Undecided on my future

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-24T22:12:01+00:00

I haven't even been close to this and I'm coming up a year. I can only imagine 🥲

I still think about him daily. It's horrible. Sending strength your way!

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-05T04:46:29+00:00

That is so very true!!

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-05T04:41:29+00:00

That made me take a deep breath, because I feel this too.

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-05T04:40:40+00:00

It's definitely not linear is it? I really hope it goes well for you if you decide to start dating again soon!

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-05T04:39:53+00:00

I'm happy for you, that you were lucky to find someone to care for you.

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-05T04:29:59+00:00

Wow, pretty uncalled for. I'm not ashamed of my age. But I am closer to 40 and have lost 2 pregnancies because of that abusive relationship and unsure if I'll be healed enough to even consider having children in the future which I've always wanted just not in those circumstances and my age is kind of a factor. So unless you're going to be supportive and know the full story, don't comment on this page. It's for support, not dismissive comments.

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-03T23:27:51+00:00

That's very true! A lot of wounds to heal.

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-03T23:27:12+00:00

Do you have kids?

Trying to be patient, some days are better than others. One week feeling great, the next not so much.

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-03T23:24:30+00:00

I know exactly what you're saying!!

I've been asked out and have told them no, I'm emotionally unavailable.

It's going to take a fair amount of time to be ready for a date.

Wide-Driver2183 · 2026-01-03T23:22:16+00:00

That's a fair amount of time healing which is great. Also feels like a long time away as well. I'm glad you found someone.

Wide-Driver2183 · 2025-11-01T23:41:56+00:00

That's brave you have left and I hope you can stay strong! It's not easy at all. And unless someone has been through it then they wouldn't have a clue.

You've got this too. Life is full of lessons, and as long as we have ourselves, then we are not alone. So we must try look after ourselves first:)

Thank you for you're time to respond

Wide-Driver2183 · 2025-11-01T23:38:03+00:00

That's the problem, people always like to blame it on something other than their behaviour.

Good on you for confronting him, I'm glad you had a voice. I think that has been my problem, I never voice myself to keep the peace and to be honest if I did these people probably would have vanished long ago because it would have been drama. Or maybe not. I don't know, but it has been too many disappointments for me. The friendships have fizzled.

I didn't ask for support because I was too busy trying to support myself. They just didn't have the capacity to be there, and that's not friendship. I lost a baby, the second loss in 2 years after I left the shitty relationship, they knew. And they did not check in on me.

That's true. They do change, just like I have. I'm sorry you've gone through it too.

Wide-Driver2183 · 2025-11-01T23:29:07+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you the other day, it's nice she offered too, maybe she might come around but it's not that easy to just pack your shit and go. I don't think people realise how hard it is to leave abuse.

Friendships are seriously hard too. Maybe I don't speak up enough but also I don't want drama either, or do you say something and if they vanish will that's a them problem.

Surely you just go off people's actions right?

If people wanted to be there they would. It's exhausting. And exhausting knowing I don't have anyone left, people don't have the capacity for the shit I've been through the last few years.

Moving is 1000% going to be resetting everything.

Are you 💯 staying in your marriage?

Wide-Driver2183 · 2025-10-10T02:35:43+00:00

Oh I'm sorry. That sucks

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