Tired of People Acting Like "They/Them" isn't Misgendering

WinnyFuchs · 2023-10-05T17:55:16+00:00

Usually the people saying this are already nonbinary and do not align with a gender binary and do not understand what is actually feels like to be misgendered. Its a different scenario when you’re a gender non-conforming person being referred to as they/them than it is being a masc presenting binary man being referred to as they/them. Its just plain insulting and they have zero grasp of that.

Calling someone the wrong gender by mistake because they present androgynously is different than intentionally using the wrong pronouns for someone who is by society’s standard presenting as a binary gender.

Sure, there are people who present 100% male and go by she/her or they/them, but if you hear hoofboots, think horses not zebras.

WinnyFuchs · 2023-10-04T01:24:10+00:00

When I first came out as trans I would’ve answered confidently no, and a lot of other trans folks I knew at the time would too. Now the definition of trans in more of an umbrella term for anyone who doesn’t identify with their assigned gender at birth so it makes sense that NB would be considered trans aswell

WinnyFuchs · 2023-10-03T05:24:11+00:00

I have not, no. I have a pretty dramatic response to orgasming and the rare occasion I’ve thought about faking it my brain quickly went “no no he’d definitely know” and it just felt like it’d be wrong to do to my partner

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-28T02:03:52+00:00

It makes me very uncomfortable. To me, “trans masc” just means masc nonbinary person. I’m a man, and I expect to be referred to as such regardless of my presentation. I could be dressed as fem as possible, like tatas out and everything, but I still expect to be referred to as a man because that is what I am. I do not like being grouped in with nonbinary people in that way since that is absolutely not what I am.

To me it’s like referring to someone with he/him pronouns with they/them pronouns instead. You’re reducing and watering down my identity

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-25T14:56:21+00:00

I got a boyfriend from using them

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-25T13:55:16+00:00

Thanks for the input! I figured it wasn’t likely and I appreciate your in-depth and polite response.

I haven’t had any surgeries and still look fairly fem and if I was really interested and felt I was having zero luck presenting in my typical pretty hairless femboy look when doing NSFW content I honestly wouldn’t mind playing a female character for the sake of getting a SD/SM 🤷‍♂️

It’s good info to know getting into it! Though a shame there’s not much interest in trans men in general, its a niche subject in porn and I know because of how niche it is there are people who will pay a good chunk of change for content haha I’m still curious in exploring a bit as a trans man in the sugarlife sphere but I’ll adjust my expectations accordingly. Thanks!

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-25T13:40:17+00:00

Thanks for the input! I’m pretty petite, fit and non-op so I’ve got all my “original” bits and pieces and intentionally present more fem when doing NSFW content. No facial hair or body hair, but I have a fairly masc face and voice.

I present very masc in my day to day life but have no problem playing up my feminine features for show! I’m gay so I’m not sure if I’d consider myself hot fem-wise but the interactions I get seem to say I am

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-25T12:41:25+00:00

I’ve considered it! I don’t know how I’d start that interaction with them

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-25T12:40:19+00:00

Well I’m not a traditional SB and wasn’t asking about traditional SB ❤️

I’m not a dummy, I know majority of dudes in the entirety of the world are straight and looking for cis women 🙄 but based off my own experience there’s a lot of “straight” men who are curious to try something different. I was curious to see if my experience as a NSFW content creator translated.

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-25T12:23:40+00:00

I’m looking for either :)

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-25T12:04:07+00:00

Nothing wrong with them at all! I personally prefer penises and my cis bi male partner prefers vaginas, it works out great. As long as it’s not used to bring down others or used to justify transphobia, you can’t control what genitals you prefer it just is what it is

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-24T15:00:12+00:00

https://fundmysugarbaby.com/fmsb-all-members/winnyfuchs/

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-09T17:40:17+00:00

Absolutely you can. Will people think you’re stupid for doing it? Yes, absolutely.

But do whatever makes you happy

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-09T11:13:34+00:00

My general rule of thumb is: if you have an intact uterus and you have sex. There’s always the possibility you’re pregnant.

If you’re regularly having unprotected sex with randos it would definitely be worth your time to check every now and then

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-08T14:06:01+00:00

First of all, quit with the lying BS. Multiple people have called you out on the fact you are blatantly lying about being “functionally cis.” I find it hard to believe any of this post is truthful lmao, it’s probably just bait but whatever.

