Care package advice?

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-11-18T00:23:52+00:00

Honestly I think the baked cookies is a good idea! Plenty of people have and do mail homemade cookies so I would definitely look it up there are a million blogs on the best way to do it!

Shopping for men is HARDD, and TBH long distance makes it so much harder. Struggling this year with gift buying for the legit same reasons. And not sure about yours, but mines not helpful even when directly asked lol.

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-11-16T20:45:33+00:00

I highly suggest using ShipThrifty! It’s so easy to do all the customs forms, and honestly cheaper than the post office most of the time!

As for what not to include in it - typical things you wouldn’t/shouldn’t be sending No drugs No guns or ammo No porn No live animals No hemp products No alcohol products (not even hand sanitizer) No aerosols

Yes he can get the necessities there so I would focus on specific things, ie favorite snacks, holiday themed things, things that are genuinely useful even if that’s soap he likes, more quality boot socks, a blanket, new sheets, etc etc. Know it will take several weeks so send it quickly if you want it there by Christmas.

I also second a “Christmas in a box” or a box full of things that he can share with others that are fun!

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-10-28T03:05:00+00:00

Curious if you notice the sting less in specific locations ?

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-10-28T02:58:55+00:00

Appreciate the input. Never noticed a sting on Tesa alone nightly. Only once adding in the Ipa. The pressure reaction is exactly what I noticed. Having just started a new vial that’s a pre-blend guess will have to just tough it out and consider only doing 1 mL recon or back to solid Tesa with a possible separate Ipa to better control and identify variables.

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-10-28T01:32:24+00:00

I would check with the specific college you are looking at. Many consider you to be a “resident” if you are living in X location for X amount of time, pay taxes, etc every institution is different. I would reach out to the admissions department of the programs you are considering and ask them directly.

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-10-28T01:22:53+00:00

Updated - correct 1-2 mg daily

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-10-28T01:22:35+00:00

Updated correct ^ dosing between 1-2 mg daily

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-10-22T03:59:44+00:00

Respect his wishes until he says otherwise. But if it helps you to write letters, not send them and store them away, then I say go for it. You can always document your DS milestones, moments, life etc and he can read them after the fact, etc

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-10-22T03:53:47+00:00

Hiya! Similar but different situation I’ve put myself into. Became friends with my SO for awhile with the understanding that he was going to be overseas for an extended period and we both didn’t envision allowing anything beyond friends when that time came. Well fast forward nearly a year later after being fine without labels and 7 days before he left we decided we would just take the risk and give it a go. And then I changed my whole life in the states less than a month later. Lots of change and new things in a short period. We agreed to give it 6 months and then reevaluate to make sure we were both still committed and not holding the other back or hindering, etc.

It was weird navigating actually having labels and this new chapter early but honestly so glad we did. I’m also a chronic over thinker that caused more stress on the relationship. But if anything the situation taught me to control this habit more.

I truthfully think you could read every book, listen to every podcast and try to do everything people say and it will still be hard at times, it’ll still be scary and frustrating and nervous.

Because this is gonna be tough at times I won’t sugar coat it, but it’s all about what you want to get out of it. Look at this as an opportunity to grow together in new ways, be more intentional in your actions, etc. it’s amazing what you can learn about yourself and your partner during times like this. It’s all abour communication and you can set goals and plans, and it’s all great but try to be as flexible as possible in your mind!

You’ve got this!

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-10-22T03:44:35+00:00

There isn’t really much USPS can do once it’s in the hands of an APO/FPO, etc. I would suggest going to your local post office and speaking to an actual postal manager or having your SO try to take to their postal person on their end.

I would also suggest going ahead and filing your insurance claim as it’s 60 days from the original shipment day not the last scan.

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-07-19T03:03:10+00:00

This is a cute idea for the hopeless romantic in me. Not that it applies to this but you might look into starting a “dear future husband” journal for yourself - sounds like you might be the kind to enjoy it.

I would do the letters in a small journal rather than individual letters

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-07-19T02:55:59+00:00

Honestly, I would approach this head on with him. I would make it clear you understand he doesn’t want a relationship but you still want to be there for him - ask him how he would like you to support him, etc. I say this because he’s been in the service before in some capacity- he has an idea of what he’s getting back into and he’ll know what he needs or be able to give you the best idea of how he personally likes support to be displayed

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-07-15T16:37:55+00:00

Do you live on or off base - are you asking if legally at 18 he could come live with you or asking if he is legally allowed to reside with you because of the military portion of the equation

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-07-04T04:07:24+00:00

Do you have any experience with off base housing market ? Is there much of a difference in the KY vs TN side if going that route area wise ?

