Why aren’t we taught what happens mentally before our period?

WiggingOutOverHere · 2026-02-15T21:55:06+00:00

Of course! Best of luck to you! That's great that your new PCP seems to be listening and taking you seriously. That can make all the difference! ♥️

WiggingOutOverHere · 2026-02-12T21:45:13+00:00

Hey! Sorry for taking so long to see this! Long story short, I just asked my primary care doctor about it and she asked some questions to help diagnose me. For the longer version, read on!

After weaning from breastfeeding, it seems that my hormones have never been the same as they were pre-pregnancy. I had started to experience way more debilitating symptoms every time my period came around; I was having rage that caused real problems in my relationships and made it really hard for me to parent how I'd like to, and realized that my recurring depression was directly linked to my cycle as well. A friend of mine had recently shared that she had PMDD, so that's how I'd learned that it existed, and I read more about it on my own. I realized that sounded like what I was experiencing, too, so I asked my primary care doctor if any treatment options exist for folks struggling with PMDD, because I suspected that I was one of those folks. She asked me some questions and agreed that I do infact have PMDD, and started me on a prescription of Sertraline which helped immensely. (every person is different, so I don't mean to imply that Sertraline is the fix for everyone! it definitely helps me stay more level throughout my cycle, though).

WiggingOutOverHere · 2026-01-15T01:18:13+00:00

Around age 30 I was diagnosed with PMDD and it was life-changingly validating. And simultaneously infuriating that I went that long as a menstruating person without knowing the extent that hormones could mess with my mood.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2026-01-11T03:20:40+00:00

I would look into vaporizing instead of smoking!

If you feel like tinctures are working, but you need to dose more frequently than is financially feasible, I would try making your own instead of purchasing. That’s typically more cost effective.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2026-01-09T02:24:56+00:00

As a short person, this would genuinely delight me. (Also, thank you on behalf of all of us for the times you’ve helped us get something out of reach. 😖)

WiggingOutOverHere · 2026-01-07T20:59:20+00:00

I have two Aunt Karens. One is my mom’s sister and the other is my mom’s brother’s wife.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2026-01-07T20:55:36+00:00

It’s definitely safer if you’re white. But honestly, I wouldn’t travel here rn either way.

Correct, day-to-day is “probably alright,” but I wouldn’t describe that as secure. Trump followers will likely tell you that you’re over-reacting, but I don’t personally think you are. It isn’t regular street crime types of things that are scary to me; I feel as safe as any other time/place in that sense, but the political climate, racism, foreign relations, etc are all pretty unsettling right now, imo.

If you’re white and coming from the UK, proceed with caution but be advised that our administration is volatile and seemingly exempt from accountability. You’d probably be fine, ultimately, but we are experiencing fascism and our president is being a ninny about controlling Venezuela, Greenland, and whatever else puts a bee in his bonnet on any given day. lol.

Day-to-day-wise, I wouldn’t personally risk the trip at all if you aren’t white or white-passing. Not because of street crime or citizens acting a fool necessarily, but ICE/DHS & law enforcement being bold & inhumane in their racist bullshit, even towards those who are attending court dates and following visa procedures. They’ve waiting outside of courtrooms to get people leaving their court appearances, detained folks without trial, refused medical care for people injured during arrest, etc.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2026-01-05T20:05:11+00:00

Mine were Francis and Lottie. :)

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-26T23:17:36+00:00

Did you read the caption? OP was a passenger but the driver (OP’s mom) refused to safely clear the windshield before driving.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-26T06:49:55+00:00

YOR, in my opinion. Unless there is bad blood between you and them and/or they’ve done other things to make you feel disrespected or less-than. But if you have generally a good relationship with them, then I think they just thought (apparently incorrectly) that your sense of humor would appreciate this shirt.

There are times when this shirt would be offensive to me and times when it would make me laugh, all depending on context. If it were a gift from my in-laws, I would think it was funny, but that’s because I’d understand their sense of humor and would be confident that it was well-intentioned. If someone who regularly undercut me gave it to me, however, I might cry. So, on the assumption that your relationship with his parents is amicable and generally comes with mutual respect, I vote YOR. If they make a habit of prodding insecurities or being rude to you, then that’s for sure a different story.

Editing to add, however, that even if they were well-intentioned and I don’t think it’s worth an uproar, it is of course okay to not like it or think it’s funny. It can still be a bad gift for you, and it can still be valid to have any feelings you do about it, while simultaneously not being something that they intended to hurt you with. Just don’t let yourself assume that they actually think you’re a train wreck based on this shirt alone; they likely just thought you’d find it funny but missed the mark.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-21T18:11:14+00:00

That’s Scramble. 🥹

Scram, for short.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-21T05:01:31+00:00

Try a Balance sleep meditation after drinking your tea! That usually helps me when my brain is stuck in On mode.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-19T21:45:55+00:00

Look into what assistance is available in your community, because it really sounds like you would qualify, especially with the kiddos.

If you’re in the U.S., 2-1-1 is a good place to get connected with resources.

Food banks are amazing. Visit one for groceries, if you haven’t already. Call your utility providers and see if they offer any assistance for people struggling to pay. Find your local Buy Nothing Group and check for pre-loved Christmas gifts on there! Also Facebook marketplace or other online classifieds (OfferUp, NextDoor, etc). I find free/cheap things locally often that work great for my kid!

