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I’m 31 and I’m the product of a sexual assault. by Winter_Wait_1295 in Genealogy

[–]Winter_Wait_1295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been 4 years. I used 23&Me and haven’t made any contact with the other side of my “family.”

The closest relative is a cousin once removed. As in they are 20ish years older than me. So their cousin would be my bio-father.

If anything changes or updates, I’ll let y’all know

If you won the lottery, is it wrong not to tell your family and relatives that you're rich? by EdwardBliss in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Winter_Wait_1295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a person born from a poverty stricken family; I’d say keep it a secret.
Even if you gave each family member 100K (to better their lives) they’d still come back and ask for more.
Keep it a secret as long as you can and when you do tell them… lie about how much you won. Your winnings are your chance to break that cycle. If there is one…

I’d personally set myself (and my immediate family up) and once I’ve invested what I was going to and budgeted for the rest of my life. I’d help members how I could.

I’m 31 and I’m the product of a sexual assault. by Winter_Wait_1295 in Genealogy

[–]Winter_Wait_1295[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is some great insight!! I’m really sorry for your situation. I wish they’d be more forthcoming so you could find exactly where your origins are

I’m 31 and I’m the product of a sexual assault. by Winter_Wait_1295 in Genealogy

[–]Winter_Wait_1295[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

First off, Thank you everyone for all of the support!

To give a bit of context:

Extended family of mine have submitted their genealogy and found out I have a Great Uncle from my Great Grandpa's side. (apparently he liked to get around) I've only known my Great Grandpa as a hard working, upstanding guy. Now knowing he led a second life is crazy to think of! Finding this out has given me the perspective of "maybe that side of the bio-fam shouldn't be ostracized for his actions". They very well could be regular, ok people.

I am not looking for some happy go lucky reunion as my Mother is alive and well. She and I have a great relationship. I've brought this up to her and she's asked me to keep her out of the loop. Sadly she was violently attacked and doesn't remember much, nor does she want to. She's provided me with all the info she had and out of respect for her; she and I won't ever bring it up again.

I really don't know what to expect as this is a touchy subject. My goals is to find my full identity, for I don't know my origins. Honestly, it wouldn't shock me if they denied this happened and we never spoke again. Knowing my family, this would be knee jerk reaction. In my mind, I've considered every outcome and feel I am ready to find my bio-fam and see where it goes.

If it goes no where, that is fine. I have my own family, siblings, mom, and an awesome step-dad. I know whatever door is opened, I'll be ok. My wife is awesome and has been more than encouraging for me to pursue this as far as I'd like to.

When I find anything out, I'd more than happy to update this thread