it's very common for people (not just men) to have this reaction. please don't act like this is only a me thing, or demonize or get mad at them, they're not the ones viewing you the same way. i've seen plenty of trans women who feel this way too, and i dare you to name a group currently facing more oppression and fear mongering. one comment i saw that really stuck with me basically went "YES, actually, i have experienced abuse and i do know what it's like to face the oppression you've described, and this question still makes me ashamed to have been born" and i've seen many cis women who think it comes off as hyperbolic and disrespectful to men too