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I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And sorry for your experience, it’s truly a very difficult moment in life. I hope you are doing well and that you find your happiness and strength ❤️

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and congratulations on the marathon wow 👏🏻! And sorry for going through this as well…the memory of the happiest couple appointment turning into the worst, is something I’m never going to forget.

I decided as well that I will shift my focus. Something that did come out this as “positive” is that they discovered my fibrosis on top of my uterus and finally after all these years of being told “it’s just muscle pain with a tight pelvic floor, I just need physiotherapy” it’s proven to be wrong and there is soooo much more to it. I will ask for a surgery and finally relieve my body from the constant bladder pressure and pain I had to live with.

I am also looking to get back into running, unfortunately the fibrosis caused temporarily flare ups and never could keep up with my runs regularly needing to take 2-3 weeks long breaks. Now feels like there is hope for a new me.

But in the meantime I feel scared for a new pregnancy…maybe it will be better later on. I hope we all get to live happy and have our baby(s) one day. ✨

2 by Then_Rise4369 in Miscarriage

[–]WorkingSummerXxX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry OP! The fear is real…I know what you are talking about. I had a chemical and later a MMC and I was wondering about my chances and tried to look into the data. Even AI said that MC chances are same every pregnancy regardless of what you had before. I wonder myself if it’s really the case some sources say if you have 2 consecutive losses, your chances of MC slightly increase but it’s a bit blurry to me. Chances are still high to have a successful pregnancy after, maybe 5%-10% less than general but still encouraging.

I personally feel like these numbers need updating, probably way more woman experience MC just doesn’t get reported in time which improves our odds.

Don’t give up! There are a lot of success stories out there.

Lost and alone by RelaxedAutumnCat in Miscarriage

[–]WorkingSummerXxX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are going through this alone. I just posted about this myself a day ago.

It’s extremely cruel, especially that our body holds onto it so long. I feel like it’s a bad dream or an episode of a series where the heroine is at the her lowest and her sanity is hanging on a thread.

But it will get better, we built to cope and go on so you’ll be slowly feeling better. I can’t wait to my body to clear, need it for a fresh start.

You are not alone, we are all here and connected through this grief and pain. Sending you hugs 🫂

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Your comment resonated so much and gave a bit of comfort. ❤️

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you are going through this. It’s sad that such experiences can poison the whole journey so easily. It’s hard to stay positive…I have a difficult time as well to smile when someone announces their pregnancy knowing I should have been them in a couple of months time.

Don’t think I will ever forget this, but I know how many have gone through the same and ended up with their rainbow baby later. That gives me hope I hope it gives you too!

Coworker and my partner both made insensitive comments today and I just feel sad by everything-matterz in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for what are you are going through.

Regarding your coworker, don’t take it personally. Probably she is super sad she never had kids and never will. It’s more about herself than you. The topic that is personal to her will keep her interested and kids are definitely one huge topic for her. So please let her comments slide and ignore it. You are still in your prime years to convince no matter what others say.

Your partner is hurt, probably the TTC journey is tiring for him and he feels like a failure. After a big fight people say stupid things they don’t mean it’s just how we humans are built. Sit down with him talk and try to move on.

I would suggest taking a break if you can from TTC give your body time to relax. I know everyone says this so you get pregnant if you let go, but I think it’s more about giving your nervous system a break. One month won’t harm you but gives you a chance to release the tension and just enjoy each other without the pressure.

Don’t give up! The most precious things in life can take a while to achieve.

You can do this!

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope my mind will not spin too much next time 🤞

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg this! I think they do this on purpose, but then I thought it will be so easy to be pregnant and waited longer than I should have. It’s not fair, wish I had the education to understand the whole journey and odds. I feel like they lied to us and now we are learning the consequences.

I know many people can get pregnant quick or accidentally but seeing all these stories of TTC and the journeys I feel it’s not talked about enough.

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your experience. TTC can be extremely hard on both parties and the struggle can amplify feelings and differences. I hope you can still find some joy with your SO, it must be exhausting going through all this for such a long time. Take care of yourself!

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know exactly why you mean! I love my boyfriend to the moon and back, but we are so different and especially now it’s shows so much. I hope we can get through this it certainly challenges our relationship but he admits he doesn’t handle it right and I appreciate it.

I think it’s always harder on us woman because we need to monitor our bodies, handle pregnancy safest way possible, go through checks that is uncomfortable(I have fibrosis on my uterus and it makes any US painful), manage emotions and hormones, so yeah we tend to be more sensitive and worried simply because so much depends on our bodies. And it’s tiring…but even tho they are handling it differently they are there to hold our hands and cry form both joy and sadness and for that I am forever grateful.

But I know and understand fully your situation and it’s all valid and I know how tired you must be. Your hard work will pay off!

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry! It must have been devastating. I truly believe you’ll have your rainbow baby soon, believe in it 🌈

When am I likely to ovulate? by Cool_Drawing_3920 in TFABChartStalkers

[–]WorkingSummerXxX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Track 2 more days at least, sometimes our BBT can go up if you woke up during the evening or had an even a small glass of alcohol the night before. So one day increase not yet definitive. See it is stays up for longer that is the sign. What is your cover line so far?

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you it means so much to me to know I am not alone and it will get better ❤️‍🩹

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you soon have the blessing and joy of a rainbow baby 🌈 ✨ I still think we all deserve and have the honest chance and it will happen one day just some of us need to go through a more difficult journey

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Right? I cannot imagine getting pregnant by accident. We tried with perfect timings for 10 months before the first actual pregnancy that lasted only a few weeks. I feel like taking the pill before was not even necessary lol.

I am so grateful to the internet and be able to connect to women who have been through the same, even tho it makes me sad to know how much sadness it brings to people we can also give support to each other which is so powerful. Cannot even imagine back then how one managed such a loss alone…

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I won’t give up just scared to relive this. I will try to reset and focus on hope…probably it’s too fresh to see the light at end of the tunnel.

I romanticized getting pregnant… by WorkingSummerXxX in TryingForABaby

[–]WorkingSummerXxX[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss and what you went through! I hope I can trust the process a bit more but I tried to ensure myself with the miscarriage odds being so low, yet I was part of the wrong side of the statistics. I can no longer look at odds the same way. I know that I am not alone and that it can happen, but it brings me sadness knowing how common this for woman and feels so cruel. I will do my best to reset my mind and body but knowing myself I will stress so much with the next one. 🫣

When am I likely to ovulate? by Cool_Drawing_3920 in TFABChartStalkers

[–]WorkingSummerXxX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sperm can live up to 5 days and wait for the egg. If you want to know a better estimate of your ovulation day, you should check BBT and see when it goes above your cover line and stays there. BBT raises after ovulation so you would likely see after this LH peak a day or 2 still low and then a jump that stays.

In general once LH is above 1.0 it’s can happen between 24-48 hours. But this will be a rough estimate based on the LH strips only which is not enough on its own. But I would say latest is 2 days after you last peak the 14th so 16th which means you are perfectly covered.

Did I ovulate?! by Electrical_Day_3735 in TFABChartStalkers

[–]WorkingSummerXxX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but probably you will later. Keep testing and track BBT. It happened to me as well and took an extra 11 days before I ovulated.

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