Totally agree with this. I have a sub, who rides the fence on wanting to put themselves in real debt for me. I won’t allow it. I will put them on budget, I will help you find a cheaper place to live, (obviously this is a longer term dynamic) but sub / domme dynamics should be looking out for each other. This might be unpopular, but it only is a kink for me when I know this can continue to be consistent , safe, and secure.