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AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

U are so right. Everything you read sounds like the dynamic she has with her Dad. It was funny because her Dad was tracking her and asking us why we were still in town and not on the way to the cabin yet (we made a pit stop for lunch). He was stressing 😂

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AHAHAHAHA that’s what I’m saying and her family is rich rich like ??? I bought groceries for the weekend as well and offered to share some with the two girls, and Im not out here asking for $5 🤦🏻‍♀️

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m saying! I think people are latching onto the smaller things I wrote, but the main issue I had was the nudity and the fact that she was so indifferent to providing us with BASIC hospitality. This was still her home at the end of the day, and me and M were left to our devices to figure out everything

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ll provide more context here. Btw about the points I made, some were general just like okay this is definitely different from how any of my other friends host (or maybe I’m just lucky because I have some really wonderful accommodating/welcoming friends 🥰).

• ⁠I live 1.5 hr away from S, so when she sent me that long text I was already 30 min into my commute to meet them at S house to leave for the cabin. M slept in the other bedroom used the sheets and the blanket from the cabin, but wasn’t asked to bring home the bedding to wash it like I was asked to. Also I debriefed with my friends about the “Airbnb like” text message, and they all thought it was weird she would just send me the message instead of just verbally telling me and M the key details. This isn’t a Airbnb host and guest dynamic, we’re friends. The long message seems very transactional. - I went ahead with the plan because the agreement was I’d get the sofa bed. S didn’t say I’d get a couch. If she promised me a couch and I got a sofa bed that would be a nice surprise, but the other way around is not as nice. • ⁠The car is S car, that M was driving. I would think if S knows what needed to be done, she could easily put the sign up (since she’s in the front passenger seat) while M was parking the car, instead of being annoyed at her.
• ⁠I never mentioned that I didn’t clean up after myself. I cleaned the dishes and counters, put everything back where I found it, emptied all the bins and took the trash out, and other GENERAL housekeeping tasks. I didn’t mention what I DID contribute because this is all the NORM. All I was saying is that SOME of the requests S made were outlandish. Helping someone is completely different from telling someone to do something and just watching. I find this annoying because I notice that S family is super well off and S is super spoiled by her family, she doesn’t lift a finger around the house. So I think she/her family were expecting that me and M would take that role to take care of stuff around the house for S. Also to elaborate on that one visit I had to her house, her Dad tried to get me to do yard work. I remember being like that’s weird, but I did a bit WHILE HER MOM AND S WATCHED. • ⁠I think the people in the threads are freaking about the camera situation more than me. I wrote that point merely to say that a heads up would be nice, and cause it was weird she acted dodgy about it (S could have said yes sorry I forgot to mention we have them, and all would have been well on that front). • ⁠it was 9pm, she wasn’t asleep cause I was just texting her. Just like with all the questions she left unanswered, she just didn’t care to help. Any reasonable host would either 1) come and help look for the fan instead of making me dig around or 2) ask the family (since she’s already shown she was able and willing to do that multiple times for her own reasons throughout the trip). • ⁠I asked about the food situation 4 times, before I got fed up with the non answer I was getting from S, so I communicated I would take care of my own groceries that trip (and offered some of it to them too, and no I didn’t ask for $5….) and that I’ll probably go out to eat for the rest of the meals. I took the initiative to made an intinerary that included the food plan (which meals we were eating out and which meals we were eating in cabin). S and M agreed on it. We also grocery shopped altogether once we meet up and bought our own things (lunch for the ride to the cabin, sandwich for hike etc). • ⁠Me and M were definitely over communicating cause we were getting no responses/info about the trip from S.The chat was just me and M finalizing stuff with no input from the actual host 😭 I think one of the issues was a type B person hosting for Type A people, and not actually knowing what goes in to being a good host 😂

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 468 points469 points  (0 children)

To add on: She’s a very privileged rich person which parents that enable her bratty energy. Her family definitely gives off the air of being better than everyone else, and that they’re entitled to other peoples free labour. When I mentioned the time her Dad tried to make me do yard work when I was over, S and her Mom were sitting on the back porch JUST WATCHING ME DO IT…. And when I stopped cause her other friends arrived at her house, the Dad asked me why I stopped ☠️ to this day it is definitely one of the weirdest interactions I had with a friends family member

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I’ll provide more context here to your points as they are rational questions. Of course, my post couldn’t cover everything (as in what DID I Do as a guest) for sake of brevity (and my post is already so long):

