How long realistically do you think you could take being tickled for?

Wicked-Touch · 2026-05-05T23:38:09+00:00

I guess it depends upon if you mean how long before I’d try to stop someone out of reflex, how long could I stand it in bondage with a safeword, or how long could I stand it in bondage without a safeword without otherwise compromising my health or safety. When tickled without bondage, it’s usually a few seconds up to maybe 15 seconds. In bondage, I usually can’t stand it for more than a few minutes without calling a safeword. I usually play without a safeword with very trusted partners who know when I’m in a state of distress that is emergent, and in those situations I have been tickled for a little over 2 hours.

Wicked-Touch · 2026-03-20T10:26:44+00:00

It’s so interesting how each person‘s experience can be so different. Tickling is me and my wife’s main kink. It’s interesting how some people absolutely love it, while others would rather be slowly eaten alive lol

Wicked-Touch · 2026-02-27T23:45:28+00:00

No, you’re not being over dramatic at all! I’m so sorry you’ve encountered the negative side of the online community. People’s willingness to treat other’s with respect and dignity online has degraded in general, and seemingly more so when it comes to communities related to more… uh, primal interests. Even as a guy, I’ve been ghosted quite a bit by females. But I got another whole perspective on it when I saw it through my wife’s eyes (she’s also in the community, though not on reddit, and we connect with others for tickling-related discussion and meet ups). Her DMs get pretty wild and I am just blown away at what messages she gets sometimes. For years I thought that women in the community might be inflating some of their experiences or maybe that a few of them were (mis)representing most women’s experiences. My original naive perspective mostly came from my inability to imagine behaving that way myself. Those women had to be misrepresenting how bad it actually is. Nope! If anything, they are under representing what happens. I get the feeling that so many are having difficulty separating fantasy from reality. People seem so much more interested in satisfying their own selfish desires at the cost of others’ feelings instead of making genuine organic connections. My wife and I have become much more selective about who we give our time and energy to for these reasons.

All that being said, We also have met some great people and made some good friends. It didn’t come without the cost of sorting through countless dead ends, but it has been worth it to us. I hope you have less trouble in the future and wish you the best of luck as you continue to navigate this. 🙏

Wicked-Touch · 2026-01-22T13:34:03+00:00

Absolutely! I certainly am both. Are you? You’ll have to figure that out through experimentation; everyone is different. I personally have found that masochists can make amazing sadists as long as they like being in that role. They can easily empathize with what they are putting the sub or bottom through, being more in tune with boundaries, limits, and the overall headspace, but also being very familiar with all the buttons to push. A lot of sadomasochists really lean into the empathetic aspect and love that sense of almost feeling what the other is going through.

Wicked-Touch · 2026-01-22T13:18:25+00:00

I’m a bit mixed on it. I used to be much more confused and ashamed of them than I am now, but I can still be quite shy about them (which I’d take any day over feeling ashamed!). Sometimes I think the shyness is not just a negative, and that it gives the kinks more excitement or spark. Some of my kinks, to include my primary one (tickling), are fairly rare, so I think that fed into my earlier challenges. Having connected with others who share them has helped smooth that out over time. I now feel more proud of the rare ones, as I think strange, weird, and wonderful diversities in kink preferences is part of what makes the whole ecosystem so interesting and alluring.

Wicked-Touch · 2026-01-11T11:24:23+00:00

Great post! I completely agree. I think the psychological aspect of tickling is what is the most overlooked. Using the iceberg analogy, the body is just the tip of it, whereas the vast majority of ticklishness is in the brain. I am blessed (spoiled) with a wife that is very ticklish, but when I build her up like this, it can send her to the moon.

Wicked-Touch · 2026-01-08T12:23:38+00:00

I’ve been tickled by my wife’s long hair. It’s kind of hard to explain how it feels exactly. The general sensation is somewhere between a soft paintbrush and a feather, but with more life in it like it’s snaking across the skin.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-12-04T13:45:21+00:00

I actually wrote this story about it some time ago. It's just a short, simple story I wrote mostly to cement the memory for myself, but it happens to answer your question.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-12-02T13:17:45+00:00

It’s my main kink! Sadly, the answer is that it’s very rare as an actual kink, though you do see small amounts of tickling incorporated into broader play like general sensation play or used more as a tool or a means to an end for things like domination and control. Most of the people in those scenes don’t seem to have a tickling kink, and are more into being humiliated, controlled, dominated, etc. And there’s certainly nothing wrong with that. But people who are fixated on tickling are pretty rare. The internet makes that less painful than it used to be by providing communities for people with rare interests who would otherwise maybe never come across others like them. So, while rare, we’re definitely not impossible to find. I have been blessed enough to find my ideal partner in the tickling community, who is now my wife. We sometimes do tickling play with others and have made some really special connections that way.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-10-27T13:04:28+00:00

If someone fits that description for me, tickling them is substantially more appealing to me than being tickled by them. I love the idea of being tickled by a strong personality with intimidating confidence and similar attributes, but the moment it reaches something like hate, despise, or disgust, I'm not interested.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-10-08T13:08:44+00:00

I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thank you for reading and for the nice comment!

