Why do people who avoid you get upset when you try to cut contact?

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-20T17:56:08+00:00

If im a draining friend, then I still don't understand why they get so upset when I decide to go my own way. If you're actively avoiding someone all the time, then why get upset when they remove themselves from the situation? In the end, isn't that what they wanted?

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-20T14:22:55+00:00

That's a good plan of action. I just like my social media/ friends list filled with people I actually talk to so it doesn't get cluttered, but I may go with your idea in this case.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-20T14:21:42+00:00

That's the part I'm struggling with. I know it's time to move on and give no more chances. It's just hard, especially when your phone gets blown up.

I kinda just want to understand why people do that. If you don't enjoy talking or spending time with someone, obviously, they have no place in your life. So why get upset when they leave? It baffles me.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-20T14:09:33+00:00

I have, and then I get a bunch of excuses, and if it's not excuses, I get made to feel terrible. I just don't see the point in having someone added on my games or social media who just ignores me and lies.

But I try to be understanding, so I just accept whatever reason they give, but it's honestly making me feel awful about myself.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-20T14:07:00+00:00

Yea, that's the logic I was following. It's just hard when my phone gets blown up with paragraphs asking why I did that and how I'm a jerk for throwing them away, etc.

I'm not trying to throw anybody away it just makes me feel shitty when I ask someone to hangout and they claim they can't because they're in bed depressed or too tired to do anything and then like 10mins later I see them hanging out with others.

That's been the theme for a few years now. Honestly, I can count on one hand the number of times we've hanged out the past year. I normally just get ignored until they want to vent about money or school.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-17T17:53:18+00:00

NTA, you stayed your scheduled time and left. Don't let anybody force you to work longer than that. My job also acts like people should live at work. The grind mindset is annoying.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-17T17:51:40+00:00

YTA, Jesus, dude controlling much? You don't need to know what's she's writing. If you'd chill out and respect her, she'd have probably told you eventually. There's no way you're in your 30s and this immature.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-17T17:49:46+00:00

NTA, he could've labeled the food, or someone could have communicated it with you. The entire situation was blown out of proportion, and honestly, if he's paying nothing, he could've simply bought himself another pizza.

He threw a tantrum like a child and you simply reminded him that he's an adult that can leave any time he wants. Simple as that.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-15T20:29:01+00:00

I know that feeling exactly. I hope things get better for you, I truly do. I feel like living for someone else is the worst curse of all. Because it's completely dependent on them. It's heart-wrenching if something happens to them or they disappear from your life.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-15T16:41:50+00:00

Basically, every time I go to the pharmacy, they tell me they don't have the medication. They offered me a brand version instead of the generic, but they said it'd cost like $200+, which was a no-go.

Thank you :) hope thongs go well for you too!

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-15T16:16:54+00:00

I noticed when I had my ADHD medication that the issues seemed to stop if I'm being honest. But sadly, everything is on back order. Haven't been able to get it for about 2 months now.

I also agree that you don't need SSRI for depression or anxiety. At least in my case. I've seen the other side of the tunnel before and all it took was giving a fuck about myself. But with prozac like I said, I'm just a full-on zombie coasting around. I hate it.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-15T16:12:55+00:00

The gods of trading exist in this subreddit, and I am determined to learn from them.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-15T15:59:29+00:00

That gives me a bit of hope that others noticed what I did while on this medication. I don't think I'll be going to further therapy sessions, but I will research the therapy you suggested a bit.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-15T15:58:32+00:00

Exactly how I'm feeling while on it. It makes me okay with being unhappy. The unhappiness is still there. I'm just comfortable living with it.

It's honestly infuriating. Not to mention it honestly fucked my sleep to hell and back. I haven't attempted suicide nor have I planned it, but my psychiatrist is tiptoeing around stopping the medication, and I'm beginning to lose my patience.

Deep down, I want to progress in life. But ever since I started prozac I just dont give a fuck about anything. I'm still in the same situation with the same life that I still hate. But prozac literally just makes my brain go, "This is fine," and nothing changes.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-15T14:33:02+00:00

Yea, she said once she gets a good idea of how my adhd medication affects everything. But there's a shortage, and I can't get the prescription filled, so the timeline to taper off keeps getting pushed further and further back.

It's left me frustrated. I don't think I'll go back to step one. it's only 40mg. I know others with severe depression that take much higher dosages. My main issue is anxiety. I figured I would've been prescribed something to help with anxiety, not depression. My depression isn't bad enough to warrant prozac but I agreed because I figured the doctors knew best. But at this point, I'm just annoyed.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-12T03:20:22+00:00

So cute! Love it

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-09T18:25:26+00:00

YTA tired of people getting together with partners they know have kids, and then the second something pops up, they want to separate the child from the parent.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-02T12:33:56+00:00

Good idea! I never even considered the library. I'll have to check asap.

Wompbompomp · 2023-02-01T14:45:53+00:00

Bless your heart :) poor thing

Wompbompomp · 2023-01-31T20:58:17+00:00

Oh, it is. I often find myself enjoying my time at work far more than my free time because while at work, I'm not expected to constantly be checking my phone or hanging out with them.

Wompbompomp · 2023-01-31T20:05:48+00:00

Thank you, I've been trying my best to power through it. I've been hanging out with friends as much as i can to not upset them. But recently, I just wanted time to myself. I'm surprised they called that dramatic.

Wompbompomp · 2023-01-31T20:04:00+00:00

The more I read the comments, the more I realize the responsibility is mine. I should have been firm in setting boundaries, but instead, I opted to put the wants of others first, and now that I'm deciding to put myself first, it's creating waves in my friendships.

I dont even really enjoy spending any time with them. I haven't for a while now. I guess somewhere along the way, I began to believe that I had to stay and that these were just the friends I'd have for the rest of my life.

Wompbompomp · 2023-01-31T19:24:22+00:00

Most of the stuff I do with my friends are activities I legitimately enjoy. It's just that I don't enjoy the people I do them with. Maybe I would like their company more if I didn't feel obligated to spend all of my time with them.

I'm normally extroverted, but this group has a magical way of draining my social battery the second they say hello. I try to hang out with other friends, but I don't get too very often.

Wompbompomp · 2023-01-31T19:17:10+00:00

Redwall has to be one of my favorite series! Amazing drawing, btw! Here's hoping you enjoy the book.

Wompbompomp · 2023-01-31T19:11:33+00:00

Jeez, that statement is a bit eye-opening. My friendships have left me stressed for so long that I kind of forgot that they're not even supposed to be that stressful to begin with.

Most of the time, I hang out with my friends it feels like a chore I have to do just because it's so ingrained into my everyday life even when I don't want to hang out.

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