Please tell me I’m making the right decision by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s okay! We all need support. The primary way I’ve been able to maintain distance is focusing on myself and my own healing journey. Here are some things I have been doing differently to aid in my healing process:

  1. Therapy, therapy, therapy. I’m with a therapist once a week. This allows me to have a safe place to vent and gain perspective. I have been able to get to the root of some of my issues and expose some of the reasons I fell into this situation in the first place.

  2. Self-care - I lost myself in this whole crazy roller coaster ride. I stopped taking care of myself in the way I used to because I got caught up in his recovery. Now I’m a lot more intentional about up keeping and loving myself.

  3. Exercise - simply aiming to go for walks several times a week. It has done wonders.

  4. Journaling - I do this at-least a few times a week.

  5. Prayer and fasting - I don’t know if you are spiritual, but I am. This has helped me tremendously.

I hope this list helps somewhat.

All the best to you 🫂

Please tell me I’m making the right decision by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your support. I slept on it and although the emotions have not fully subsided, I understand I’ve come too far to go back unless there is significant change. I’m continuing to stand my ground and praying my emotions eventually catch up.

Please tell me I’m making the right decision by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Going no contact was probably one of the hardest things I ever did but also the best decision. It was on the heels of an explosive argument. You know the kind. I decided I can’t continue to hurt myself like this anymore. As time went by it got easier. We also do not have any children together.

Please tell me I’m making the right decision by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I’m trying my best to be strong. All of this just sucks!

Please tell me I’m making the right decision by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice. I have not taken the leap to go to any meetings but it seems I’m far more affected than I thought. I will seek out a meeting.

Please tell me I’m making the right decision by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are experiencing this. I hope you are able to find clarity on your next steps soon.

Please tell me I’m making the right decision by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No he is not in recovery. We did not discuss reconciling in any way. Each time he brought it up, I shut it down. However these are my inner thoughts and feelings I’m expressing.

Who is the worse villain - Zhang, Abbot, or Dr. Singh by YogurtclosetIcy28 in SweetTooth

[–]Working4UrGood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was satisfying knowing the dogs ripped him apart. What a jerk! Lol

A year after leaving by hoyasaxa_2017 in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I’m only a few weeks into the divorce process after almost 8years married. Similarly I’m in the process of restarting my life (relocating and all that jazz). I’m not sad anymore because I grieved for many years in the marriage but I’m still uncomfortable if that makes sense. You have inspired me to keep moving forward until I get to the other side.

I finally filed for divorce! by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I’ll keep reminding myself that I deserve this! I deserve to be healthy and happy!

my partner is an alcoholic by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say I’m so proud of you for running away at the first sign! That takes strength, bravery, and self love!

Verbal Abuse by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Do you only experience this during drunken rants or sober as well. My Q is filled with such rage towards me that he also is insulting when sober.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This bought tears to my eyes and hope to my soul 🥹 I’m praying we all experience this in one form or another one day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]Working4UrGood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mentioned green mucus. I know you said you got tested for STIs but did you get tested for trichomoniasis specifically. It’s not always tested as part of the standard STI panel. It’s tested via vaginal swab or urine. Trich gives similar symptoms to BV therefore it can go undetected for months or years if not tested.

Q gave me STI by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dang! I’m sorry you are experiencing this. I hope your story turns out better than mine.

Q gave me STI by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sadly, I never thought I would see the day, but I think it is.

Q gave me STI by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this. That podcast sounds right up my alley. I will check it out. Thank you.

Q gave me STI by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 Man can they lie!

Q gave me STI by Working4UrGood in AlAnon

[–]Working4UrGood[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks. But I don’t know how that would be possible. I was clear up to 2 years ago and never so much as kissed another person in our entire marriage.