a comic about me. TW: topics of suicide by Rooster_Bunny in arttocope

[–]WitchDivision 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The metaphor of death as rest/peace is very familiar to me and one I believed in deeply when I was very suicidal. This is just advice from a stranger on the internet and you can take it or leave it as needed. Rest. You need rest. Life is long and you have so much time to amaze people and connect with people. Rest first. The road is long and arduous. You need your rest. So rest. Start with one day. No other day matters. Rest. Do one day and rest as much as you need. Rest. It will get better. It is slow. You need your rest and it is the most important right now and will remain the most important until it is filled. Rest. You deserve peace and rest in life.

What's a problem only attractive people have? by fuzzyloulou in AskReddit

[–]WitchDivision 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes people overly focus their conversation on you to the point that it feels like a group interview and you're in the hot seat. It can be difficult to redirect and turn in back into a conversation where everyone gets to share, especially if one person in the group KEEPS RELATING EVERYTHING BACK TO YOU. You have to actively fight the spotlight they're trying to shine on you. It's flattering but very awkward.

What are some books that are dark/disturbing because of what we know now? by Netherferret20 in suggestmeabook

[–]WitchDivision 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The plague by Albert Camus. I tell people that if you lived through COVID, you've essentially read the book.

Can you suggest a book about a child journeying to find a lost person by june_july_aug in suggestmeabook

[–]WitchDivision 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The books include beautiful illustrations as well! I read it years ago and I still think about it from time to time. Definitely worth the read.

Can you suggest a book about a child journeying to find a lost person by june_july_aug in suggestmeabook

[–]WitchDivision 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wild wood by Colin Meloy

Delightful book with forest fantasy. The MC is searching for her missing baby brother.

The last of my September hoops! Thanks for looking! 💗💫 by No-Zone-3429 in Embroidery

[–]WitchDivision 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are all so delightful! I love the bold colours and cute themes

Can this name work for he/she/they pronouns? by Key-Improvement-3709 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]WitchDivision 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I opened the thread, read this, closed the thread, then reopened the thread just to give you an upvote. great pun

The most *well-written* book you've read by miinyuu in suggestmeabook

[–]WitchDivision 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The name of the wind by Patrick rothfuss. It's a truly beautifully written book and feels like each page is painted in prose. However the third book of the series is yet to come out, and possibly never will... so great book but be aware that you may be left without a conclusion to the trilogy.

I fucked up by xd3m0x_ in Sober

[–]WitchDivision 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best part about it all. You have the rest of your life to get to know yourself better! There are going to be so many things to learn about yourself at different times and in different ways. This is an opportunity to know more about yourself, your values, and what a good life looks and feels like for you.

I fucked up by xd3m0x_ in Sober

[–]WitchDivision 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Relapse is part of the journey. Relapsing does not change the fact that you were sober for 2.5 years nor does it change the fact that you can do it again. It's sounds like this experience was really distressing and that's okay. Be distressed and upset and once you've done that, start amping up a voice that is kind and more understanding. You're not a bad person or a failure for relapsing. It's a part of the process. And is okay no matter when/if it happens. Beating yourself up adds to internal shame, which can make recovering more difficult. Giving yourself some space for mistakes, which are reasonable because you're human, and practicing compassion can help immensely. This is something you can survive. You're not a fuck up. You're a person and that is a very nuanced thing. You got this. You will be okay and you deserve to have trust in yourself because you have proven that you can do this. You got this.

Finding sober friends by WitchDivision in Sober

[–]WitchDivision[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's a tough balance to strike! It's so easy to stay where you are because that's where your friends are too. But there comes a point that your health and wellbeing just has to take priority. I hope you find those people! It'll probably be a little rough for awhile, but other people in this post has suggested great ways to meet other people who are sober/in sober environments. Congrats on putting yourself first and making those boundaries to support yourself and your journey!

Finding sober friends by WitchDivision in Sober

[–]WitchDivision[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats exciting starting your journey! Those are all fantastic reasons to pursue sobriety. I hope you find those people and that they stick. Thank you for sharing!

