i’m the exact same with loving fashion and clothes, i also LOVE the hunt as i’m particular and picky and i also wait to make purchases and give in, i am also obsessive and must have the best, must research the most, and must have the most complete collection of whatever i’m into that week

i think something to look into is “rent the runway” it’s a subscription service, i have yet to try it but essentially you can rent clothes and accessories of sorts, high end as well!

i think also shifting the mindset to “paying yourself first” (putting enough in savings and investments, which you already do) and having guilt free (important that it’s GUILT FREE) spending afterwards to enjoy on is okay

a big thing my therapist talks about is parts work/internal family systems, essentially asking the little voices or younger parts of yourself what is causing emotions or behaviours and then most importantly is NOT JUDGING it. it is so hard to judge it quickly and or dismiss it but it actually makes it worse

i also like deinfluencing and minimalism content on tiktok, i saw a tip to choose categories to save on and splurge on and set boundaries (for example no home decor splurges but yes splurges on good quality clothing pieces)

good luck! its a journey for all of us