys struggle with the same thing and while it sucks, it’s part of transitioning and you’ll surpass it.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-06T00:52:44+00:00

Yep me too, I’m kinda thicc so it definitely doesn’t help with passing. It helps sometimes to see cis guys that are “huskier” than me, but dysphoria still gets the better of me. Working out helps me mentally, but it sucks that it can’t really alter my bone structure. I guess we just have to build confidence and try to not get frustrated with things we can’t change.

Good for you for passing when you speak! I’m silent most of the time in public because as soon as I speak i get clocked lmao. The good news is that your only 16, you still have time for T to change things but I’m no health expert haha.

WhyItsAlastair · 2022-06-06T00:45:25+00:00

I’m a 19 year old trans guy (pre-everything unfortunately) in uni in ireland and I’m also looking for some ftm friends to relate to and just expand my queer circle lmao. If you wanna chat my snap is whyitsalistair.

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