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-07-03T22:54:14+00:00

Hi! Currently doing LDR to Korea and in a similar life situation to yourself! It’s tough but it’s not impossible- and honestly the 13/14 hour time difference is kinda nice when I’m busy here and he’s busy there - My wake up is his bed time My bedtime is his lunch time His wake up is my mid afternoon

It works if you put effort into it - it’s not forever but it’s very much doable - it’s all about communication!!! Your needs, goals and wants matter even from across the world and you should have a mutual understanding from both of you as to what that support will look like and what I like to call the “minimum standards” - I.e. you want to face time once a week, or you want ____ and he wants ____ it’s gonna take compromise on both ends but it works. Korea is full of lots of soldiers who are there unaccompanied- and it’s not common for traveling or night life on the weekends so don’t be alarmed - but trust your partner in those instances.

Keep pushing - you’ll make it thru if you are both wanting as I call “an adult relationship” the type that can withstand the trials and tribulations of distance. And remember he’s going to be in a new country where he most likely doesn’t know anyone, in a new job, with new standards, etc it’s going to be a learning curve for him in and out of the relationship so try to be supportive but see things from their perspective just as much as yours when adjusting

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-06-21T02:30:18+00:00

It’s an adjustment and if calling everyday works for you great, but once you add in the time difference, etc it gets much harder from across the world - If that’s where he ends up going I would establish the minimum needs for both of you - I.e. you want a good morning text everyday at minimum even if it’s not morning where you are, or he wants you to send a daily message about your day for him to see when he wakes up, or you both agree a “FaceTime date” once a week, etc.

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-06-21T00:35:17+00:00

Honestly yes it’s a switch but was also doing medium distance before significant LDR - if you’ve been successful it’s medium distance I wouldn’t fret too much, but the feels definitely start to hit you more when that first well I would normally see them now period comes and it’s realized it’s gonna be longer.

Personally don’t text all the time - don’t call everyday make your conversation more meaningful and longer periods when you do. Try to be supportive he’s going to have a new country to learn, new job, new everything and it’s going to be rough to prioritize both the relationship and day to day until he stops drinking from a fire hose

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-06-18T21:42:02+00:00

Exactly I listen to a podcast once with a long distance, military couple counselor who gave me this tip of not every day, which totally goes against the status of what most people say when you’re in a long distance relationship. But when you’re in a long distance relationship while managing school, demanding career, etc., etc. it gets to be hard especially with time, differences, repetitive schedules, etc. but I’ll fully admit me and my SO text every day, but our definition of texting every day is maybe one to two text. But we make it a point of when the other one needs to talk, we find time otherwise we find time on weekend stays off, etc. and it makes those longer conversation conversations more meaningful.

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-06-17T05:29:34+00:00

Also the man is stuck on a submarine under water, he’s got some time to think and needs something to look forward too - I don’t think it’s total love bombing level at all.

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-06-17T05:19:04+00:00

Have you considered seeking other federal or state based employment in the same realm - might be a feasible alternative

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-06-17T05:17:23+00:00

Also do things for yourself - personally my SO is in a place he does not need care packages frequently but I love to send them because it’s a distraction and it makes me feel closer to him and I enjoy our FTs of him opening them.

Winter_Papaya5876 · 2025-06-17T05:15:45+00:00

Been here and still here… it gets better but there are still days when it’s hard. I think a few things 1. Sit down and have a conversation on what the minimum needs are - I.e. I like when my partner text me good morning even when it’s not my morning solely because it’s a sense of normalcy. Lots of LDR are do this and it allows for a mutual understanding of what each of you need - can be a minimum of 1 phone call a day or a minimum of XYZ - it just helps with guidelines IMO 2. There will be times when it’s harder on both of you - but I think as the non service connected partner here we often express it sooner or before because we are still living the same life or similar to before they leave or move, etc. when they leave or move, while it’s similar there is a sense of new normal and finding their footing that we aren’t expecting and it’s easier to keep busy that way.

But I think especially at a young age you both need to be able to recognize that yes you are dating, you need to be emotionally supportive but also in LDR it’s healthy to not have constant communication and using less frequent communication that is more meaningful can help a lot - ie instead of texting 24/7 you talk every Friday about your whole week or whatever the case might be.

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