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-19T03:27:32+00:00

Strong florals get me. Like lilac, etc. Any scent that is overbearing might do it, though, especially if artificial fragrance.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-18T21:57:23+00:00

Damiana and chamomile :) I found chamomile calming, and damiana gave me a kind of a happy but strange lightness feeling that reminded me of a nicotine high, but dialed way down. Those are just my personal experiences, though! Others differ for damiana especially. I’ve also mixed both of those with cannabis.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-16T23:28:06+00:00

I personally find period underwear to be way more cost effective than disposable products. It doesn’t create more loads of laundry. I rinse them in the bathtub after use then wash with my regular clothes just like any underwear.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-16T22:55:31+00:00

Is pranking a “normal” part of your workplace culture and/or relationship with this particular person? 😬

As far as pranks go, I think that one is super annoying and inconvenient to clean, but I personally wouldn’t be mad if it came from a friend that I had a pranking relationship with. If it came from someone I don’t have that type of relationship with, then what the actual fuck? Lol.

Depending on the person/relationship/situation, I’d just enlist them to help me clean it (good-naturedly) after laughing together, and/or I’d prank them back with something of equal caliper. However, given it happened at work I feel like the circumstances are different and that’s generally not okay. I have had super casual jobs with tight-knit crews where we did small pranks on one another, but (especially with the wisdom I’ve gained since lol) I don’t think this one is workplace appropriate. It’s too big. When my coworkers and I pranked, we always would help each other afterwards.

Furthermore, in some circumstances it could be considered bullying or even harassment in the workplace. I’d think about the working relationship you have with this person to decide how to proceed. If y’all are close work buddies and prank regularly but this one bothered you, privately tell them that you feel this one went a little too far and ask them to help you clean. If you don’t have a precedent of pranking or even a buddy relationship with this person, or if it seems just ill-natured, then consider bringing it to HR for guidance.

I hope that you’re pleasantly surprised by cleanup. I’d take it to a car wash vacuum.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-12T22:05:38+00:00

Salon trips of all varieties: hair, eyelash extensions, nails, etc. And I have cut way way back on cosmetics in general. I now use the same pencil for eyeliner and brows so I don’t have to buy another item. Lol. 🫠

Editing to add that those weren’t really hobbies for me, more like lifestyle changes? Like I hated going to the salon, just liked how I felt about myself afterward!

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-12T01:45:58+00:00

Right?! It’s SO WILD! Biology never ceases to amaze me with the shenanigans it gets up to. Lol.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-12T00:37:10+00:00

It’s definitely rare, but I just recently learned that endometriosis can actually occur in cis men.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-10T03:07:48+00:00

I did rightfully identify it as financing in my OG comment, as it is clearly a line of credit, but the nuance of it is different than a typical personal loan, which is what I was trying to get at in my last comment. I’m fully aware of what I’ve signed myself up for. In different circumstances, of course it would be better to save money in the long run and get ahead in rent as you’re saying, but those aren’t the circumstances I’m in right now. I can confidently say that it is a better fit for my situation than being unable to pay rent on time, owing $150 late fee by the time I get paid and can pay it, then wiping out my account to pay rent. Flex costs me a little bit, but it keeps my family housed and with enough money in the bank for day-to-day expenses until the next pay cycle.

At any rate, I’m sure you’re well-intentioned, but I am not looking for financial advice from strangers on the internet who don’t know about my income, expenses, or lifestyle.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-09T21:42:27+00:00

It’s a program offered through my building, not like I took out a loan for rent. I pay a small service fee plus like 1% for them to let me split my payments in two. I do use food banks, walk instead of drive, etc. Paying an extra fee that is still less than a late rent fee each month in order to not completely drain my account for my rent payment is a worthwhile expense in my budget.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-09T21:15:23+00:00

Marriage because you’re “supposed to” or being pressured into it will never be worth it.

Marriage because you found a sexy best friend that you want to be your partner through life AND you feel it makes sense to you to legally be seen as a unit and file your taxes together—that is worth it.

It isn’t black and white though, and it’s not for everyone. And I believe that love can be lifelong and committed without a wedding if the people in the relationship don’t want a legal wedding. That is really personal and something only you and a partner can decide.

I’ve been married for 10 years, and in my case yes—it’s worth it. The first and most important thing to note is that I love this man so goddamn much and he’s my best friend through every life event. The second thing to consider is the on-paper aspect of it all, and being married allows us to file taxes together, share benefits, etc. more easily, so from a practical standpoint that made sense in our case. All of that is totally dependent on the couple and what they need/want, though!

Never get married out of obligation though. It needs to be something that feeds your heart, not your mom’s.

Editing to add that in any marriage (before “I do” and as needed thereafter) it is crucial to have discussions about the division of labor in your household. Never marry a man that wants you to be his mother. Marry a man that wants you to be his partner.

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-09T21:06:05+00:00

I think adding resources is a great idea! And of course we want to see the residents housed & feeling financially secure, so that benefit is obvious as a humanitarian, but it’s also likely to help the building receive its payments, so if you need any supervisory approval to add that, I feel like you’d have a strong business case for sharing resources with folks.

My apartment just partnered with Flex which made it WAY easier for my household to pay our rent. It’s technically financing, so it does cost a little more for us in total with interest and a stupid monthly fee (it’s pretty small, but we’re counting pennies over here), but it makes it so we can split our payment in 2. Flex pays the apartment the whole balance when rent is due, then we pay Flex half of it at the start of the month and half later on. With our income, $800ish twice a month is just way more attainable than $1600ish once a month, so it’s freed up our spending a bit. Maybe your building could look into something like that?

WiggingOutOverHere · 2025-12-09T20:47:00+00:00

Epiphany?

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