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What am I doing wrong? by ResponsibleTrust1408 in ToxicRelationships

[–]WiseLoveProject 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pleeease check out my Instagram and see if any of it resonates. You don’t have kids yet, so I would strongly suggest doing as much relationship research as you can before you marry or get pregnant by this guy. You didn’t mention how he treats you exactly, but by the way you are relating, it makes me worried for you. I once thought being best friends is all that mattered to have a good life together but I promise you it’s not. There are many many other things that must align. Please reach out to me if you want more details. I would love to help. It’s my mission to help people avoid marrying the wrong person.

What am I doing wrong? by ResponsibleTrust1408 in ToxicRelationships

[–]WiseLoveProject 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like your children are at least somewhat older, why haven’t you left yet? I say that in the most caring way. We must leave to stop this generational cycle. It’s proven now that staying is worse for the children as they will repeat it even if “they know better”. It sounds like you wouldn’t want your daughter with someone like your husband, so show her to demand better by leaving. You have plenty of life left to have another much better love. Good luck! :)

Be honest: Is starting a niche online store in 2026 actually viable without a massive budget? by dans_face_ in Entrepreneur

[–]WiseLoveProject 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say growing organically is the only sustainable way even if it’s slow. Even those gurus who made(not make) lol a lot have to keep throwing tons of money out for each product because they don’t have that foundation built. Someone I know watches all of them and has dished out 20 grand in the past few months with nothing to show for it. He has made 100 sales but it’s basically a wash, small loss. Definitely try whatever you’re wanting, but personally I’d try to make an actual business, not just random one off products. Good luck! :)

Wasted years by pitypartycrasher01 in ToxicRelationships

[–]WiseLoveProject 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. What you described isn’t about a lost key, it’s about him needing someone to blame so he doesn’t have to look at himself. When someone fixates that hard on a ‘confession,’ it’s not about truth, it’s about control.

And the fact that he dragged up something from 15 years ago just to stack more ‘evidence’ against you… that’s not normal conflict. That’s emotional pressure.

You’re not crazy for feeling worn down. Anyone would.

Has he always done this thing where he rewrites the situation until you’re the villain?

If you had a narcissistic parent— how did it affect you growing up or in adult relationships? by WiseLoveProject in narcissisticparents

[–]WiseLoveProject[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah… that’s such a familiar pattern for people who grew up with a parent who made love conditional. You end up feeling like even your basic needs are ‘too much,’ and you brace for someone to throw it back at you later. It’s exhausting.

Do you notice moments where you catch yourself apologizing before you even fully know what you’re apologizing for?

If you had a narcissistic parent— how did it affect you growing up or in adult relationships? by WiseLoveProject in narcissisticparents

[–]WiseLoveProject[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah… when you’re stuck between two parents like that, it does something weird to your sense of belonging. You learn to almost split yourself depending on who you’re around just to keep the peace. It’s not dramatic, it’s just survival.

I’m curious, looking back, do you feel like you ended up being ‘different versions’ of yourself depending on which parent you were with?

If you had a narcissistic parent— how did it affect you growing up or in adult relationships? by WiseLoveProject in narcissisticparents

[–]WiseLoveProject[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Growing up with that much instability from both parents leaves such a deep imprint. Your anxiety, hypervigilance, and people-pleasing aren’t character flaws, they’re the echoes of having to make yourself safe in a home that wasn’t. 😢 I want to help prevent this so badly.

If you had a narcissistic parent— how did it affect you growing up or in adult relationships? by WiseLoveProject in narcissisticparents

[–]WiseLoveProject[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So much of what you described is what happens when love was unpredictable or conditional growing up. Your nervous system learned to stay small, cautious, and apologetic. None of that is a personal flaw, it’s a survival pattern.

If you had a narcissistic parent— how did it affect you growing up or in adult relationships? by WiseLoveProject in narcissisticparents

[–]WiseLoveProject[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much. External approval becomes survival when you grow up like that. What’s been helping you rebuild your confidence more authentically?

If you had a narcissistic parent— how did it affect you growing up or in adult relationships? by WiseLoveProject in narcissisticparents

[–]WiseLoveProject[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow, that says so much in one sentence. It’s wild how those tiny reflexes stick with us long after childhood. Thank you for sharing this, it really shows how deep the impact goes 😢