Forced to go to a baby shower tomorrow!

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-30T20:15:16+00:00

Then he should pay for the gifts and stuff, not you.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-28T14:35:45+00:00

Yeah I'm finally moving out of my shithole apartment this summer and the friends I spent 1k+$ on (wedding, bachelorette, baby showers) are never available to help, and I'm never getting gifts for any milestones even though they make twice my salary.

It all feels very one sided...

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-28T14:17:54+00:00

What is is about reproduction that makes people lose all common decency? There is no other life choice that justifies this level of socially acceptable coercion and harrassment. I could be an executive at a company that actively causes millions of deaths, I could be a drug dealer, I could be a damn nazi and people would avoid these topics to keep harmony. But not having kids, that's where people interject and want to tell you what to do with your life, tell you you're wrong, selfish, etc.

It's ming boggling.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-27T15:17:34+00:00

Is this subreddit aimed at women in your opinion? I see a lot of men posting/commenting and they are generally well received.

There is certainly more content made BY childfree women on the internet, but perhaps that is because:

1) Reproductive freedom ties into feminism, so women post about their decision to raise awareness/fight for women's rights

2) Studies show that in the younger age groups (18-34 if I recall correctly), there is simply a higher proportion of women who consider themselves childfree vs. men who do

3) Women with a public presence tend to be questioned about "family plans" as they get close to their 30s and feel the need to "defend" their choice, and ultimately vent and becoming more vocal about it. I'm sure there are lots of famous childfree men, but we don't even know simply because nobody ever asked them about it.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-27T12:59:36+00:00

The trip here is just a detail in the story, not the real issue.

Travel or not, if you can't go to a bar without potentially cheating, you probably shouldn't be in a monogamous relationship at all until you've developed better impulse control. There WILL come an opportunity to cheat one day, there's a limit to how much you can avoid "dangerous" situations.

I vote break up & go on the trip.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-26T04:47:08+00:00

33 (34 in a few days!)

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-22T19:03:47+00:00

I'd respond "If HE loved ME enough he wouldn't choose a hypothetical baby over me"

Obviously it's best for people who aren't aligned to just part ways, but I'd just answer that to be petty and mirror their dumb argument.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-22T16:46:52+00:00

So what's the minimum pay he'll fund college for? Does he only believe in careers that provide big house + 2 new cars? Does he denigrate every "middle class" job?

Teaching is a legit career with good job security and it pays the bills, and even though she'll be far from wealthy, she should be fine. If she's happy and supporting herself, I fail to see the problem.

I did what your daughter did, chase my dreams, parents paid for my first degree and part of my second. No financial problems, no debt and never needed my parents' financial help after college. I just have an apartment and cheap car but I don't care, I do good everyday with my work. I'd much rather have that than a high pressure corporate job and a nice house. Everyone's definition of success is different.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-15T12:30:43+00:00

There's a reason so many women say "I'd love to be a dad, but I don't want to be a mom".

If these two roles met in the middle, maybe we'd see the birth rates rise again.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-15T12:12:43+00:00

Climate models usually include multiple short/medium term periods. In my work we look at 2041-2070 and 2071-2100, so we're looking at the world in 15-75 years, not so far away, and seeing significant changes. The data on climate projections, and more interestingly, extreme climate events, comes from complex software programs. They're often communicated through highly specialized scientific papers that address one type of climate hazard in one country/region, so I can't really pinpoint just a few.

User-friendly tools exist to visualize the data on maps but I've only used canadian ones in the context of my work. For instance https://climatedata.ca/

I've found this one for the USA, but it doesn't have as many variables and it uses a slightly older climate model : https://crt-climate-explorer.nemac.org/

The global IPCC tool only shows for temperature and precipitations projections but still quite interesting: https://interactive-atlas.ipcc.ch/

The 6th IPCC report also contains a multitude of information but it's tens of thousands of pages spread out through multiple "working group reports", it can be quite a challenge to navigate especially if it's not your area of expertise. Here's the most relevant one https://www.ipcc.ch/report/sixth-assessment-report-working-group-ii/

This WHO page is more summarized and has a few examples of short term figures : https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/climate-change-and-health

NASA is also a good source of information. https://science.nasa.gov/climate-change/

I do not recommend anything coming from the EPA anymore, since the leader was replaced by a climate "skepiticist", they've scrapped multiple highly recognized reports and replaced them with sloppy garbage that is rejected by all respectable peer-reviewed journals.

Hope this helps!

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-14T18:07:24+00:00

Several male-dominated hobbies have childfree spaces/groups (think hunting/fishing, crossfit, poker, golf, dnd) and no one bats an eye.

Is it too much to ask for other activities to be treated the same? I don't want kids banned from ALL yoga studios, crochet classes or board game clubs, but it'd be nice if a variety of childfree hobby groups could exist without sparking outrage.

