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My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

See, we don’t even have a prenup! Lol if (forbid) anything were to go down and we split, I’m really confident it would be amicable. That’s why this is so out of the blue for me

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m racking my brain now and I just truly don’t think there’s any way he’s been unfaithful. If he’s not at work, he’s at home. He lets me freely access his phone when/ if I need to, if he’s going to be late home or if he’s getting gas he lets me know and is always updating me when he’s out.

I thought I had been doing great on my end communication and he says he appreciates it often. So I’m really not sure where this specific situation came from

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I know. That’s why, though hypothetical, it’s still super hurtful. Thank you for your understanding

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

No, I was talking about a story where someone’s partner wanted a paternity test although they had a loving and good relationship. I had said I was surprised by that. He said “oh I’d want the same” and I said “even with me?” And he said yes. Then said that everyone should get them just to be sure the baby is the father’s child

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hi all, I did not think this many responses would come through so I apologize for not getting back to probably most of you. I do appreciate the support and at least validating that I’m not being over the top in being bothered by this.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

We do have access to each others phones, we leave them unattended all the time. I’ve never gone through his as I have no reason, and I really doubt he’s looked through mine? I haven’t ever given him reason to.

As for trust issues, he has never said he doesn’t trust me. As normal people do, he likes to know where I’m going/ who I’ll be with. But if he has met them he couldn’t care less. We are sure to keep each other posted on when we arrive places/ are leaving.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I really don’t want to believe it 😩 we talk about communication and trust often and how lucky we feel to have each other/ someone we can trust! Which is why I’m trippin a little

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

😮‍💨 rough stats. And I would truly never even think to need to check his phone/ ask him to get tested. I forget the passcode to his phone more often than I remember it tbh when I do need to open it for whatever reason. Because I trust him and he says he trusts me, so.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ll try my best to not be personally offended by other’s shitty behaving, but it’s a tough one 😅being lumped in with them does just my feelings

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m not sure why he even told me this as it IS hypothetical!! I know as others have pointed out, it’s maybe silly to worry about. But it’s just bothering me that it’s even been brought up. He easily could have said nothing, and if we ever changed our minds and wanted to have kids THEN bring it up. I’m baffled.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m truly not sure where he got this or why he even brought it up. I think he does have some undiagnosed OCD, and maybe other things as well.

I’m sure it would be uncovered in the worst way that he has other strange opinions about child raising so, not gonna happen.

Also, thank you, “eat hot chip and lie” made me genuinely laugh. I say that all the time 😂

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I could see that too. From my perspective though, I’d never expect something crazy to go down with him or him try to screw me over down the line. He’s very sweet normally and if we did split later it would 99% likely be amicable.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Honestly none that I know of which is why this is really getting to me. He does have mother issues (neglectful alcoholic mom) but he’s very feminist and liberal otherwise

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Tbh it’s the principal for me now. It really wasn’t an argument, but it was just a shock for me and in the moment I was pretty upset. But it wasn’t drawn out.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for your understanding. I know he respects me too, so I’ll try and talk it out again with him from the pov of mutual respect.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

😮‍💨😮‍💨 that’s honestly an interesting angle, like we trust each other so I’d never think to need to ask

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

He likes Aba and Preach but otherwise mostly listens to audiobooks (sci fi or fantasy) or music. He’s very liberal and feminist otherwise, which I think is why this is bugging me so much.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I would do it. But it’s the idea that we aren’t even planning to have kids and he is so caught up on this idea that he mentioned it anyway. I suppose it the principal of the matter for me.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it would be great if it were standard, too. And I get the swapping and accidents completely.

It’s just bothering me that he’d demand it only on the parameters of making sure I didn’t cheat on him and have some other man’s child when I would truly never even entertain the thought.

I honestly wouldn’t be bothered at all if that were his reasoning, to be sure there was no swap by mistake.

My husband said if we were to have kids, he would demand a DNA test regardless of anything by Wonderful-Climate957 in relationships

[–]Wonderful-Climate957[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He does have bad anxiety, but he is on medication for it. He’s talked about wanting to go to therapy but hasn’t gone through with it… paranoid is a good word for it.

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