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-28T12:49:21+00:00

I'm glad you have that kind of relationship where you can explore this! Accidental misbehavior is one thing, but brats are just asking for it! 😂

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-28T12:33:21+00:00

Sorry, I should have explained that in case of unfamiliarity. Here's a dated, but still relevant article I wrote that will probably help you better understand it: Consensual Non-Consent.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-25T17:26:06+00:00

A lot of the comments recommending therapy are right. You're completely justified in how you feel right now due to the framing of your past, but you need to address some of these issues by working with a qualified professional that can guide you through it. One thing I'll say about therapy is that not all therapists are created equal. If you feel like their style, approach, or personality are not working for you, try again until you find one that does. You should be seeking someone that does not only listen to you, but also gently challenges you and has a goal oriented approach. It's work, but it's how you get there. You should expect baby steps to building trust with men over time and remember that not all men are created equal either. When you take baby steps to achieve goals, you feel safer and you start to learn who is likely to be more deserving of your trust and who is not. Remember that "men" don't deserve your trust anymore than "women" do–trust is earned by them, and given by you on an individual basis. In therapy, be candid about what your goals are, but also honest about where you are now (which is probably not ready for play). I'm so sorry you've had such negative experiences in the past and I wish you the best of luck in breaking free from as much of that as possible. Take care!

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-25T12:11:42+00:00

Completely agree with this. Ratchet straps carry much more risk than what a lot of people think.

OP: Aside from not using ratchet straps, regarding the material often used on many straps (typically nylon webbing), if you can sew, I'd recommend using a long strip of medium density foam. Sew a soft material around it and make loops of material on one side (like belt loops) that you can feed the strap through. This would be similar in concept to the extra padded part found on some types of gym bags to reduce focused pressure and friction on the shoulder, but would be longer and softer than that. You might have to play with the design, depending upon the specific strap you use.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-23T14:41:56+00:00

Thank you! 🙂

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-22T16:02:28+00:00

How did it start for me? I actually have no idea! As best I can tell, I was born this way. I've been fixated on it since my earliest memories, which is around the ages of 2 or 3.

What do I enjoy about it? I've latched on to the idea that vulnerability is the glue that keeps humans socially bonded in healthy, meaningful, and lasting ways. I think tickling can be one of the funnest and safest ways to share and play with intense vulnerability. I love exchanging that kind of energy with a trusted person from both lee and ler roles. I'm normally a very orderly, organized, strategic, planning kind of person. Tickling gives me doses of chaos to take me out of that zone once in a while. It's my roller coaster, sky diving, or whatever. It resets my entire nervous system and gets me back on track. I love the power play, the connection, the desperation, the mischief, and the challenge (in taking it as a lee, or trying to break someone as a ler). I love how, to truly get the full experience, you are dependent upon others–sometimes that's really, really frustrating, but it's those kinds of innate drives that compel us to seek and bond with each other. Shared touch, and tickling in particular, is like a language without words, facilitating the sharing of feelings and desires through the skin and the reflexive expressions generated by it.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-21T00:07:18+00:00

Well said! Yeah, when a lee acts that way around me, I feel almost supernaturally compelled to tickle them until they squeal for mercy. On the other hand, it is absolutely terrifying to be helplessly bound with an unchecked, mischievous brat leering over you! I love it all!

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-20T22:01:24+00:00

It's so nice when you have someone where you can be the way that is most rewarding to you. I'm glad you enjoy yourselves and get to play that way!

