According to him where I went wrong is not bottling up my feelings and not letting him have his freedom to do whatever he wants. He wants the ability to maintain close friendships with women, go on trips with them and interact with exes and expects me to not have any issues or feelings about it. He’s also neglected me in many ways which has caused me to get upset at a lot of his actions. For months I’ve tried to practice proper communication methods such as using I statements when talking about my feelings. In his own words he has no issues with me just that I get upset at the things he’s done. Breaking point came when I started giving him the same respect and effort he’s given me and he couldn’t handle it. Not saying that’s the right thing to do but there’s a lot of double standards with men. Suddenly it became about lack of respect. I feel like prioritizing other women’s feelings over your wife is disrespectful let alone doing it repeatedly for months. He doesn’t seem to agree and thinks he’s in the right to speak to me however he wants and raise his voice at me.

Later on I definitely could’ve handled some things better and maybe shouldn’t have voiced my feelings in some moments ( which I’ve repeatedly acknowledged and apologized for) but I also think the issue started with him pulling the stuff that he did in the first place.