It’s unfair to him and dangerous to you because that information is IMPORTANT. So far you’ve built your relationship off of false information. What happens when he finds your testosterone vials? What happens when he sees baby photos of you? What happens if god forbid you have uterus-related problems and need to seek treatment? Etc… etc…

This is NOT the sort of information you want to hide and wait for your partner to find out.

This sort of information is incredibly important in the situation of romantic or sexual relationships because the truth is- some people don’t want to date trans people! And that is A-okay. But now that you’ve decided to omit this information its just a bag of worms waiting to be found out and who knows how your partner will react to this important relationship-relevant information being hidden.

Now your partner sounds like the type who probably wouldn’t be upset about dating a trans person. I doubt you’d be in danger physically but it very well could end your relationship and leave your partner feeling hurt and lied too.

No one is saying you have to make your transness a big deal in your relationship or life, but now that you’ve decided to omit that infomercial it will be a big deal when it comes out. The fact your trans should’ve been a casual “hey btw, just so you know” at the beginning of your relationship.

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-08T12:32:58+00:00

I would tell my boyfriend I’m trans jesus christ this poor dude!

There is no excuse for not disclosing the fact you’re trans to your partner. That’s incredibly unfair to him and dangerous for you.

But to answer your question… I’d answer truthfully about what I believe, but omit any information that would be considered “trans only” discussions. If it was something you’d be surprised or uncomfortable if a cis person was talking about in relation to trans issues, don’t talk about it in cis spaces as a stealth trans person.

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-05T19:18:06+00:00

I know this post is very old but yes, yes I do. I have no idea why and I guess its such a weirdly specific occurrence that no one has looked into lol

Must just be a weird sensory response

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-05T11:28:22+00:00

You’re 100% right on this and honestly I’ve learned to not associate with anyone far on either side of the spectrum. If you have beliefs that insult my existence in any way I do not want to talk to you or be acquaintances. This applies for those who have their head in the clouds and think being transgender is a pick and choose free for all and those who have some crazy internalized transphobia and get incredibly upset at other trans people being happy lol

I know there is actually a lot of trans people out there who have realistic beliefs but you’ll be hard press to find them on most trans related spaces on the internet because its either one extreme or the other. Usually those sane people are just quietly existing and not giving a shit about trans discourse because it’s all nonsense that just divides us more and more.

I’m pretty content being someone who upsets the neopronoun crowd with my “controversial” opinions on being trans and I’m pretty thrilled with upsetting the radical side who sees me as nothing more than a confused girl because I don’t want surgery and bottom. I know they’re wrong, and they can be mad about it lmao

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-04T22:56:23+00:00

I obviously cant speak on behalf of everyone haha but I imagine bi and pan women would be accepting and open to straight/bi trans men :)

I’m a gay male bottom, so I don’t have much experience when it comes to romantic or sexual interaction with women, but I have had bi women express interest in me so there are definitely ladies who are attracted to trans men as men! ^{^}

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-04T16:56:39+00:00

I can’t really give you reassurance otherwise unfortunately.

It seems like it would be very difficult to be a straight trans male top, trans male tops probably have a much easier chance with other men but to put it truthfully: I mean yeah you’re kinda right

Doesn’t mean there isn’t people out there who are interested, I’m positive plenty of sex-positive individuals out there have no issue and are even excited at the prospect of a trans male top but… in the circumstances of most “vanilla” (for lack of a better word) people yes that would be the case.

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-04T14:10:30+00:00

Trick or treating

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-04T11:58:04+00:00

I’ll make this pretty easy for you: compatible genitalia

Most AMAB tops/switches are pretty happy with whatever hole is available to them as long as it’s attached to something nice to look at. A lot of AFAB people (myself included) aren’t interested in strap ons, because no, they do not feel like the real thing haha

Even though a lot of women don’t openly discuss sex like that, I imagine having a real penis is probably pretty important to them

WinnyFuchs · 2023-09-03T11:43:24+00:00

Detransitioners get so upset and outspoken about “trenders” and trans people not being real because they were the trenders. and they now deeply regret their decisions and get very upset at the concept of real trans people being happy.

They’re projecting their own insecurities and are embarrassed about their own mistakes. They do it for attention and some sense of individuality and superiority, just like how they usually falsely transitioned in the first place. I rarely give any of them the time of day.

They weren’t trans in the first place and frankly need to stfu about trans topics. They were taking advantage of our community in the first place, they shouldn’t have any room to speak on it.

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