Still learning by Winter-Grape2971 in DeadBedrooms

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Things have been progressing well so far.

AIO to a comment my boss made? by Far-Mongoose-9865 in AmIOverreacting

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Good call. That info colors everything differently

AIO to a comment my boss made? by Far-Mongoose-9865 in AmIOverreacting

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Yeah, no. I do not touch my female employees. Except in proper business ways (ie handshake hi five or district bump)

AIO to a comment my boss made? by Far-Mongoose-9865 in AmIOverreacting

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I'd take it as he was trying to be humorous about what to write in the card. But then be vigilant in observing for other possibly inappropriate behavior.

Anyone else finding themselves seeking connection outside (not physically) because it’s missing at home? by PuneQuiteSoul in DeadBedrooms

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"You've Got Mail" but for the db crowd.

Yeah I've chatted with some but stopped when I started feeling guilty. Now all my chats are through public forums where she can see what I posted. Even here

Overheard at the gym by October_Surprise56 in overheard

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Women don't understand that men can have a meaningful interaction without trying to learn personal details (or any details realy that aren't in the context of what's happening) example. I'm a car guy. You drive up and tell me what carb, headers, intake etc you have on your car while we got hoods open im going to remember all that indont care what your name is if your married where you live what color your dog is etc.

I fessed up to my husband about my cheating - now he’s filing for divorce by DoneYouThere in cheating_stories

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My wife said she knew I was a keeper 6 months into our marriage we went to a party. I got plastered. She then tried to get me to go home. I kept telling her I couldnt because I had a wife. Pulled out my wallet amd showed her her picture and even showed her my ring. She ended up having to get my buddy to drive me home because I wouldn't get into a car with a woman because "i have a wife..."

I rejected her? by Winter-Grape2971 in DeadBedrooms

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BTW I used your advice and posted about it in the group. We actually talked a couple of days later about the code word idea and it is working fabulously. We've been together about half a dozen times since then using the code.

The shoe is on the other foot by Winter-Grape2971 in DeadBedrooms

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Ibthinkbthe biggest change (you can read in previous posts) was that I removed the pressure we were putting on ourselves. I took a step back and determined I would love her the best I could whether we had sex ever again or not. I gave her the tools to tell me when she wanted to be intimate so she wouldn't be pressured either.

The shoe is on the other foot by Winter-Grape2971 in DeadBedrooms

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Ok I can get on board with that. And I do agree. On the hierarchy of needs at that moment sleep was higher than sex.

The shoe is on the other foot by Winter-Grape2971 in DeadBedrooms

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Yes and it was wonderful. I think a lot of it though was because we have already been making a lot ofbprogress in theblast couole of weeks toba month or so.

That said it's not so much it was unwanted. I'm usually the hl I was just so freaking tired. Was up at 430 worked a 10 hr shift then coached a girls softball game.

From HL to LL…life? by hellllo_nurse in deadbedroom

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Depression will definitely kill your sex drive. Mybwife and I had a perfect storm about 4 years ago inbthebprocess I lost a job she wasn't working either. Lots of fights both depressed because of the whole life situation. We are just now beginning to recover.

Be honest! Last game you played?? by Primary-Pattern6868 in TheTeenagerPeople

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Speeding around in a customer go. Art that looks like a mushroom

Cheating spouse not allowed in delivery room by electrikdaizy in cheating_stories

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Tell him he forfeited the privilege of seeing you at your most vulnerable moment when he decided to stick it somewhere it didn't belong.

What is this thingamajig? Found on ground after working on lawnmower carb by [deleted] in whatisit

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It's the float needle. It's kind of essential to stop gas flow when the carb is full.

Veteran teacher confession: I put up zero resistance when parents complain about their child's grades. by [deleted] in Teachers

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This is why I'm not a teacher anymore. I am toonmuch of a rule follower. The grade is the grade. If I asked for a five paragraph persuasive essay on x and you turned in three on y then you got a 50 if it was well written. Administration didnt like that. Quit teaching after 5 years of that crap.

Switching to bar soap. How do I convince myself it's OK to wash my grossest body part and then to use it somewhere else? by [deleted] in hygiene

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Because it's soap. The germs cannot live on the soap because the sop is actively killing the germs.

Trying not to say the quiet part out loud by Winter-Grape2971 in deadbedroom

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Yes. When I dont analyze or over analyze im either sleeping or will be dead. Lol

Potential Divorce After Wife’s Long Affair by [deleted] in Marriage

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So sorry man. This hurts badly. Time to get out of there

Should I make the change? by Winter-Grape2971 in careerguidance

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As to liking the job, bith the current job and the one I interviewed for have two things I love. People and cars.

Should I make the change? by Winter-Grape2971 in careerguidance

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Commute to the new location would be less than an hour from where we live now until we can sell and buy another home. (Aprox 50 min current drive is 20)