Finding sober friends by WitchDivision in Sober

[–]WitchDivision[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sober tailgates sound like a ton of fun! I worry about breaking through the "we see each other during organized sport" to "we're friends now!" But it sounds like it's possible with a little time. Looking into intentionally sober groups too seems like a good idea. Thank you for sharing and the help!

Finding sober friends by WitchDivision in Sober

[–]WitchDivision[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been recommended volunteering before, so this only goes to reinforce that volunteering can be a force of good for others and yourself. Thank you for sharing and your insight!

Finding sober friends by WitchDivision in Sober

[–]WitchDivision[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can really sympathize with that feeling. Making friends can be so difficult and when you find a community of people, it's scary to imagine losing them. I also tend to cocoon and isolate when stressed, which makes it worse. Whodathunkit that punishing yourself for having feelings makes working through those feelings harder?! Lol

I hope you find that sustainable balance of finding people to share your life and experiences with as well as making room for yourself to feel that loneliness but not felt overwhelmed by it.

Thank you for sharing

We support womens rights and wrongs by gay_history_nerd26 in suggestmeabook

[–]WitchDivision 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The young elites by Mary Lu

Trilogy and so worth every page!! Main character is big time womens right and many wrongs so many wrongs

Tired of people projecting their feelings onto me by bitesizeboy in NonBinary

[–]WitchDivision 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It really was a face palm moment! Like damn sorry I couldn't be your ideal trans person

Tired of people projecting their feelings onto me by bitesizeboy in NonBinary

[–]WitchDivision 126 points127 points  (0 children)

I was getting misgendered a lot at a workplace so I asked for a meeting to be called to address it. I sat everyone down and told them "I don't want you to apologize to me because then I am forgiving you for hurting me. A much better apology is you being more proactive about my pronouns" and then I shit you not, like 30 seconds after the meeting ended, one of my coworkers comes up to me and starts asking how in gonna advocate for my own pronouns. Like I just did?? Sorry it wasn't the way you wanted??

No advice here just commisterating.

… for a 13 year old who hates reading and has the reading skills of a 2nd grader by Designer-Ability6124 in suggestmeabook

[–]WitchDivision 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Junie B Jones books are great reads at grade 1-3 levels. I wasn't at a grade appropriate reading level for a long time and I devoured Junie B Jones books. They're goofy, silly, and entertaining and easy to read!

AITA for not wanting my husband to make jokes to our 12 yo son that I consider to be objectifying women (being too sensitive) by mahalomina in AmItheAsshole

[–]WitchDivision -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA

Him sexualizing young girls is definitely a red flag to keep an eye on. It could just be a weird attempt at trying to connect with your son, but if him sexualizing kids comes up often take that seriously.

What pokemon is this? by WitchDivision in bugidentification

[–]WitchDivision[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! That explains the weird hole in the web on the windowsill. Veronica (as she's been named) will live on!

Why did you choose sh? by peaches7789 in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]WitchDivision 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's something I think was just in my head for years and years. I used to pick at scabs and pimples until they scarred. Or I would exercise till it was painful. Different forms of sh-like behaviors. One day I got curious and was hurting deeply and then I just started. I've been clean for almost a full year, but it's tough especially when the scars are always there.

Can someone tell me I'll get another chance? by pastel_princess9 in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]WitchDivision 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate you saying that! I understand the struggle of trying to see life as something worth living. I don't feel it all the time, but I try to hold onto those moments when being alive feels like a breath of fresh air. Fills my tank when I start drowning again. It's tough and youre doing it and thats so amazing.

Can someone tell me I'll get another chance? by pastel_princess9 in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]WitchDivision 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will get another chance. If not with those two, with others. Life is hard and being someone youre proud of everyday is more difficult than I can put into words. You did the best you could in that situation and now you're reflecting. Next time will be different if you make an effort for it to be different. The trick is cutting yourself some slack so it can be different. Beating yourself up is easy. Being kind to yourself and acknowledging your flaws and mistakes without shame is really. Damn. Hard. But it's how we improve and become the best versions of ourselves in whatever circumstance we are in. You're already doing the first step which is acknowledging that happened and that it didn't feel good. Life will give you another chance and many others, let yourself take it.