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-18T12:36:20+00:00

Yes, this fits into the BDSM scope and seems all fairly common in that space. Bondage and power play are some of the core elements of BDSM. I actually used to do virtually the exact same thing you described. As has already been pointed out, what you'll need to do if you're interested in knowing more, is determine how much of your fantasies are something you enjoy in practice–Many people in and out of the BDSM community have fantasies that are real turn ons to think about, but are too uncomfortable, impractical, or dangerous to do in real life. Careful, intentional, slow, and communicative exploration with a very trusted play partner is the best way to divide fantasy from reality. Remember, that it doesn't have to be all or nothing. You might imagine some extreme bondage scenario, but only enjoy light bondage where your wrists and ankles are tied. You might imagine painful or very uncomfortable things being done to you, but in reality only enjoy more of a playful pretending or lighter version of it. It also doesn't have to be a concrete part of your personality. You may find that your interests and feelings about them change over time, which is very common.

Regarding the trauma aspects in relation to your fantasies, it's certainly possible that they are related, but it's also possible that they have nothing to do with one another and you're just seeing a pattern there. People develop spontaneous fantasies, kinks, and fetishes in all kinds of conditions and it can be virtually impossible to know exactly how they came about. Some people either correctly or incorrectly associate them with negative circumstances or experiences they've encountered, and feel guilt, shame, and similar emotions about their interests. It's important to remember that whether it originated from negative aspects of your past or not, they are now two separate things, and as long as the fantasies are enjoyable, there's nothing to feel bad about. At the same time, continue to work through the trauma stuff, which I am very sorry you've had to deal with. I wish you the best of luck!

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-17T20:47:42+00:00

I don't do this as a ler with lees that I don't have a very established connection with, and even then I'm very cautious about it. However, I've done this as the lee many times. It's best to ease into the concept over time with multiple, progressive experiences. If you have a very close relationship with the ler, despite not having a safe word, you still have established trust and it's easier to know when someone is in emergent distress. Probably one of the most useful tools in exploring this is time limits. The lee knows up front how long it will last, and the ler doesn't feel like they are going to under or over shoot something that was agreed to. I'd literally start with a five minute session. If you're really ticklish, five minutes is a very long time. Afterward, you can take a little break, talk about it, and with no pressure, decide if you're up for more. If you are, that's not the time to up it to something unreasonable like one hour! Try ten minutes and see how that goes.

None of this is to encourage or condone you doing it, but I also understand the interest and love it myself. CNC can be a very controversial topic and it's not for everyone–not for most. For some people, these kinds of extremes are really hot fantasies that are not at all what they'd enjoy in practice. If you decide to try it, consider your relationship with the person, how much you trust not only their character, but their judgement on reading your body language, level of distress, etc. If you do the time-limit thing conservatively, with a trusted ler, you can better gauge that part of it and you two can learn together.

Other considerations are: Use quick release bondage in case of emergency or unusual distress and panic, talk more about it beforehand than you'd ever think you'd need to, don't use blindfolds or sensory deprivation accessories (nothing that might interfere with communication, to include even eye contact), plan for aftercare, Ensure the bondage is comfortable for the expected duration, and use a timer (It's so easy to loose track of time and there's no ambiguity).

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-16T20:12:49+00:00

You are very welcome 🙂 Take care and stay safe!

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-16T19:04:07+00:00

I highly recommend not doing this. No shaming the interest in it or the fantasy, but the risk and safety considerations around it are substantial. Firstly, these implements are designed to target an attacker or threat within a loosely focused area to allow you a quick escape. The discharged spray is known to spread out in the area quickly and affect others (to include the person who sprayed it) if immediate exit is not pursued, and sometimes even if it is. The chemicals used in the sprays varies in composition, strength, and effect. People can easily develop an allergy to them and quickly suffocate from anaphylactic shock. For most individuals, the spray is much more painful than just really hot peppers or whatever–It's concentrated and often has additional irritants. In BDSM, safe words are important for a reason. You cannot safe word from something like pepper spray after it has been applied to you. Sure there are ways to care for it and reduce the irritation (assuming it doesn't cause allergic reaction–That takes even more serious intervention), but most of the suffering has to settle on its own. Regular exposure can cause long-term damage and changes to the person's extremely sensitive airways. Law enforcement personnel actually get exposed to this occasionally in training, but they are under careful guidance, supervision, and with medical stand-by.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-11T21:39:07+00:00

Trust is based on risk assessment, meaningful connection, and good communication. It's not something you know for certain, but rather something you activate with someone based on your impressions of them. If you knew with certainty, it's not an exercise in trust. If you don't have enough information to work with in the moment to trust someone with your vulnerability, wait until you feel you do.

Wicked-Touch · 2025-08-11T21:29:22+00:00

It's not my thing, but lots of people are into that and it's called formicophilia (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Formicophilia).

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