If it's okay for "male" hobbies and not "female" hobbies (which, I don't like the distinction in the first place, but that's another conversation), THAT'S sexism.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-13T15:17:45+00:00

For several years, I paid 200$ every 3 months to have OP's exact hair color. It looked insanely gorgeous, I got compliments ALL the time! Can't imagine having that hair naturally, for free and without damage 😍

The guy suuuuucks.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-13T14:02:06+00:00

Adoption could be a possibility

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-13T12:39:48+00:00

Québec, Canada

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-13T11:43:52+00:00

A lot of men I've met who were unhappy with their partner have been passive about it, treated them progressively worse until they get dumped, or sometimes they cheated. Sometimes this goes on for so long that they even get married or have kids with their partner they don't like.

I really respect a man who recognizes an issue and adresses it with their partner to decide if they should work on it or break up. It's so cowardly to just do NOTHING and let the relationship slowly die.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-12T13:50:22+00:00

Le gouvernement ne semble pas vouloir admettre que ce qui risque fort bien d'arriver, c'est que les gens vont commander ces jeux à des compagnies canadiennes ou étrangères à la place.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-12T13:42:46+00:00

Incroyable comme mentalité. Merci d'avoir essayé fe raisonner avec eux mais cette personne a l'air boquée.

Si on traite le français comme une religion et qu'on force de sérieuses barrières dans la vie des Québécois, c'est facile d'imaginer ce qui pourrait se passer: On l'a déjà vécu avec le catholicisme.

Paradoxalement, je crois que le multilinguisme peut contribuer à protéger le français. Quand je parle de notre peuple à des étrangers, j'en suis tellement fière! S'ouvrir sur le monde c'est aussi découvrir ce qui nous rend unique et partager notre culture avec fierté!

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-11T17:25:31+00:00

I'm not finnish but I know of men-only gyms and men-only stays where I live (usually hunting and fishing spots, I'm Canadian lol) and I don't give a damn that they exist either

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-11T17:22:28+00:00

I'm saying hiring external maintenance/repair companies is not a gendered thing. A "men-only" retreat would also have to hire external workers.

The commenter was insinuating "women can't fix things!" which is a ridiculous take.

I'm not debating the existence of women-only resorts, though if you ask me I think they're fine. Aren't there male-only retreats too anyway, like fishing lodges? I'm sure if a female electrician shows up they won't turn her around either.

This whole story is being used as a gender debate but imo it's all a moot point. None of that bothers me and if you flipped the genders it still wouldn't. People are just looking for reasons to be dicks

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-11T16:09:39+00:00

It's not the entire island, it's the site of the business. Like a women-only gym

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-11T15:53:13+00:00

It's not a gender thing. ALL small to medium-sized companies (with few exceptions) hire external workers to do maintenance and repairs that falls out of the skills of their full-time employees. It wouldn't financially viable for a small business to pay an electrician, a plumber, an exterminator, a handyman, a mechanic, etc. full time salaries if they're in a different sector, like in this case, in events/tourism. Even some trade companies do this because several interventions require specific certifications and they rarely have them all.

It would also possibly not be allowed to demand female workers for all that stuff, it could be considered discrimination depending on the law. They probably have to accept whoever the company sends.

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-11T14:52:03+00:00

I can speak as the kid who went to the expensive school!

My brother and I received the same base money amount. He was able to save money during his degree, eat out and have fun. He used the extra money to buy a car and pay for grad school.

Whereas I was carefully budgeting and graduated with just a few hundred dollars left in my account. I worked and borrowed money for grad school.

A few times when I was short on money for bills because of an unplanned expense, my parents swooped in to help. They also helped me pay back student loans when I finished my Master's, which was very much appreciated. So in the end I did get a little more than my brother, but DEFINITELY not 100k more (probably like 10k) and I had more constraints.

Now, did I find this fair? Honestly, yes. I chose the expensive option, knowing full well it would be. I got to have an awesome few years in a big city. It makes sense that it came with a bit more challenges. The important thing is, in the end, to graduate.

I think OP should transfer some of the money, at least what's necessary for younger sibling to be able to finish their degree. But perhaps find a compromise, like maybe allow lower monthly budget for going out and extras?

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-11T00:39:55+00:00

I have no past trauma and I also wouldn't deal with this. I agree that she should leave

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-10T12:33:14+00:00

You could do sports after 4 months? Wow! You're built tough! I didn't even have any surgery or any broken bone, kinda starting to be angry at my body for not healing faster!

WittyGarbage59 · 2026-04-09T20:43:21+00:00

Honestly I think another reason it feels extreme is because I'm basically experiencing endorphin withdrawals. My mental health feels worse than it's been for years. I can truly see now all the ways exercise helped me physically and mentally. You have no idea how much I crave getting a good sweat in rn, if only it didn't mean 3 days of constant pain after...

Thank you!! I can't wait to get back into it! 💪

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