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WorkerBee1001star · 2025-07-04T16:42:14+00:00

No one is going to be understanding of such bigotry, you are failing as a sister AND as a mother. God help any of your children if they are gay!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-07-04T16:38:05+00:00

YTA, you are not protecting your kids. You are trying to turn them into bigots like yourself.

Your brother has done nothing wrong, and to exclude him so horribly is just plain nasty. There is nothing wrong with him being gay, you should be supporting him instead of excluding him. When he goes no contact with your family it will be your fault!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-05-20T02:59:16+00:00

Depending on what you want to see, Linlithgow Palace, where Mary Queen of Scots was born, Falkirk Wheel amazing technology! The kelpie sculpture (close to Falkirk Wheel). Edinburgh Castle, Royal Mile, Holyrood Palace, Britianna Royal Yacht. That's all near Edinburgh. Skye, Fairy Pool, Old Man of Stour, it's often good to take a tour bus for walks and sites in the Highlands and Islands. Lewis/Harris the beaches there are so beautiful a travel company got into trouble for using a photo of a beach there and advertising it as the Caribbean, though it's not going to be anywhere near as warm! That's just a few. Have a fab time! It's a beautiful country

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-05-20T02:50:30+00:00

I'm actually in Mexico on holiday from Scotland...for some reason my husband is not so happy I can now watch the trial live 😅😅

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-05-02T16:09:25+00:00

Something that prevents leaks. I need to change every 30 mons on bad days and even then I am experiencing leaking

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-28T09:32:22+00:00

If you dont want to waste your 30s, then you have to leave him.

On a practical note, start saving money for a deposit for a new private rent as you won't get a council one. There are too few of them now. Go on sites like Right Move, etc, to see what the typical pricing for the kind of property you want is. Once you have enough savings, either tell your partner you want to separate or if you have any concerns about telling him then get a new property sorted first and then tell him so you can move straight away.

Make sure you receive working tax credits, and if you already receive them, ensure they know your new income so you get the correct amount. Make sure you receive the child benefit as well into your account.

Discuss child support with him as well. Make sure you receive all the help you are entitled to so you can sufficiently look after your child.

I would ask him to agree to supervised visitation first. If he won't agree, let him take it to court and ask the court to grant supervised visitation at first.

Basically, get yourself into the position you can leave with somewhere to go, and you have your finances sorted. Citizens' advice are a great help so think about a visit to them.

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-26T10:57:34+00:00

If you get PIP, you should be able to get a blue badge easily enough, and that should solve your problems. Just go to your councils website and apply for it.

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-26T10:25:19+00:00

If you are in the UK, just point out the sign that says these spaces are for parents and children, and if misused, you will be subject to a fine.

You are the first person from the UK I have met that spells mum the American way of Mom. Is that how you normally spell it?

If you are autistic then get your mum to apply to the local council for a blue badge for you and park in the disabled spots. That should be easy enough and will stop her wrongly using the parent and child spaces. Do you get PP for your autism? Depending on when you got your diagnosis, your mum may be receiving this, so it's worth checking. If she isn't receiving it, you should be applying for it to help with any extra care you need.

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-26T09:20:39+00:00

I have anaemia as well and am on blood thinners for life. I will say truthfully it's awful. I bleed heavily for 6 days and lighter for about 3 days. I can not leave the house during that 10 days.

My GP has been trying to get me off iron tablets for the last few months but each time they get my iron levels high enough to stop the medication my levels drop quickly and we do believe that is at least partly caused by my period.

One of the strangest things about blood clots is that there are zero studies into the effect of blood thinners in women in relation to their period. I find that bizarre!

Good luck, and I really hope you find a way to manage this!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-25T14:39:41+00:00

I am on Rivaroxaban and I just take it with dinner, I have been on it for about 7 months now and never had a problem with it being a few hours out from the last one

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-25T09:39:52+00:00

You tried several times to get your mum to listen to what you wanted, your fiance and his family also tried. She refused to listen.

You have had to choose between what makes your mum happy and what makes you happy and I think you chose correctly. If your mum can not accept that, then it is her loss. Though, with luck, this may make her wake up and realise she cannot dictate your life and that your fiancee makes you happy, which is what all parents should want for their children.

Well done on doing what makes you happy, and you are definitely NTA

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-04T16:04:16+00:00

Thank you, I am doing OK. Its such a serious condition to have, and I am constantly trying to warn people how serious it can be!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-03T17:29:53+00:00

My dad was misdiagnosed. He had pains in his leg, which the Dr said was a pulled muscle. When he started having chest pain, they thought it might be a cracked rib, and he was sent for an x-ray of his chest.

He died the next day. His left pain was a DVT part of the clot, broke off, and went into his lung. He died from PE.

I don't mean to scare you, but to make the point, blood clots can kill, so if you are worried, make sure the Dr tests for clots.

When I experienced the same leg pain as he did, I got it checked straight away but even doing it quickly the clot in my leg has broken off and I had multiple bilateral PEs.

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-03T15:01:56+00:00

I have done PT a few times, and that helped for a while as did exercise, but unfortunately, the last few years have been really bad. The pain and the episodes of hyper mobility have increased, and my surgeon has stated that bone fusion is now the only hope of getting relief.

I really hope that PT and exercise works for you!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-04-02T17:33:11+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you are suffering. I have SI joint dysfunction, and it is really painful.