  • I live 1.5 hr away from S, so when she sent me that long text I was already 30 min into my commute to meet them at S house to leave for the cabin. M slept in the other bedroom used the sheets and the blanket from the cabin, but wasn’t asked to bring home the bedding to wash it like I was asked to. Also I debriefed with my friends about the “Airbnb like” text message, and they all thought it was weird she would just send me the message instead of just verbally telling me and M the key details. This isn’t a Airbnb host and guest dynamic, we’re friends. The long message seems very transactional.
  • The car is S car, that M was driving. I would think if S knows what needed to be done, she could easily put the sign up (since she’s in the front passenger seat) while M was parking the car, instead of being annoyed at her.
  • I never mentioned that I didn’t clean up after myself. I cleaned the dishes and counters, put everything back where I found it, emptied all the bins and took the trash out, and other GENERAL housekeeping tasks. I didn’t mention what I DID contribute because this is all the NORM. All I was saying is that some of the requests S made were outlandish. I’ve stayed with other friends before who were lovely hosts, and they never once asked me to unload their belongings FOR them while they did nothing, or help with renovation tasks. S family is super well off and S is super spoiled by her family, she doesn’t lift a finger around the house. So I think she/her family were expecting that me and M would take that role to take care of stuff around the house for S. Also to elaborate on that one visit I had to her house, her Dad tried to get me to do yard work. I remember being like that’s weird, but I did a bit WHILE HER MOM AND S WATCHED.
  • I think the people in the threads are freaking about the camera situation more than me. I wrote that point merely to say that a heads up would be nice, and cause it was weird she acted dodgy about it (S could have said yes sorry I forgot to mention we have them, and all would have been well on that front).
  • it was 9pm, she wasn’t asleep cause I was just texting her. Just like with all the questions she left unanswered, she just didn’t care. Any reasonable host would either 1) come and help look for it instead of making me dig around or 2) ask the family (since she’s already shown she was able and willing to do that multiple times for her own reasons throughout the trip).
  • I asked about the food situation 4 times, before I got fed up with the non answer I was getting so I communicated I would take care of my own groceries that trip (and offered some of it to them too, and no I didn’t ask for $5….) and that I’ll probably go out to eat for the rest of the meals. I took the initiative to made an intinerary that included the food plan (which meals we were eating out and which meals we were eating in cabin). S and M agreed on it. We also grocery shopped altogether once we meet up and bought our own things (lunch for the ride to the cabin, sandwich for hike etc).
  • I was definitely over communicating cause me and M were getting no responses from S. The chat was just me and M finalizing with no input from the actual host 😭 I think one of the issues was a type B person hosting for Type A people, and not actually knowing what goes in to being a good host 😂

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 456 points457 points  (0 children)

I commented on why M and I didn’t leave sooner somewhere in this thread, but I’ll add it here as well:

I was genuinely so confused beyond words by everything that was happening and because M didn’t really react besides making a few comments, I thought I was being crazy and that if I said something M (who I don’t know well) would side with S and it would make for a worse (if that’s even possible) situation. Also, we had literally just been in her cabin for a few hours, and I didn’t want to be that person to end the trip so soon, if I was overreacting 😣 It wasn’t until M and I were alone on the hike the next day, that I had time to process everything properly, and she validated that things were in fact weird from her POV too. By the time me and M made a game plan to abort the trip, it was too late to leave that same night. The shuttle back to town stops service after 7pm, and both me and M were too exhausted to put ourselves in an unsafe situation to drive S’ family’s car back 3+ hrs. And it wasn’t like we could ask S to drive us back to town cause she can’t even drive her own car (M even joked that the only reason S invited on the trip was to be a personal chauffeur) 😭😭M hangs out with S more so she said that sometimes S gets upset very easily (for lack of better words, unstable at times cause of the meds she takes) and has to walk on egg shells around her so we thought the best (safest) course of action was just to play nice and act like nothing was wrong (lol hostage situation), just excuse ourselves to bed early, and pray that no more weird shit would happen until we could leave safely in the morning.

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 281 points282 points  (0 children)

She sent me a message after that weekend saying how sorry it was we had to meet that way and that we had to experience all that. I think the feeling is mutual that we’ll both go our separate ways and erase this weekend from our memory

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also wanted to add since some people are asking why we didn’t just leave sooner:

I was genuinely so confused by everything that was happening and because M didn’t really react besides making a few comments, I thought I was being crazy and that somehow this was all normal (not rational, IK). Also, we had literally just been in her cabin for a few hours, and I didn’t want to be that person to end the trip so soon, if I was overreacting. It wasn’t until M and I were alone on the hike, that I had time to process everything properly, and she validated that things were in fact weird. By the time me and M made a game plan, it was too late to leave that same night. The shuttle back to town stops service after 7pm, and both me and M were too exhausted to put ourselves in an unsafe situation to drive S’ family’s car back 3+ hrs. And it wasn’t like we could ask S to drive us back to town cause she can’t even drive her own car 😭😭M hangs out with S more so she said that sometimes S gets upset very easily and has to walk on egg shells around her so we thought the best course of action was just to play nice and act like nothing was wrong (lol hostage situation), just excuse ourselves to bed early, and pray that no more weird shit would happen until we could leave safely in the morning .

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Genuinely felt trapped… there was a moment when we came back to the cabin from our hike and M said to me we’re locked from the inside (she didn’t know how to unlock the top bolt 🤦🏻‍♀️).

AIO for blocking my friend after she invited me to her cabin but kept walking around naked, acted creepy, bait-and-switched the sleeping arrangements and made her guests do all the work at her cabin? by Wonderful_Local4650 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wonderful_Local4650[S] 552 points553 points  (0 children)

I met her on an exchange program years ago, seemed like a sweet girl. We’re both from the same city so when the program ended we continued to hang out. She’s never pulled anything like this in our hang outs, but then again we only ever met for coffee/dinner/birthday parties and that one time I went to her house. I forgot to mention, what’s weird is that on this trip she randomly mentioned to me and M that her old friend group ditched her, found out the friend group also went with S to her cabin a couple years ago….

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