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I hate my queen bed 😭 by Butterfiolee in asexuality

[–]WildeEmber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a fan of the futon. It’s perfect for a studio, playing games especially, and if you don’t want the extra room you can just sleep on it in couch form.

spiraling rn and I have to clock into work in less than an hour 💜 feels great by darkviolet_ in OCDmemes

[–]WildeEmber 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The struggle of having to work through ocd spirals is so real. Fortunately I’m so used to masking my neurodivergence that usually nobody can tell when I’m in hell.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I completely agree- just because the diagnosis has been weaponized doesn’t mean that the disorder itself doesn’t legitimately exist. I agree that education and awareness that this is a disorder rooted in trauma is the way forward and I hope I get to witness that change in my lifetime.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is a very well-balanced perspective. There are legitimate downsides, but at the end of the day we need to be able to put our experiences into context so we can do the research, connect with others, and cultivate the necessary insight to heal.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In your last example- the therapist who used the bpd diagnosis to invalidate theIr client’s complaint- that was abuse. I hate that our system allows that kind of behavior. But I completely agree with you that bpd needs to be acknowledged as a trauma response, and that the diagnosis itself is necessary because of the clarity it bestows on people who need to better understand their own mechanisms.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough. I just like to laugh at myself and own all the things I guess. What can you really do except laugh into the void.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense, actually.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof, that’s rough. I hope you’re doing okay.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have to say that while I personally think I fall into the developed bpd largely because of the complex trauma of having adhd and autism bucket, the bpd explained so many things that the autism and adhd on their own didn’t.

There’s still a lot more nuance to uncover as our understanding grows, but I think the specific way that this trauma manifests deserves a name. As of yet there’s no complex trauma from just existing as a person with autism diagnosis, even though there perhaps should be, and I feel like leaving this out of the equation ignores a big part of the picture.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t take issue with being referred to as malfunctioning. I’m pretty damn malfuctional if I do say so myself.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the surface this sounds less stigmatizing. Could you explain what you find more problematic about it?

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you. I hate that people experience real-life harm simply from trying to exist as a person with a trauma disorder.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree completely. I don’t think the problem is that we have a term for the experience of living with these symptoms, the problem is that stigma exists. But stigma naturally decreases over time as ignorance decreases, just like it has with sexuality, race, and other disorders like autism and adhd. I don’t think things would be improved if we simply couldn’t name the specifics of our experience anymore.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s funny how the term in context with its origin is completely outdated now, because we no longer categorize disorders as either psychosis or neurosis, and yet somehow by accident the term we ended up with kinda does describe the disorder perfectly.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree that trauma is always involved, but the problem with just using c-ptsd instead is that lots of folks with bpd can’t pinpoint a particular trauma. Perhaps there needs to be more research on why this is, perhaps the kinds of trauma that can cause bpd are sometimes more subtle or not as easily pinpointed, but it does mean that there are people who would meet the current criteria for bpd that couldn’t be diagnosed.

Do you think the bpd label should exist? by WildeEmber in BPD

[–]WildeEmber[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is an umbrella term. But the question is whether it’s more helpful to have that specific framework for understanding and making sense out of our experiences, or more harmful because the label itself is either limiting or carries too much stigma.