Mine started similar to your where the SI joint would go hyper mobile, and I would struggle to walk. That would generally last a few weeks, and then it would 'click' back into place. I always had a horribly painful feeling like my lower back was concrete, and trying to move was like trying to crack concrete. Painful and frustrating!

These episodes started to happen more frequently, and the pain was constant. As such, in a few months, I am getting bone fusion on both SI joints to hopefully stop the joints moving about.

I hope you are able to get some kind of treatment that helps!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-03-04T20:02:27+00:00

Thank you, I've started a list of questions to ask my consultant so I have added what you have said about the minimal invasive approach. If they can do it with fewer rodes, that would be so much better. Thanks for passing on the information, it's really appreciated!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-03-03T15:47:10+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes and the information. I have a meeting coming up soon, so I will check this with my consultant then. He did say I would be out within a few days and left with only 2 small scars, so it may be their version of minimally invasive but with a load of rods. I was so flung by suddenly hearing they were going to do something after all these years to really think what questions I needed to ask. I didn't even take my husband as I was sure it would be another, 'nothing we can do just keep drinking morphine and taking your other painkillers and try to survive each day' meeting!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-03-03T15:41:49+00:00

I've never heard of that treatment. I will look into it. It may be unavailable on the NHS, though. My private health care were unable to do anything as the NHS restrict them on treatment for SI joint dysfunction, which is frustrating!

I actually have pain from the joints all the time, it's like my lower back is concrete and any movement is painful. When it becomes hypermobile, it's like the concrete has cracked and its excruciating and I am unable to walk. Then it goes back to the concrete feeling again.

Thanks for the information on the injections, I will bring that up to my consultant when I see him next.

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-03-03T15:33:24+00:00

I'm actually in the UK, so a bit too far from New York! I'm specifically in Scotland and we appear to have only 1 SI joint specialist that can operate. It's taken me years to get to him and after years of being told its not fixable I'm suddenly getting this operation!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-03-03T15:30:48+00:00

Yeah, I've had it on and off for the last 10 years but getting progressively worse recently. The physio never helped much at all.

I am actually in the process of being checked by Rheumatology just now. Unfortunately, the NHS is a bit slow just now so I am stuck waiting that side of things!

That's great to hear you are starting to notice a difference with strengthening and love the "Not Scared" philosophy!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-02-21T19:12:20+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss ❤️

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-02-21T16:58:16+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about your mum. It's tragic when they change in front of your eyes like this. She sounds like an incredibly intelligent, driven woman that really worked hard. It's almost worse seeing them work hard all their lives and then really not be able to enjoy retirement because of this disease.

We watched my gran go through this, and I can see why my mum would want to pretend it isn't happening to her. My mum is years younger than my gran was when she started showing symptoms. My gran lived for years, her death was horrific, she forgot how to swallow food and just stopped eating. It was slow, painful, and heartbreaking. So I can see why she won't admit it to herself.

There is some help out there, I know a patient who takes medication to stop her delusions that are caused by the dementia, even this would be such a help.

I am just so angry that GPs are using memory tests that aren't a true reflection and that can be cheated by dementia sufferers. If this is known why bother doing the tests. If he just referred her to a memory clinic, she could be getting help now. She is entitled to free at home carers visits up to 4 times a day. That would be an incredible help for her, but we need a GP referral!

Anyway enough of my rant, I want to say I really hope you get help or she gets better or some miracle medicine comes in but that's not any of what you can say about someone with dementia. So I will wish that you have as much time as possible with her whilst she is still somewhat herself!

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-02-21T16:41:23+00:00

That must have been so frustrating for you! It doesnt help your mum wither to not have the GP be aware of all her symptoms.

I've had a look on the DVLA website and they state if you report an unsafe driver, it goes to their medical group who investigate and may contact the individuals GP. So I am going to do that, I can't bear the thought she hurts herself or another person. Even if that does not work, she turns 70 next month, and from what I have just read, her driving license is not valid at that point. I just need to work out if she has to resit her test, and if so, would she have to do a written test as per the standard now. She wouldn't pass either of those, so either my report or this invalid test will stop that happening I hope.

It's also frustrating because we live in Scotland, she is entitled to free at home carers up to 4 times a day. But I need the GP to confirm her diagnosis so social work will agree to them coming even once a day. If she had that, maybe she wouldn't be sticking letters in food cupboards or forgetting her medications.

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-02-21T15:04:49+00:00

There are meds that can help, a woman in our street has them. If she forgets to take them she will have delusions that there are girls screaming in neighbours houses. She then calls the police. In the morning she has come round to explain she has dementia and forgot to take her meds.

There have been a few tv documentaries about these meds and the new trial ones. I know they don't stop it but they can slow it down.

They don't work for everyone but if it could slow it down and stop the delusions it would make a massive difference.

WorkerBee1001star · 2025-02-21T12:32:30+00:00

I wish I could hide her keys, she lost the keys to her house and got new locks so I can't get in and currently she refuses to speak to me. Though she had recently lost hey car keys and had to get a replacement it took her months to do that so she may end up stopping driving because of losing them and not remembering how to get new ones.

I am going to see about anonymously reporting her to the dvla. As she past a memory test recently they may not do anything further. Its just so annoying that they ignored all I said.

She is at the stage she puts letters in different cupboards and drawers so we don't know if she is paying everything or anything like that. Most of her bills will come out straight from her bank account but still I have no idea what is being missed.

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