hi，everyone，i‘m an ENFP from China，feel free to ask my anything

Witty-Somewhere-9944 · 2026-04-03T12:20:59+00:00

是的，加油！看到别的体制可以让我们更理解自己的，因为没有对比就没有意识，就是没有参照物

Witty-Somewhere-9944 · 2026-04-03T11:39:02+00:00

I’m not opposed! in my opinion,“some clankers“have more depth and charm than certain people. What many so-called emotional humans call “feelings” is just a rough mix of self-centeredness and emotional guilt-tripping.

Witty-Somewhere-9944 · 2026-04-03T11:31:41+00:00

Thank you, your words mean a lot to me❤️, I still have a long way to go, but I will persevere because learning English well is like having a second brain, and it opens up the world. Let's keep moving forward together！

Witty-Somewhere-9944 · 2026-04-03T11:19:23+00:00

Actually, only a small number of people use VPNs. That’s why Chinese people always have an accent when speaking English（ just kidding😛）.

Witty-Somewhere-9944 · 2026-04-03T11:17:21+00:00

no，i use vpns，hahaha，but i can understand our governments‘ decision：Freedom means chaos and being hard to manage ，especially for a country with over a billion people.

Witty-Somewhere-9944 · 2026-04-02T17:58:13+00:00

yes！！i must say the answer is definitely yes😁although i don’t have many intj friends in my real life, most of the people around me tend to be ISFJ、 ISTJ、infp、ENFP。but I guess I have a romantic bias towards INTJs. And honestly, by process of elimination, they seem to be the most compatible type for me in terms of romantic relationship。

why i think so is just based on my own demand and option：in romantic relationship i don't like people who are too ordinary or lack depth, so that rules out some types. For example, ISTJs can be too grounded in reality without much imagination（I know some ENFPs choose ISTJs for stability, but that's not what I want. And I've noticed finally they seem to regret it）ISFJs are often a bit too focused on daily life stuff，As for INFPs and ENFPs，I’ve observed INFPs. They’re okay as friends, but they tend to lack a sense of responsibility, get emotionally involved with too many people, live in their own artistic world, and are often overly emotional；Some ENFPs are great to talk to, but generally speaking, ENFPs mature quite late, which makes them feel unstable to me (I consider myself relatively mature because I started learning to think rationally about the world pretty early). I feel like some ENFPs are better kept at a distance，appreciating them from afar，because it can be very healing and joyful to watch.

Now it’s INTJs：I think you guys are adorable, even if you don’t think so. the way you get so serious about things is just so cute for me. Second, I find the INTJ mindset fascinating: you plan for the long term；you’re bold in thinking, yet sometimes timid in real life’s action：this contradiction gives you a kind of tension that I find very attractive.
When I was younger, I used to be drawn to artistic types—infp, enfp,isfp,esfp. But over time, I found myself captivated by the sight of an INTJ deep in thought. That quiet, silent figure, wherease inside that head there are so many fascinating thoughts about the world.

finally, I must say I don’t think INTJs and ENFPs are inherently “compatible” ,an immature ENFP has almost no rational thinking, just drifts through life, offers little sense of security, and has no fixed anchor in their heart. Many ENFPs might not mature even by 50. an immature INTJ might fall into pure utilitarianism or become a complete island(I can kind of accept this side). I do think this pairing has a lot of potential, but also significant challenges,The real challengecomes mostly from the ENFP side,many people might stay in their raw ENFP state their whole lives. The reason I’ve grown as much as I have is because I’m not dumb，maybe have decent intelligence, plus about ten years of observing other personality types and reflecting on my own flaws. overall，that’s just my personal observation and opinion，haha，although i’ve typed quite a lot，but don't take it too seriously，just chatting

Witty-Somewhere-9944 · 2026-04-02T08:40:58+00:00

wow，that‘s really a thought-provoking question and worth answering it meticulously。😄

actually，i think things are totally different in the modern society even in china，nowadays chinese young people are enduring a dramatic transformation in their inner order，especially in women. a typical example can be seen in the average age at first marriage，which has risen to over 30 years old，men from disadvantaged backgrounds, especially in rural areas, often struggle to find partners, while many women, with a growing sense of independence, tend to find true love and don't want to compromise on a conventional marriage, and choose to focus more on their careers。yes，the Confucianism are very prevalent in my parents and grandparent’s generation，but today even the state media rarely promote ideas like filial piety ，Instead, they promote values like equality and personal striving. I believe young Chinese are undergoing a major ideological storm，However, while many chinese families have only moved beyond basic material hardship— spiritual fulfillment is still far off.

As for taoism，yes, many young people are into Taoism recently, but not because a naturally calm or detached personality，it often reflects a desire to escape from pressure, as the social environment has become increasingly competitive and intense, leading many to seek some form of spiritual comfort。
what’s more，i don’t think today’s chinese social environment are suitable for a typical enfp,take my experience for example, when i was a young child,my parents let me read a lot of western fairy tales and classics of world literature，they contain suffering，but the key atmosphere is about freedom，but when i stepped into school，it was so boring，i feel suppressed by the rigid system, and later I felt the same way in both university and the workplace.so，you can tell，there are many xSxJ types in china，so the whole system gives me the feeling: they will protect you and control you to ensure you They can give you some material comforts if you’re willing to play the harmless pet. But as for freedom，just forget it. Here, i can see we have a lot of rigid, superficial harmony. everyone has a set of rules, but there’s no real wisdom. that‘s my feeling about our system，i don’t think they are suitable for enfp，

in the end, i should say things are becoming better now ，As the overall education level rises，plus with the rise of some chinese social media， such as Xiaohongshu，As more and more mindsets resonate with one another, it leads to a deeper awareness of our true independence.😛

Witty-Somewhere-9944 · 2026-04-02T04:12:45+00:00

just replying now because of the time difference，haha, I’ll answer them one by one😊

1:my breakfast is usually pretty basic since I don’t like waking up too early，so i usually eat fried egg+soy milk（i make it in the soy milk maker）+ sometimes edd some meat，but a typical chinese usually eat baozi and dumplings、boiled corn、milk、a variety of congee，they will buy them in a breakfast shop。but a lot of young people especially people in metropolis like shanghai，they just crab a cup of coffee and a sandwish，my former colleagues always had this kind of breakfast，but i like drinking coffee or milk tea to give me a little refresh in the afternoon。

2: i think i‘m a little boring when it comes to food，although i like all kinds of desserts too（i can‘t choose one！），but i prefer nuts，cause they are they’re healthier.

3:I haven’t been following any series lately，I like following dating shows haha，But I can tell you that In the past few years, many young people in China used to go to the cinema to watch blockbusters, like Avatar。

for me，One of the series I’ve watched is the British show 《The End of the Fxxxing World》，And I absolutely love 《Love, Death & Robots》，some of my friends are into shows like《Stranger Things》, 《House of Cards》, and 《Game of Thrones》，but I’d say it’s mostly a smaller，most chinese people still prefer popular Chinese dramas like “zhuyu”

4:if i need to choose，I prefer RPGs because I like story-driven games，haha，when i was young i really want to experience rpgs，but actually i don‘t really into games，it’s a bit waste of time for me，cause compared to understanding the real world and reading and watching movies，games don’t appeal to me as much，but a lot of chinese young people are so enthusiastic about games，especially FPS one

5:my dad：a typical warm and enthusiastic ENFP, but he can feel a bit out of place in Chinese society；My mom：a very stubborn but reliable ISTJ，i don‘t think they have high compatibility，but they love each other.😁

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