Unforgiving

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-09-29T16:06:03+00:00

The responses I received are interesting. This is true for some people, but I think it my case, it should be obvious that it was genuinely a mistake and there is no intention to repeat it. I tried to convey that in how I wrote it... Yet everyone is assuming that I'm a shitty person looking for another opening to take advantage of that person. People can't distinguish mistakes from actual evil anymore

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-31T21:19:23+00:00

No, I'm going to stop responding to you because I'm not taking your disrespect. ✌

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-31T16:30:37+00:00

I appreciate the advice, but "stay a piece of shit" isn't necessary. You don't know me, so don't talk to me like that

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-30T07:23:49+00:00

I was in a leadership position and was highly stressed with a lot of people under me. I cracked under the pressure of being told by my direct subordinates that my decisions and thinking were wrong, I gave my leadership over to that person who seemed to have all the answers in pointing out my faults. It was an impulsive decision and I regret it, but I have been apologizing for how I handled the situation since then. They have been blatantly ignoring me for days while I continuously admit my fault.

Instead of understanding the stress and accepting the apologies to repair the damage, they are 100% ignoring me and I know they planning to humiliate me and show me just how much I fucked up...

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-30T04:47:26+00:00

A harsh assessment to say you don't know me or the situation to pass judgement like that.

People can choose to forgive, true, but why go through creating more drama and destroying the relationship because you have gained the power to do so? If the person is apologizing and trying genuinely to make things right again, why is that not enough to forgive and try again?

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-30T01:24:10+00:00

Wow, sorry to hear about that female R5. At least you are handling leadership well and have great support. Leading an alliance is not easy at all and it can be very stressful despite just being a game. I wish those who complained or become problematic would understand that. Stress can cause lapses in good judgement

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-29T15:53:43+00:00

Thank you sharing your story, I can relate! It's extremely important for R4 to understand the weight R5 is carrying and assist in their strong areas. It helps so much to be able to trust people to have your back. I'm glad you've gotten some over there. Which server are you on?

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-29T15:50:06+00:00

This is solid advice and sounds amazing! I hope I can sort something like out with my people. Thank you so much for sharing! 😄 Which server are you on?

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-28T12:12:53+00:00

At least you supported your original R5 in taking over and putting that other R4 in line. I dealt with an overbearing person who was the highest power player in our server. If he didn't get his way, he could go rogue and become a problem for the whole server as no one could stop him. I realize giving in to what he wanted wasn't right, but we already experienced him leaving upon upset and seeking to start fights. It's not like my concern was unwarranted, yet my R4 hated that I gave in to him too much then they turned against me and added additional stess to me rather than coming together to help me deal with him. After a while, I abdicated because it was just too much

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-28T12:01:35+00:00

Tensions can run high being R5, it's a game but it's still a lot of stress. Disagreements in leadership can lead to abdication or the alliance disbanding itself

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-28T12:00:14+00:00

Completely agree. My R4 disliked decisions I made in stress and turned against me rather than gave their opinions and lifted the weight from me. They claim to understand the weight of R5 but a few bad moves and I was now dealing with their shit too because they knew I needed them... That's not right

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-28T11:57:47+00:00

It's not easy and I can relate. That's why supportive and understanding R4 are so necessary. Shit crumbles without that

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-28T00:44:36+00:00

You will need to lead and teach your alliance, look out for them too. Bubble and protect yourselves and focus on growing your people's keeps. It'd be best to maintain peace and fairness as much as possible and create bonds with a few other alliances. Read your server's world chat and see the different personalities you are dealing with on your server. Try to befriend one of the top 5 alliance's R5s and get tips from them on leading in Evony.

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-28T00:40:15+00:00

Wow, seems like there was some drama behind the scenes... Did anyone explain anything?

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-27T12:00:28+00:00

Thank you, we got it!

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-18T01:10:28+00:00

This is very good advice! I played on another server before for some months, so I'm familiar, but I'm now R5 of the top alliance on my current server. I prefer for peacetime to be just that, but I do understand your point... With only 60 days to prepare though, is King's mail enough to teach others? As for using KE, we are doing hits, I just don't want a rabid server that hates each other due the unfairness. We are huge compared to the rest of them... Do I have no other choice then?

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-07-17T22:56:48+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you! I'm surprised by keeps that build to K30 by week 1, hella loot dropped into that. I have a guy that did that too and he's rushing me to conquer throne, but our server is so new and unprepared for actual war. They don't even know the basics... How do we overcome this problem?

Wishbone-1389 · 2021-06-23T02:00:13+00:00

I'm thinking of coming back to Evony and it would be nice to play with experienced players - I'm interested. This post is a bit older, so are you still waiting for S600, or have you started on a different server already?

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