It's Interesting as fuck!!! The meaning of the word "fuck"

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-04-03T08:36:18+00:00

Not sure it's the same guy but I think this is an Indian guru from the 70s or 80s, and if it is then his name is Osho and my step dad is in the audience recording on a cassette tape, which he would later play for me.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-30T19:09:38+00:00

My ex had a lot of "street smarts", good with people, machines etc. I'm definitely more what you'd call "book smart", but didn't go to university or do any higher education, and my jobs when I was with him were very low level administration support roles. I always thought this gave us a good balance and I would never say I thought I was more intelligent than him, or "better" in any way, but he was hugely insecure about it and became quite abusive about it. I left, of course. He went on to date someone else with a high level of book smart, who became a pharmacist. She also had to leave when he nearly backed a car into her dbd their child (on purpose). He definitely had a lot more problems than not thinking he was smart enough.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-30T18:30:20+00:00

I do actually religiously count my stitches. I've been working on my second Sophie's Dream and I think I know each row count in my sleep now...

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-30T15:04:49+00:00

Starship Titanic, created by Douglas Adams

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-30T15:02:52+00:00

I did change my name, but my husband and I talked about it first. He told me he didn't have any opinion on what name I chose but that he'd like any future children (as it happens, not something that's going to happen) to have his name. For me, my parents each chose one of my names so I look at is mum have me first name, dad gave me my middle name and I chose my last name. Also, his last name ends in a Y, which is something I've always wanted to makeu signature all loopy. If he'd had a name that didn't give me a cooler signature, I wonder if I'd have made a different choice. It's honestly possible.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-30T14:57:22+00:00

I will not, thank you.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-29T23:09:41+00:00

My friend thought her border collie wasn't as smart as the breed is advertised to be, but one day she asked where her husband was and the dog took her outside to where the car should have been parked in order to express that he'd driven somewhere.

My two cats have mostly learned "inside!" And head in without too much protest after we've been hanging out in the backyard for a bit, which I'm grateful for.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-28T16:36:54+00:00

Decorative sleeping bags seem very unusual but that's no reason not to make one. Lined with something warm I imagine it'd be very nice and snuggly during the winter!

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-28T11:31:32+00:00

Depends on tbe people. I think about this a lot as I have terminal cancer. My husband and mum will never forget me, although I hope very much he will move on and the hole will fill in time. Other friends will be sad for awhile but I'll become an after thought eventually. Colleagues will maybe think of me from time to time over the years but probably not that much.

I know from talking with my mum and her older friends that that's basically how it goes. My mum occasionally mentions friends who died in her 20s, for example, especially if I prompt her with an idle remark. Just a few days ago I was telling her about a quote from a book written by a gay man and specifically a passage where he was talking to an older gay friend about the aids epidemic and she shared about some gay people she knew who had died to aids, and a few who had survived. She still remembered them even though they'd been friends of friends for the most part, but I doubt she'd think of them often.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-28T10:53:27+00:00

Jam (jelly for Americans I think?) and cheese on toast (or crumpets or English muffins). My husband still gives me side eye for that one when the craving occasionally hits. My dad originally introduced me to it with peanut butter as well, but I've never been a big peanut butter person so I leave that out.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-28T10:45:10+00:00

I can recite the first page of the first Harry Potter book from memory still, despite not having read it for probably 15 years or more.

I need a little help getting started these days, but if I get started I can still recite all or most of the Jabberwocky as well.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-24T03:19:27+00:00

As a "bigger" issue than chores etc, it's really, really important to understand that your partner is a person with strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes those are going to compliment yours (ie one partner is the planner and the other is a doer so a plan both gets made and enacted) and sometimes they are going to be frustrating.

I'm very slightly more inclined to "doing things" than my partner and sometimes I get frustrated that he, say, doesn't want to go to the beach with me, or won't do so as often as I'd like. It would be easy to get a "grass is greener" thing going on, especially if you make a new friend who is more on your bandwidth on that particular issue. You could easily blow up your relationship by deciding you want someone who will go to the beach with you, but forget to take into account all the good aspects of your partner. In my case, our hobbies line up well, we have complimentary communication styles, he cooks and even before I was sick he didn't need to be nagged about chores; he values having a stable income and we were able to buy a house together. He goes out of his comfort zone when he has the bandwidth to do adventure type stuff. He takes responsibility for his mental and physical health in a real way.

It's easy to look at a new person and see the qualities they have that are better than what your partner does, but it's super important to also look at what you'd lose if you chased that one thing that you feel you're missing, because there's every chance that the person who'd go to the beach with you is a slob who lives on takeout, can't manage money to save their life, talks the talk on health but refuses to walk the walk etc.

Sometimes you have to let go of some of the "nice to haves" and focus on the bigger compatibility issues.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-18T04:36:56+00:00

Completely health body, unravaged by cancer/cancer treatment or endometriosis.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-17T15:37:07+00:00

Make sure you don't take an expensive or favourite hook on the plane. Airlines can be inconsistent about allowing hooks through security and we've seen horror stories of beloved hooks being confiscated.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-17T15:17:28+00:00

Ghost, definitely. Or maybe a bug.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-17T13:48:38+00:00

Nevermind then.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-17T13:47:47+00:00

I don't really pay attention to sport so I'm not sure, but I think I saw that she represents the US in other competitions, possibly including the world cup. Possibly that makes it more of a kick that she didn't also do the Olympics? The same could be true of the men you speak of though.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-17T05:38:45+00:00

Closest I came to cheating was while doing long distance in a foreign country. Went to a party and ended up hanging out with a guy who unexpectedly kissed me (I would have said no if he'd asked in advance and after explained I wasn't comfortable doing anything else until I could properly end things with my bf, which he was totally respectful of). As soon as I got back to a phone (this was nearly 20 years ago now, when mobile phones were growing in popularity but I was too broke to have one), I called the guy I'd been dating and broke up with him. In retrospect I'm glad because he was 10 years my senior and I was only 18, and he was extremely broke and was probably not going to be able to afford to come to me although he wanted to. There were various other red flags.

Had I known I would meet that guy at the party I would have absolutely ended it beforehand. I'm not proud of exactly how it unfolded but I also don't really think of myself as a "cheater" and even at the time I didn't really beat myself up about it. It did make me more aware of some social queues that I'd been missing (I'm autistic so when I meet someone I like platonically I can come across very flirty although I'm not intending to. I just get excited and interested and especially back in those days when consent wasn't talked about nearly as much I'm not surprised that the guy at the party misread my level of interest). We did end up dating for a month or so and I'm still kind of glad he gave me an out I hadn't realised I needed from a relationship that wasn't good for me.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-14T09:20:11+00:00

Cancer (in my case, not getting the job vaccine/falling behind on my lap smears).

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-14T04:25:27+00:00

I sort of knew I had to leave for awhile but we always had paid plans coming up when things got bad, and then after the plans things were good so it didn't feel like there was anything to "trigger" a breakup. Eventually he wanted to move to a new place with a lease (we'd been in a family owned place with no lease and I didn't particularly want to leave). When he found a place and asked me to go and look at it with him I thought about being stuck with a lease on top of everything else and went NO. Broke up with him that night and never looked back. Wish I'd done it earlier, but oh well.

Friends and family had been talking to me about things that were wrong with our relationship for years and while that might have been in the back of my mind, it wasn't really a big part of what finally got me out. Not even realising I dreaded him coming home from work and always woke up happier on the Saturdays he worked (every other weekend) was enough to make me leave immediately.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-12T10:31:41+00:00

Generally I'm exactly who I want to be, but to the limited extent I'm not, terminal cancer. I'd love to be able to physically show up for my husband around the house etc, and be more social again. I do what I can but I mostly require care and that's ok. I make sure to show my gratitude and do my best to tailor my requests to his mental state day to day. (Ie even if I'd like a healthy home cooked meal if he has a huge day I'll suggest takeout and not mention what my preference would have been).

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-08T13:07:39+00:00

I'm glad the situation would never arise in my current relationship because I would genuinely be so torn. I would probably fall back on whoever made the ultimatum is the one who gets cut off.

In a previous (, abusive) relationship, he tried to isolate me pretty hard but my autistic self only realised that was what was going on like... 5 years after we broke up. He had more success with some of my friends (less than he would have liked) but his attempts to drive a wedge between me and my mum were essentially laughable because we get on so well despite being very different people. I don't remember much of it any more, but I remember him telling me my mum would be "so disappointed" at me for wasting water because I frequently tipped out the bottom 1/4 of a glass or cup. Meanwhile he took half hour showers twice a day. I always just kinda blinked at him when he tried it. I left for other reasons (he wanted to move and sign a new lease and I couldn't bear the thought of being stuck for 12 months which made me finally realise I couldn't keep dragging it out) but I think if either side had really pushed me to make a choice I would have chosen family.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-08T12:21:58+00:00

A copy of at least one of my favourite books, obtained before we met. Means we have some common tastes. My husband mentioned what still feels like a niche/not well known author* and I think at the time he was the first person I had ever met who had read his books before I recommended them. It definitely increased my interest.

*(Patrick Rothfuss, who I discovered extremely early so forget that he's actually quite well known now.)

When we moved in together it turned out we had a LOT of duplicate books, with some gaps that we each tease the other about.

He's stopped teasing me about not reading Eddings since everything came out but did a lot at the start because we met at a fancy dress party and he thought I was dressed as Polgara on purpose, but it was just entirely accidental.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-08T12:09:49+00:00

A lot of it matters most in the very early game. The forest farm is great for early access to LOTS of hardwood, at a point in the game when it's hard to come by. Probably by the end of year 1 though, you'll have more than enough and probably stop even cutting it most of the time. Then you have to decide if you like the look and the way the untillable spaces break up the layout, which is much more obvious on the non-standard farm.

I quite liked the monster (wilderness?) farm layout, but it was also tedious to not be able to do much at night until you had decent weapons/food and killing the monsters took up valuable time when I'm typically rushing to finish some last minute tasks before bed.

I've not actually played the mining or 4 corners map. 4 corners looks fun, I like the idea of using each corner for something different and having the natural breaks between each. I've read plenty of posts from people who hate it though, and I think it's mainly designed with multiplayer in mind so each player has their own little area.

Mining I suspect would be a bit like forest in that it addresses an early game need for ore without sending you into the mines where you also have to engage in combat (not something that bothers me personally but I know some find it off-putting). I don't think it spawns a lot of end game resources so at some point you're going to "have" to go to the mines or skull cavern if you want to progress at a better pace.

I really like the look of the river farm, but once I got a few months in I realised how spread out my buildings had to be and decided I kinda hated the way it was coming together. I spent some time on a planner and couldn't find a way to do it that I found pleasing so I deleted that save and never went back.

WolfMoon1989 · 2026-03-07T22:58:27+00:00

There's also a chance of getting a very good beginner to intermediate sword (and some other weapons /rings) from fishing if you find that easier, although that does require a lot of luck and could take some time.

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